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OK, so last night was my first visit to a full blown orgy club.

The club I went to is very exclusive: it's invitation only, and they have weight and "looks" restrictions -- if you are overweight, underweight or dog-ugly, you are asked to leave.

There were maybe 30 - 35 couples attending last night plus a few single people. The couples were mostly in their thirties and forties, some in their fifties and beyond, as well as a sprinkling of twenty-somethings.

I did not go there to have sex with other men. I went with my main squeeze because I am a shameless exhibitionist and because I had never, EVER seen women having sex (with men or with each other) and I was curious to see it.

While most of the men were ho-hum (quite a few I'd classify as overweight despite the weight restrictions) , the women there were very good looking -- none were "perfect," but every woman had something exceptional -- a great ass, great legs, amazing knockers, pretty face, etc. etc.

Here are my conclusions about the evening:

-- Most of the hetero sex going on was BORING. Except for two or three "live wire" women, most of the females (despite their good looks) barely moved. It was like a bunch of blow up dolls lying around being pumped by slightly over-bloated men. (Sorry, but I didn't find it in the least bit titillating.)

-- Why was everyone so SILENT while they were having sex? Weird. It was like zombies having sex!!!

-- Thankfully, there was SOME interesting sex going on --

a) A body builder and his wrestler girlfriend. They were quite physical.
b) A lady in a sex swing at least looked alive and like she was enjoying herself.
c) A foursome, MFFM, were working over one of the girls, and I found that quite titillating. (She was one of the few "live wires" present)

-- There was one charming gal who was a lesbian. She didn't have sex with anyone.... this was unfortunate because I would have like to have watched.

Anyhoo, I had a nice exhibitionist time and will go again next month.

HOWEVER, the experience left me with two burning questions:

A) Is it usual or unusual for women to be so PASSIVE during hetero sex?

B) Is it normal for a "straight gal" (me) to be attracted to the women??!!
 
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OK, so last night was my first visit to a full blown orgy club.

The club I went to is very exclusive: it's invitation only, and they have weight and "looks" restrictions -- if you are overweight, underweight or dog-ugly, you are asked to leave.

There were maybe 30 - 35 couples attending last night plus a few single people. The couples were mostly in their thirties and forties, some in their fifties and beyond, as well as a sprinkling of twenty-somethings.

I did not go there to have sex with other men. I went with my main squeeze because I am a shameless exhibitionist and because I had never, EVER seen women having sex (with men or with each other) and I was curious to see it.

While most of the men were ho-hum (quite a few I'd classify as overweight despite the weight restrictions) , the women there were very good looking -- none were "perfect," but every woman had something exceptional -- a great ass, great legs, amazing knockers, pretty face, etc. etc.

Here are my conclusions about the evening:

-- Most of the hetero sex going on was BORING. Except for two or three "live wire" women, most of the females (despite their good looks) barely moved. It was like a bunch of blow up dolls lying around being pumped by slightly over-bloated men. (Sorry, but I didn't find it in the least bit titillating.)

-- Why was everyone so SILENT while they were having sex? Weird. It was like zombies having sex!!!

-- Thankfully, there was SOME interesting sex going on --

a) A body builder and his wrestler girlfriend. They were quite physical.
b) A lady in a sex swing at least looked alive and like she was enjoying herself.
c) A foursome, MFFM, were working over one of the girls, and I found that quite titillating. (She was one of the few "live wires" present)

-- There was one charming gal who was a lesbian. She didn't have sex with anyone.... this was unfortunate because I would have like to have watched.

Anyhoo, I had a nice exhibitionist time and will go again next month.

HOWEVER, the experience left me with two burning questions:

A) Is it usual or unusual for women to be so PASSIVE during hetero sex?

B) Is it normal for a "straight gal" (me) to be attracted to the women??!!
I don't like for women to be passive during sex; it ruins the vibe.
It's not only normal for a straight gal to be attracted to women; it's hot!
Where in Cali was this sex club? I've heard of them & have always been intrigued about going cuz I wouldn't mind putting on a show myself. ;)
 

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I don't like for women to be passive during sex; it ruins the vibe.
It's not only normal for a straight gal to be attracted to women; it's hot!
Where in Cali was this sex club? I've heard of them & have always been intrigued about going cuz I wouldn't mind putting on a show myself. ;)

It's in SoCal. I'm not really keen on revealing the location because I am selfish... I like to be anonymous. (Feels weird running into people from LPSG or being recognized from LPSG, which has happened several times.)

