1. B_Big_and_Proud

    B_Big_and_Proud New Member

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    okey so here's the problem, After more or less than 3 years without being in a relashonship i have finally met this girl, and now we are going to make 5month together, I really like this girl alot, she is just perfect for me,
    we had never had sex, we are taking thing very slowly, step by step,
    Here is the problem, during the first month together i had cheated on her with this 50year old lady, i didnt mind, i said to myself and i know this is a big lady so she would keep it between us, Still i felt guilty, cause i don't want her to do the same thing to me, although i know she would not, however yesterday we went to this birthday party,around 1o clock this mornin her father came looking for her, imidiatly a girl who i had fuck once, came and sat next to me, she ask me if she could get a ride home, and i was like where the hell u living again, she said to me, that she would love to remind me where. i started to get a hard on,but managed to control, we went to the car and on the way, i was having thought on how we had fuck once, and started getin hard, so i took she hand and placed on my cock, first word was Oh my God:O make story short we went somewhere and i fucked her, her pussy was soo tight yet went i penetrate was soo wet i could take it but cum in like less than 5minutes, the sad thing was, i could stop thinking on my gf, i was feeling bad, but couldnt stop, i wanted tho, i did NOT enjoy it self:( i regret in a way, i really want to be faithfull, but im having a really hard time:( do i need to seek therapy or something? Should i start going christian activitys?
     
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    Christianity is the last thing that would help you, brother. Hahahaha, if you confused about your desires, the church stands only to increase your guilt and spin you in the wrong direction. Your best bet is to come clean to your girlfriend and accept that she may leave you. Be a man...after all you chose this. You knew what you were doing buddy.
     
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    Or maybe you aren't ready for commitment yet?
     
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    You don't have to tell her the truth but what I would advise is that you are not material for a steady relationship yet because you don't know if you can resist the temptations that are out there.

    That way you have come clean without having her lose trust in people, and she will either leave you OR agree with an open relationship and you get to fuck anyone you want.
     
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    Big and Proud, your in a tough position. It seems like you really like your girlfriend, even to the point that you two are moving slow and you have refrained from having sex with her, which means you see something special in her. Your sexual escapades on the side are only going to hurt what you two are building. Christianity will indeed help you, the knowlegde is beyond what any person can come up with...I wish you luck with whatever actions you decide to take next brother.
    PS: I'm praying for you AngelComa
     
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    You are definitely not ready to be in a monogamous relationship.
     
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    Your sexual urges and desires for other women are quite normal and natural. However, monogamy is a DECISION. You have to want it and be ready to commit to it. If you really feel that this girl is perfect for you, you'll have to sort your feelings out and decide how to protect this relationship, even if it means having to resort to religion or therapy to help you focus on your relationship with her. You just have to weigh the pros and cons between being with her and continuing your flings on the side. Sacrifices are sometimes worth it, especially if it's going to bring you long term happiness. Happy relationships come from making the best decisions you can all the time. I wish you all the best man!
     
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    He's not in a monogamous relationship, he's in a celibate relationship. I couldn't imagine going 5 months without sex.
     
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    Is this OP joking? His post does not make any sense. I call bullish**!
     
  10. B_Big_and_Proud

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    thnx man, well i got over it that ive messed up, but did not tell her tho.
    but yeah im trying to avoid anything that might come my way,.
     
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    Cece u have encourage me big time here. Will make the best of it,and make the right dicishons.
     
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