Wife And I Exploring Mmf

[MaydayDick]

tl;dr at bottom!

So a little back story, my wife and I have been together for going on 7 years and married for 3. She is 29 (f), I’m 30 (m). Our sex life is relatively vanilla, she’s a little on the reserved side. I have had a fantasy of a mmf threesome for a very long time that she knows about.

Fast forward, a marriage and a kid later, the subject of a threesome with another guy has arose. We downloaded an app and have been trying to get her more comfortable with the whole situation. IE flirting with another guy, etc. Getting more comfortable with the idea of inviting someone into the bedroom. Recently we found a guy she has a physical attraction to. We’ve conversed with him but it seems as though I’m driving the boat when I would really like her to try and get more involved/comfortable.

Tonight for the first time ever I asked if we could talk about the guy we were talking to while we had sex. She obliged, and it instantly turned me on like crazy. I was saying different things about him and she was responding and gave some input as well. I asked her “what do you want Adam to do to you?” And she responded “fuck me”. We were both enjoying it seemed. After, we showered together, she said she did feel a little uncomfortable with the talking about another guy while we fucked. I suppose being the first time ever, it was a little weird. Any advice to make it a little more hot for her?

This is an exciting turn for us. I thanked her and expressed to her how it turned me on like crazy. I’m really hoping to be able to continue down this road and make my fantasy reality. Will definitely update if anyone cares!

Tl;dr

Wife and I are talking about a mmf threesome, talking to a guy that I asked to bring up during sex tonight. She is a little uncomfortable with the whole situation her being on the more reserved sexual side. Any advice to help her get a little more comfortable?

 

[halcyondays]

Fast forward, a marriage and a kid later, the subject of a threesome with another guy has arose.

Did she bring it up or you?

 

[swingfun]

It sounds to me like this is more your idea than hers. I really don't know a way to make her more interested. In our situation of being swingers it was just casually mentioned and the wife got her interest piqued. It took off from there. She maybe half heartedly agreeing to just make you happy. If thats the case this should maybe just remain a fantasy.

 

[crtbike]

I would love to me the guy that the couple invited into the bedroom for the MMF. I have never had a MMF but would love to,

 

[MaydayDick]

It sounds to me like this is more your idea than hers. I really don't know a way to make her more interested. In our situation of being swingers it was just casually mentioned and the wife got her interest piqued. It took off from there. She maybe half heartedly agreeing to just make you happy. If thats the case this should maybe just remain a fantasy.

It very much is a fantasy of mine, we had a long in depth conversation before starting to look for someone. She wants to do it because she knows I want to do it. If that makes sense. I would never force something that she didn’t convince me she would be ok in trying

 

[swingfun]

Well then maybe shes just shy and a little unsure. One step at a time then.

 

[1276159]

My ex wanted to but I never did it with him. I’ve done it since we were separated. Seemed easier without being in a relationship with one of them.

 

[MaydayDick]

My ex wanted to but I never did it with him. I’ve done it since we were separated. Seemed easier without being in a relationship with one of them.

What would have made it easier while with him, if you could think of anything?

 

[5158631]

Based on experience, I’d let her play with another guy first. Without you. Let her explore the idea of of other guys first and then expand from there. DM me if you want additional advice. Wife and I have been in the life for about 5 years.

 

[aprg1]

In my experience, you are treading on some thin ice. If both parties aren't 100% on board, it simply won't work. My advice to you? Back off a bit. She knows you are interested...let her convince herself. If for a second she feels pressured, it won't work and you will be risking your marriage. I met with a couple once - it was evident from the start that she was only doing it for him. When he excused himself to go to the washroom I asked her point blank and she confirmed that. When he came back I apologized, said I wasn't "feeling it" and left. She later sent me a text thanking me. So..what you might want to say to her is this, "I want this, but only if you do too. Our marriage and your happiness is way more important than this fantasy. I'm going to back off, but if you ever want to talk about it or take it further, just know I'm all in, but the ball is totally in your court." Let her get comfortable with it. It's really the only chance you have to get what you want AND maintain a strong relationship.

 

[G.man]

I’ve recently started talking to my husband about fantasies, including a threesome. But I’m introducing them by making it clear that I’m happy to just talk about them. That talking about a fantasy can be fun without having to think about all the real life consequences (especially when it involves a third party). I’ve also said if it were to happen, I’d prefer it to be on holiday so it was someone we’d never have to see again if things didn’t go well.
Friends do ours have had a threesome with someone they see on a regular basis and he’s now trying to take things further. It’s becoming a bit awkward.

