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How does everyone feel about a wandering eye ? If you were in a committed relationship. Would you be hurt by your partner checking someone else out ? How would it affect your relationship ? I'm curious to know if anyone has experienced this in their relationships.
 
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Totally agree! I’ve been married for over 20 years and still check out the scenery! Wife knows it and is fine as long as I come home to fuck her! I find it kind of a turn on to know she’s looking at others cock bulges and women but same rules for her! Totally find! I think if there is a problem then your not in a trusting commitment relationship.
 

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People marry, and, stay married for a variety of reasons. For many, that reason is LOVE. For others, it is FINANCIAL SECURITY - that includes the gold diggers. Still others marry so that they can immigrate to a country of their choice. Often, after some time, the sex dies. The eye may then wander, or not. Before judging, walk a mile in someone's shoes. Your perspective may change.
 

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People marry, and, stay married for a variety of reasons. For many, that reason is LOVE. For others, it is FINANCIAL SECURITY - that includes the gold diggers. Still others marry so that they can immigrate to a country of their choice. Often, after some time, the sex dies. The eye may then wander, or not. Before judging, walk a mile in someone's shoes. Your perspective may change.

I wasn't trying to judge anyone. I have always been curious to what other people feel about it.
 

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My gf is a crotch watcher. That;s how we finally hooked up. And I'm a crotch watcher too and that includes hot chicks as well as guys displaying their cocks. When when a chick is in skintight jeans or leggings or on the beach, I'm always watching for a camel toe. It's just acting naturally
 
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How does everyone feel about a wandering eye ? If you were in a committed relationship. Would you be hurt by your partner checking someone else out ? How would it affect your relationship ? I'm curious to know if anyone has experienced this in their relationships.
This is all personal, so it's different from one person to another. Some found it acceptable as long as "look but no touch" while other completely not able to accept being not the "center" of someone's attention.
I'm a natural observant, I looked and checked out others, not just all in a sexual ways. I would not be able to deal with someone "insecurity/jealousy". It's a relationship killer, soon or later.
 

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For some partners, a wandering eye is damaging to their own self esteem. I think it is important that if you love someone, you listen to them express their feelings. And then hopefully reach a compromise. Perhaps that is allowing your eye to wander only when the partner is not present or perhaps ensuring that you do things or offer compliments to your partner if their self esteem is affected by your wandering eye. My partner and I are fine with one another checking out another guy, but we are both successful and highly confident men. If I thought it made my partner insecure or truly hurt him, I would alter my behavior and talk to my partner about it. As it is, we generally “share” the spotting of guys. I can certainly understand where stay at home spouses who have aged and not developed a lot of self confidence would sometimes feel threatened by a guy looking at a woman half the spouse’s age. Not caring about your spouse or partner’s insecurities does not sound like a loving relationship to me.

I hope that I didn’t offend any of our female members or sound sexist!
 

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This is all personal, so it's different from one person to another. Some found it acceptable as long as "look but no touch" while other completely not able to accept being not the "center" of someone's attention.
I'm a natural observant, I looked and checked out others, not just all in a sexual ways. I would not be able to deal with someone "insecurity/jealousy". It's a relationship killer, soon or later.

Do you feel like you you're missing something that your partner can't provide or do you feel like you're missing out on something when you're checking out others ?
 
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I don't have an issue with it so long as not all the time or when its supposed to be 'us' time - out for dinner or the like - but otherwise, going for a coffee to people watch, or in a club, on the street, at a beach, if my other half checks someone out I'll look to and we'll chat about it. Rather it done openly/discreetly than hidden - but then I believe in honesty in a relationship. My partner gets a bit more jealous if I comment on a guys ass/physique as i'm far more into those than his crotch area.
 
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Do you feel like you you're missing something that your partner can't provide or do you feel like you're missing out on something when you're checking out others ?
I've always been a "people watcher", just my ways of see who are around me. Not all are sexual things. For some are into showing off, I'm the observant.
 
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I very much cant help myself, when I am with my partner, I try to be discrete, but he does it too, much less than me, but I sometimes ask him about who turns him on, who he fantasizes about and things like that, he is so shy to say, but he will tell me now and I am glad he opens up about it, and has a slutty side like me
 
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