Why are bisexual guys so

[englad]

my bf and i are both bi, i am a bottom and he is a top

I said most of the ones I've met are bottoms, he was suggesting they're all tops.

 

[latinluva]

When it comes to men...I like masculinity, hairy, tops. No fems for me. When I wanna fuck, I like soft sensitive sexy women.

 

[kayman]

Uh, huh! I have a hard time believing that one....

 

[longskin]

We are???

Exactly just where are these gay men and why are they not banging down my door?? I'm a top, ya know! :biggrin1:
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Mate - if I was anywhere close to Texas I'd be banging down your door for sure - sorry I'm a little off topic with this comment :wink:

 

[deleted385913]

We are? I thought gays kinda hated bisexual guys. Usually, the gay guys I meet try to convince me that bisexuals don't even exist.

Hahahahha, same here!

 

[933295]

Perhaps it's as we're generally less camp and more straight acting? Like I find most guys who sleep with me say the like the fact the fact I'm just a standard lad like, beer and rugby watching. furthermore I've find straight guys are more open with me, think they find it less gay to jack off with a bi guy due to the fact we still like women. haha. Can watch straight porn, they can cover bi curious intrests as a banter as like 'we're not like real gays, still like women, so it's not gay is it?' haha

I agree with artemis91 generally. I don't think it's just campy behavior with gay guys that confuses us bi males. It's also a certain kind of affectation that some gay guys adopt that makes me feel uncomfortable. But I also have to say that it's my own issue too. Lots of guys of any orientation like more effeminate gay guys sexually. I'm not one of them though. I also have trusting relationships with some straight guys so they know the last thing I would ever do is hurt or harm them. After all I think they're beautiful and want to make them happy and fulfilled physically and emotionally.

 

[Black_Frost]

Eh. I've known a lot of gay men who weren't effeminate at all. My personal experience is that while, yes, there are obviously effeminate guys who are gay, it's not pervasive in the subculture. Especially as gay folk have been more accepted into the mainstream. I certainly haven't noticed that bisexual guys are any less effeminate (nor moreso for that matter.)

I suppose it's just a matter of what an individual person likes. For some folks, having sex with a man who's at least to some degree hetrerosexual is a major turn on, because of the myth that hetero men are somehow more masculine than gay men.

Personally, while I'm not sexually attracted to effeminate men (I'm bi, and if I want femininity, personally, I'd rather seek it from women,) they can be one helluva lot of fun to be around and party with. And while I'm very glad we've a better handle on AIDS than we did years ago, I do miss the rollicking good times to be had watching and interacting with all the drag queens at the benefits.

As they learned at Stonewall: One underestimates a queen at one's peril. A drag queen, doubly so.

 

[Pumpme]

As a bi male, I wish a gay top would approach me since I am so attractive to them.... so the OP says. My ass is ready anytime, not even overweight,...come and get it.

 

[1345864]

As a bisexual, 99% of those who have hit on me or expressed interest in me have been men.