 

[ronin001]

Just be carefull, often the fantasy is more something the male in the relationship wants; and the wife obliges often reluctantly

I have seen many of these, at least as reported here on LPSG as being 50 / 50 in success. Some times the wife, feels she is the 3rd wheel ; and the husband is acting out his M/M fantasies. / Guy with my wife fantasy. Then again some of these situations work out well .

Hope for the best; but be prepared for the worst

 

[stustu]

Are you prepared, this arrangement might end your marriage?

 

[needtonut]

In my experience, you are treading on some thin ice. If both parties aren't 100% on board, it simply won't work. My advice to you? Back off a bit. She knows you are interested...let her convince herself. If for a second she feels pressured, it won't work and you will be risking your marriage. I met with a couple once - it was evident from the start that she was only doing it for him. When he excused himself to go to the washroom I asked her point blank and she confirmed that. When he came back I apologized, said I wasn't "feeling it" and left. She later sent me a text thanking me. So..what you might want to say to her is this, "I want this, but only if you do too. Our marriage and your happiness is way more important than this fantasy. I'm going to back off, but if you ever want to talk about it or take it further, just know I'm all in, but the ball is totally in your court." Let her get comfortable with it. It's really the only chance you have to get what you want AND maintain a strong relationship.

Perfect excellent advice

 

[Girthy99]

My wife and I are kinda doing the same as you. We have talked and play out threesomes with a dildo. It’s hot talking to her about other guys. We watch a lot of couples with another guy porn. If you want to chat send me a message.

 

[aprg1]

My wife and I are kinda doing the same as you. We have talked and play out threesomes with a dildo. It’s hot talking to her about other guys. We watch a lot of couples with another guy porn. If you want to chat send me a message.

That is, in my experience, the best way to make it happen, if you truly want it to. Sometimes it's the wife that wants it, but usually it's the husband. But the non-negotiable needs to be that both partners are on board. When I've been invited to join a couple, I'm way more interested in how they get along then how they look. I say every time, I'm not here to fix a struggling relationship - I'm here to make a good one better.

 

[Cut9801]

I did a lot of time an MMF with my friend's gf...she has a great sex power!

 

[halcyondays]

It's like goldilocks. When the hubby wants it the wife is reluctant. When the wife wants it the hubby is jealous. When they both want it it's juuuust right!

 

[MaydayDick]

Yeah we talked about it again and we’re going to take it very slow. Leave the seed to grow, and maybe we’ll do it one day. No rush. Maybe one day I’ll live out the fantasy lol

 

[wellhunguk]

tl;dr at bottom!

So a little back story, my wife and I have been together for going on 7 years and married for 3. She is 29 (f), I’m 30 (m). Our sex life is relatively vanilla, she’s a little on the reserved side. I have had a fantasy of a mmf threesome for a very long time that she knows about.

Fast forward, a marriage and a kid later, the subject of a threesome with another guy has arose. We downloaded an app and have been trying to get her more comfortable with the whole situation. IE flirting with another guy, etc. Getting more comfortable with the idea of inviting someone into the bedroom. Recently we found a guy she has a physical attraction to. We’ve conversed with him but it seems as though I’m driving the boat when I would really like her to try and get more involved/comfortable.

Tonight for the first time ever I asked if we could talk about the guy we were talking to while we had sex. She obliged, and it instantly turned me on like crazy. I was saying different things about him and she was responding and gave some input as well. I asked her “what do you want Adam to do to you?” And she responded “fuck me”. We were both enjoying it seemed. After, we showered together, she said she did feel a little uncomfortable with the talking about another guy while we fucked. I suppose being the first time ever, it was a little weird. Any advice to make it a little more hot for her?

This is an exciting turn for us. I thanked her and expressed to her how it turned me on like crazy. I’m really hoping to be able to continue down this road and make my fantasy reality. Will definitely update if anyone cares!

Tl;dr

Wife and I are talking about a mmf threesome, talking to a guy that I asked to bring up during sex tonight. She is a little uncomfortable with the whole situation her being on the more reserved sexual side. Any advice to help her get a little more comfortable?

I like the idea of doing this with a bigger guy. (I'm 8 x 6), but I think it's more my fantasy than one my GF would be into.

Sounds like your wife isn't that into it.