What's your favorite sex position as a bottom?

[briacon429]

I don't think it's the tops fault tbh... I mean, it's not like he can see inside. I don't know... It always hurts with all tops, I don't think all of them are that dumb sexually hehe...

But yes, I guess it's training?

I’m sorry to hear it dude. But yes, training may be an issue: both for your top(s) and for your ass.

For me personally, my hole tends to cramp up when a guy first goes in, though it relaxes after a few seconds. I found that if I used a dildo or vibrator beforehand, I could condition my ass to avoid the worst of the cramping. Or at least I can get it out of the way when I’m by myself, so it doesn’t hurt when we’re in the moment.

It sounds like you might’ve already tried some technique, but wanted to share what works for me, for whatever that’s worth!

 

[tito21]

On my stomach with his full weight on top of me, his arms on my arms, legs on my legs.

The dead starfish press.. I see..

 

[Bunny35]

Missionary is my favourite as I get to feel the top balls deep and being able to see his face as he cums in me is hot. If its a rough and hard affair, face down with his weight on top of me is also good!

 

[GS_PL]

I love my top to be fucking me facing the other way where I can see his ass in front of my face while I'm getting fucked. This is ecstasy.

 

[tito21]

I love my top to be fucking me facing the other way where I can see his ass in front of my face while I'm getting fucked. This is ecstasy.

Whichever way and position he wants. Just as long that I can see his BIG wallet on the dresser or floor. Gotta keep one of my eyes on the prize and the other on the top ( in case he wants to pull some funny business like shank me). Doesn’t matter if he’s banging me from behind me, i can roll one eye backward.

 

[MLguy]

I love my top to be fucking me facing the other way where I can see his ass in front of my face while I'm getting fucked. This is ecstasy.

Can you explain how this would work? For some reason I just can't figure it out.

 

[Pagebike]

I like missionary with a pillow under my butt to improve the thrust angle.

 

[dikje1]

I love my top to be fucking me facing the other way where I can see his ass in front of my face while I'm getting fucked. This is ecstasy.

This sounds different but I am having difficulty imagining the positions. Would you be able to go into a bit more detail, please? Asking for a friend ;-)

 

[Diarmuid88]

Missionary, doggy, anything that allows him to plow me deep

 

[Beanie]

I don't think it's the tops fault tbh... I mean, it's not like he can see inside. I don't know... It always hurts with all tops, I don't think all of them are that dumb sexually hehe...

But yes, I guess it's training?

Well unless your anatomy is quite a lot different in that area then yeah it must be “training” for want of a better word. Does it happen with all tops cocks, large or small, thick or not so?

also, if you use them, does it happen with any toys that you use or not because you have control? And, again does it matter what the size of the toy is?

 

[Beanie]

This sounds different but I am having difficulty imagining the positions. Would you be able to go into a bit more detail, please? Asking for a friend ;-)

Yeah same here, I don’t get how that’s possible if he’s fucking you and you’re able to see his arse? Are there mirrors involved…?

 

[Beanie]

Missionary is my favourite as I get to feel the top balls deep and being able to see his face as he cums in me is hot. If its a rough and hard affair, face down with his weight on top of me is also good!

I love seeing a guys face as he cums in me

 

[Beanie]

Whichever way and position he wants. Just as long that I can see his BIG wallet on the dresser or floor. Gotta keep one of my eyes on the prize and the other on the top ( in case he wants to pull some funny business like shank me). Doesn’t matter if he’s banging me from behind me, i can roll one eye backward.

That’s a cynical view?? Although I hope it’s cynicism rather than experience…

 

[canadian_guy486]

I don't think it's the tops fault tbh... I mean, it's not like he can see inside. I don't know... It always hurts with all tops, I don't think all of them are that dumb sexually hehe...

But yes, I guess it's training?