Also, single men are not allowed to go. One has to bring one's own partner (unless you are a single female).
 

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-- There was one charming gal who was a lesbian. She didn't have sex with anyone.... this was unfortunate because I would have like to have watched.

A) Is it usual or unusual for women to be so PASSIVE during hetero sex?

B) Is it normal for a "straight gal" (me) to be attracted to the women??!!

I think you're being a wee bit hard on the guys (Georgie Porgy's at the orgies) - & one good feature does not an attractive woman make.

Why didn't you get your guy to try & have a go on her, then if he was rejected, you could have explored a little smooching.

It sounds like a bloody bridge club. Some of the most boring people in the world are swingers, & then they have boring sex in front of other people. Boring people like watching boring sex, & to be honest, intimate lovemaking is great to do, but bloody boring to watch.

I'd also say that a 1st time with a new partner, added it to it being in public, might lead to a more gentler approach, a lot more boring to the eye.
 

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OK, so last night was my first visit to a full blown orgy club.

The club I went to is very exclusive: it's invitation only, and they have weight and "looks" restrictions -- if you are overweight, underweight or dog-ugly, you are asked to leave.

...

HOWEVER, the experience left me with two burning questions:

A) Is it usual or unusual for women to be so PASSIVE during hetero sex?

B) Is it normal for a "straight gal" (me) to be attracted to the women??!!

There is a reason why I prefer bi-oriented sex parties to straight/swinger oriented ones. They are much more active! Bisexual parties are generally more accepting of single men who are typically bi if they go the parties.

I've noticed that straight women tend to be more passive and less vocal during sex than bi women, and that women tend to be more passive and less vocal than men.

And, no, there is nothing wrong with a straight gal being curious about how other women express themselves sexually. I think the experience of watching others have sex is very mind-opening and very worthwhile on so many levels.

Nor is there anything wrong with a straight gal being emotionally or sexually attracted to women or curious about women. This might be the first step in exploring affections and sexual interactions with women. After a while, you may decide the "straight" label no longer applies to you. You can also decide you really are straight and that sex with women does not arouse you. What better way to find out than by direct experience?
 

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The truth is that a lot of women (and men) have sex hangups or other individual traits which make them "quiet", "bad lays" or what some may term "bad at sex".

Did you notice that the women who were louder were slightly less attractive than the other women? Curvier? Or that they had bigger boobs?

I've found that the pretty or plain girls with the big boobs are usually really fun and loud in the bedroom.

Whereas your beautiful / hot / prom queen type girls are usually timid, reserved and "horizontal-only" in bed.

As for being attracted to women...its normal to be attracted to any animal having sex. There was a study done into it and women were getting aroused watching chimps and various other animals have sex.

It doesn't mean you're gay or doesn't mean the people in that study wanted to have sex with evolutionary cousins. It just means that your biological programming is functioning as it should.

I wish I had the balls to go to a sex party.

PS know how I know you enjoyed it? There's at least one spelling mistake in your first post :p
 

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intimate lovemaking is great to do, but bloody boring to watch.

Much truth in that statement.

There's a world of difference between the kind of sex you have when it's just you and a partner, completely immersed in one another...versus the kind of exhibitionistic sex you have when you're "putting on a show."

That said, I've never been able to stand the sort of woman who didn't actively participate. To me, a woman's responsiveness to me is the key to the whole experience...without that, it feels as if we're all interchangeable figures play-acting some script.
 

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It's in SoCal. I'm not really keen on revealing the location because I am selfish... I like to be anonymous. (Feels weird running into people from LPSG or being recognized from LPSG, which has happened several times.)

Also, single men are not allowed to go. One has to bring one's own partner (unless you are a single female).
In that case, I think you should take me with you next time. ;)
 

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intimate lovemaking is great to do, but bloody boring to watch.

I've watched couples make love. It is not boring to me at all. The way they show particular aspects of their intimacy is very telling. I pay attention to the way they kiss, touch, and caress. I also note whether and how often they give one another pleasure. Some do it joyfully for the love of their partners. Others have to be asked to do it. You can learn a lot about somebody's character by watching how they treat their partners in the most intimate actions.
 
