When She Approaches You First

[Tattooed Goddess]

What do men think when a woman takes the initiative to ask them out? Do you prefer to be the one to bring it up? Because I've asked out half the guys I've dated I never thought how he might feel about it. Discuss.

 

[Obelisk8]

I don't have a lot of experience in this arena, but I'm very much comfortable with women taking the lead. I only want relationships on an equal footing, and a woman asking me out makes it clear that she's interested in not taking a back seat. On the other hand, if I'm the one bringing it up that's ok too, but I feel I have to be a bit more careful to make sure the relationship doesn't rely too much on my driving it. Fortunately, I tend to be attracted to pretty strong-willed women and so this isn't a problem!

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

I'm not shy about it at all. I'll ask you certain questions or say "how does your significant other feel about that?" That's when they will let me know if they are available. I give compliments on appearance and intellect. Once his eyes glaze over. I go in for the kill. My success with it is why I continue to do it.

 

[twoton]

I’d say that about half the times I’ve been out the woman has initiated it. And that would include basic sexual propositions. I’m equal opportunity that way.

 

[palakaorion]

I'm down.

I was married for 32 years before being widowed 4 years ago. I have zero game.

 

[ronin001]

Hard to answer that question, because it depends on the circumstances and who makes the offer

I believe that anyone can go out with anyone platonically. I have attended dinners / weddings / functions with women who needed a date. I have gone to concerts / movies and events with women who have invited me. no problem. But if the offer / first move is an offer for a real date; or sex. I need to have some attraction / interest to the lady. .

But to answer the OP / M.R/ T.G If it were you asking the question, I would say heck yes, before you could say " would you like >>>"

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

Ronin, I'd smother you in my tits until you're begging for air.

 

[ronin001]

Ronin, I'd smother you in my tits until you're begging for air.

Lady, you just made my day

 

[Leobakker]

What do men think when a woman takes the initiative to ask them out? Do you prefer to be the one to bring it up? Because I've asked out half the guys I've dated I never thought how he might feel about it. Discuss.

Yes! Why not?!
No problem for me.
I would even feel honored, I think...

 

[thick_]

Never bothered me, i actually enjoyed it, wish it happened more.

 

[1079855]

I wouldn't mind if a young and pretty lady approached me. Me being able to reconize that she is trying to show interest in me is another story.

 

[biefstuk]

I prefer it.

Whether it's a direct approach or an indirect approach, where the woman conveys in some way that she wants me to ask her out, it shows me a lot about her and how she feels about herself.

In my opinion, it takes a confident, self assured woman to put herself forward like that and those qualities are very attractive to me.

I've also found that they're much more likely to be honest and genuine by nature, which again is very attractive. I'm not into drama.

It also means I'll open up more quickly to her as, in most cases, women get many offers and she's chosen to decline those offers and pick me. No need for games, which I'm no good at and not interested in anyway, as the lines of communication are open from the start.

I know some guys don't like it because of the 'thrill of the chase'. For me that's a game I have no interest in playing. The thrill of love and sex beats the thrill of the chase any day.

 

[554279]

Depends completely on the whole person. I am fine with it and see no problem

 

[palakaorion]

Amending my previous reply: interest and pursuit is flattering and welcome; stalking and desperation is creepy af.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

Amending my previous reply: interest and pursuit is flattering and welcome; stalking and desperation is creepy af.

So guys have to deal with women being creepers?

 

[palakaorion]

So guys have to deal with women being creepers?

creeping is gender neutral

 

[1079855]

There is such a thing as female creepers? I've been to as a refer a creeper. It's heart breaking.

 

[1139089]

I wished most women had more initiative actually. I guess I can use the word "most" here.

I love being asked out. I find it sexy, cool and it shows me the girl is confident.

 

[insert_8]

What do men think when a woman takes the initiative to ask them out? Do you prefer to be the one to bring it up? Because I've asked out half the guys I've dated I never thought how he might feel about it. Discuss.

I have loved two women in my lifetime, including my wife of almost 45 years. In neither of those cases did I truly initiate the contact.

 

[HorseHung40's]

Like anything else, men will have a range of emotions on this from feeling flattered to emasculated. Reactions will be personal. I have been asked out by women while I was single, and, was flattered. Now that I am happily married, I state so if a woman starts becoming overly personal.