Does the discomfort happen with all sizes? Or just really big dicks? I definitely prefer the shorter thicker types than super long. But missionary and riding on top are my fave positions to be in. Have you tried using a dildo on yourself for practice? I remember when I first started bottoming, it felt like no position felt good for me. Didn’t matter what we tried it always felt uncomfortable in some way. I decided to get a dildo so that I could practice on myself without the added pressure of a top just wanting to rail me. Beat decision I ever made. I was able to go at my own pace and figure out what felt good for me, what positions felt the best, how much lube I needed, how deep I liked it, etc. So now when I have a real dick inside me, I can dictate and control what needs to be done to make me feel good based on what I learned. A bottom’s needs come first before the top. (Sorry tops….but not really lol)

 

[Hyoren]

Well unless your anatomy is quite a lot different in that area then yeah it must be “training” for want of a better word. Does it happen with all tops cocks, large or small, thick or not so?

also, if you use them, does it happen with any toys that you use or not because you have control? And, again does it matter what the size of the toy is?

All sizes, although long ones tend to hurt more.

 

[Hyoren]

Does the discomfort happen with all sizes? Or just really big dicks? I definitely prefer the shorter thicker types than super long. But missionary and riding on top are my fave positions to be in. Have you tried using a dildo on yourself for practice? I remember when I first started bottoming, it felt like no position felt good for me. Didn’t matter what we tried it always felt uncomfortable in some way. I decided to get a dildo so that I could practice on myself without the added pressure of a top just wanting to rail me. Beat decision I ever made. I was able to go at my own pace and figure out what felt good for me, what positions felt the best, how much lube I needed, how deep I liked it, etc. So now when I have a real dick inside me, I can dictate and control what needs to be done to make me feel good based on what I learned. A bottom’s needs come first before the top. (Sorry tops….but not really lol)

all sizes, long ones are the worst for me. I also prefer thicker and shorter tbh.

I don't like dildos, but I guess I will have to use them in order to get used to that position. (also, I always use a lot of lube, the less friction, the less painful)

But honestly, I have never, EVER felt the pleasure people talk about when bottoming... nothing at all. I like bottoming, it's about the guy inside me and controlling, but actual sexual pleasure? 0

 

[Averagebidad]

I tend to prefer doggy style missionary occasionally as well as riding

 

[Beanie]

All sizes, although long ones tend to hurt more.

From what you’ve said I think it’s your inner sphincter muscles are clenching hard involuntarily causing the pain. Question; have your tops ever mentioned anything about it? About hitting a wall or not feeling like they can get all the way in?

I think if I’m right you are going to benefit from a partner you have a close bond with and trust, LOTS of foreplay and maybe a hit of poppers to help you along the way.

Have you ever thought about or used butt plugs or an anal training kit? I think you would definitely benefit from their use and get your body used to something being there and it being pleasurable instead of what’s happening now.

 

[canadian_guy486]

all sizes, long ones are the worst for me. I also prefer thicker and shorter tbh.

I don't like dildos, but I guess I will have to use them in order to get used to that position. (also, I always use a lot of lube, the less friction, the less painful)

But honestly, I have never, EVER felt the pleasure people talk about when bottoming... nothing at all. I like bottoming, it's about the guy inside me and controlling, but actual sexual pleasure? 0

Hmm, it’s possible maybe you’re just not a bottom? Bottoming isn’t for everyone. Doesn’t mean you still can’t get sexual pleasure down there. You can have your sex partner finger you, rim you, etc. How long have you been bottoming? I know I didn’t like it at all when I first started. It just never felt good to me. But then I started using the dildo and it was a complete game changer. If it still doesn’t feel right to you, then you may just have to accept being a top. It sucks, but there’s nothing wrong with that. Sex should feel good and be enjoyable, not painful. Hopefully you can find something that works for you!

 

[Hyoren]

From what you’ve said I think it’s your inner sphincter muscles are clenching hard involuntarily causing the pain. Question; have your tops ever mentioned anything about it? About hitting a wall or not feeling like they can get all the way in?

I think if I’m right you are going to benefit from a partner you have a close bond with and trust, LOTS of foreplay and maybe a hit of poppers to help you along the way.

Have you ever thought about or used butt plugs or an anal training kit? I think you would definitely benefit from their use and get your body used to something being there and it being pleasurable instead of what’s happening now.

No complains from them, they can go all in, it's just very painful on my side. I have a dildo, but I don't really like toys tbh...