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A) Is it usual or unusual for women to be so PASSIVE during hetero sex?

Yes, it's normal. Me, with more than 100 partners, I would have had about twenty who were really active, really uninhibted, and really into sex for sex's sake. One was a middle-aged escort who owned her own legitimate business, and she was one of those rare escorts who actually do sex work because they enjoy the sex. We corresponded by email a few times before meeting up, and we wore each other out over the course of several hours. I couldn't walk properly for a couple of days afterwards. Another who sticks in my mind was someone I met at a conference a couple of years ago. She was about ten years younger than me, very attractive and her attractiveness gave her great confidence, and she clearly enjoyed raunchy sex. We really clicked in an intellectual and sensual way, driving each other harder and harder. The rest of the 20 or so were Asian girls, mostly Chinese with some Thai and Korean. Universally good to great sex partners, very uninhibited.

B) Is it normal for a "straight gal" (me) to be attracted to the women??!!

Yes, it's very normal and common. Approximately 3% of men are exclusively homosexual, and another 6% of men are either bisexual or attracted to men enough to consider bisexuality. Approximately 3% of women are exclusively homosexual, and around 40% of women are bisexual or attracted to women enough to consider bisexuality. One theory about this is that women are clearly very attractive; attractive enough to ignite desire in other women. Another theory is that in a past era, women used to communally share child-rearing and subsistence agriculture while men went away to hunt and trade. Because they spent so much time together in intimate groups, women have evolved to be bisexual.

This second theory also links to the theories as to why women are generally better at communication and language skills than men, and men are generally better at things that require high-level co-ordination, as well as abstract problem-solving, than women (successful hunting required good coordination of spear and other weapons, as well as the ability to avoid becoming the hunted or killed).

I agree with the point above that romantic sex between loving partners is a sublime experience but, clearly, would be rather boring to watch.
 

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Yes, it's very normal and common. Approximately 3% of men are exclusively homosexual, and another 6% of men are either bisexual or attracted to men enough to consider bisexuality. Approximately 3% of women are exclusively homosexual, and around 40% of women are bisexual or attracted to women enough to consider bisexuality. One theory about this is that women are clearly very attractive; attractive enough to ignite desire in other women.

Bullshit. "women are clearly very attractive" - attractiveness is highly subjective. It is very simple. Sex sells. Until recently men had a much higher spending power than women therefore sexy women were used to sell shit. The synonymity of 'woman' and 'sex' has had a big impact on what people find sexy and attractive. It is nothing to do with women being generically more attractive than men because there is no such thing.

Another theory is that in a past era, women used to communally share child-rearing and subsistence agriculture while men went away to hunt and trade. Because they spent so much time together in intimate groups, women have evolved to be bisexual.

Women have evolved to be bisexual? Utter horseshit. Citations from respected anthropology sources please or I'm going to assume that's just your fantasy.

This second theory also links to the theories as to why women are generally better at communication and language skills than men, and men are generally better at things that require high-level co-ordination, as well as abstract problem-solving, than women

Studies I've read (specifically on computer game play, though the application can be assumed to be broader) state that women and men are about on a par with each other on abstract problem solving but that women are better at pattern recognition and men have better reflexes.

You show me your source, I'll show you mine :wink:

The reason far more women than men admit to bisexual tendencies or out-right bisexuality is that bisexual behaviour is more socially acceptable in women than in men. I don't believe there is any more to it.

Whereas your beautiful / hot / prom queen type girls are usually timid, reserved and "horizontal-only" in bed.

So why are these timid, reserved types at a sex party and having sex in front of strangers... Is that typical timid, reserved behaviour?
 

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When I said timid and reserved I meant sexually.

It's possible to be timid and reserved in one aspect of life (eg sex) but also to be outgoing and "open" in another (eg work, socially etc).

So it would be possible for a sexually reserved woman to go to a sex party. Remember also that she has a partner. Lots of women will do things just for their partner / to make him happy etc.

Perhaps the women having sex were more there for their boyfriends than for themselves which might explain the dull sex they were having.

But it still doesn't change the fact that a lot of people (men and women) have a low aptitude for sex. Fun sex anyway.
 

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*OMG!

OK, so last night was my first visit to a full blown orgy club.

*lots of SMILEY FACES!!!
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"I did not go there to have sex with other men. I went with my main squeeze because I am a shameless exhibitionist and because I had never, EVER seen women having sex (with men or with each other) and I was curious to see it."

*I'm curious, too! :) What did you wear to such a thing?!!! Did you wear jeans or sexy clothes with accessories? Did anyone wear any lingerie or costumes? Did you have to undress? Was everyone totally naked? Details please!!
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"Why was everyone so SILENT while they were having sex? Weird. It was like zombies having sex!!!"

*Say it isn't so!! In SoCali?? Was this held at a private home, club, warehouse?? No great music/DJ, speciality lighting or side stage type entertainment to set the mood(s)? Poor planning on the host's part! Despicable(sp!)!!!!!!! Did you pay to get in?
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"-- b) A lady in a sex swing at least looked alive and like she was enjoying herself."

* DAMN WOMAN!! DETAILS, DETAILS! Did the swing spin 360 degrees? WAS THE GUY FUN TO WATCH? Was he adept with the...ah...swing?
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"-- There was one charming gal who was a lesbian. She didn't have sex with anyone.... this was unfortunate because I would have like to have watched."

*Maybe she'll be there next month? :)
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"Anyhoo, I had a nice exhibitionist time and will go again next month."

*Hahaha! Well if I didn't laugh almost everytime I read one of your posts, I would not like you anymore. Call me shallow or jealous or bitchy. Whatever!
Can you take a camera next time? :)
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Your description does not even come close to what I thought a party like this would, could or should be! Especially on the West Coast! I wonder if they are all like this? So sad! And to think of all the wasted talent out there in the decimated special events industry who desperatly need work. Gdmit!!

Anyhoo, I do look forward to reading the DETAILS of your next visit. :)
 

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NotPunny, you're a lot more adventurous than me, Darling! I would have not only been so nervous but terribly self-conscious going to a club like that. I can't even handle a nude beach well. Guess I'm not much of an exhibitionist or voyeur.

As for your questions, well, silent sex must be something for nuns, because I've never experienced it! And as for being interested in other women, well, there is a little spark of curiosity in that dark corner that I rarely go near.
 

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Silent? I can't orgasm if I'm quiet. It just won't happen. You have to put a hand over my mouth to muffle me if we need to be quiet.

I don't move a lot if he's in the driver's seat, but my favorite positions are with me on top, and that's definitely not passive. I really wouldn't know how other women do it.
 
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OK, so last night was my first visit to a full blown orgy club.

The club I went to is very exclusive: it's invitation only, and they have weight and "looks" restrictions -- if you are overweight, underweight or dog-ugly, you are asked to leave.

There were maybe 30 - 35 couples attending last night plus a few single people. The couples were mostly in their thirties and forties, some in their fifties and beyond, as well as a sprinkling of twenty-somethings.

I did not go there to have sex with other men. I went with my main squeeze because I am a shameless exhibitionist and because I had never, EVER seen women having sex (with men or with each other) and I was curious to see it.

While most of the men were ho-hum (quite a few I'd classify as overweight despite the weight restrictions) , the women there were very good looking -- none were "perfect," but every woman had something exceptional -- a great ass, great legs, amazing knockers, pretty face, etc. etc.

Here are my conclusions about the evening:

-- Most of the hetero sex going on was BORING. Except for two or three "live wire" women, most of the females (despite their good looks) barely moved. It was like a bunch of blow up dolls lying around being pumped by slightly over-bloated men. (Sorry, but I didn't find it in the least bit titillating.)

-- Why was everyone so SILENT while they were having sex? Weird. It was like zombies having sex!!!

-- Thankfully, there was SOME interesting sex going on --

a) A body builder and his wrestler girlfriend. They were quite physical.
b) A lady in a sex swing at least looked alive and like she was enjoying herself.
c) A foursome, MFFM, were working over one of the girls, and I found that quite titillating. (She was one of the few "live wires" present)

-- There was one charming gal who was a lesbian. She didn't have sex with anyone.... this was unfortunate because I would have like to have watched.

Anyhoo, I had a nice exhibitionist time and will go again next month.

HOWEVER, the experience left me with two burning questions:

A) Is it usual or unusual for women to be so PASSIVE during hetero sex?

B) Is it normal for a "straight gal" (me) to be attracted to the women??!!
I have a question: Were there any couples of color present? Were they all white? Majority white?
 
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