Hi guys I have a question. Hoping I can get some input here. So this guy my wife works with sent the pic attached to my wife. He said his boss was on him all day and this is how he felt. What do u think of a guy at work sending something like this to your wife. It is an office setting. I am not ok with it and told her. She doesnt seem to think it was that bad and said it wasent directed at her. Maybe not but why is a guy at work talking like this with my wife.
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Since she doesn’t have an issue with it, let it go.
She showed you the picture thinking it was funny or amusing or humorous, but certainly not offensive.
If you overreact about it, she may not show you the next one.
She showed you the picture thinking it was funny or amusing or humorous, but certainly not offensive.
If you overreact about it, she may not show you the next one.
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I agree with @OKCLane, let it go. It makes you seem a little insecure that it bothers you when it doesn't bother her. Don't make a mountain out of a mole hill. Let it go.
She never show me it. It popped up on her phone when it was on the table in front of me. She acted like it was nothing
It was totally inappropriate, but I think it's not a big deal to your wife, so you should let it go. He probably didn't mean anything by it, just thought he was being funny,cand clearly your wife didn't feel it was anything but.
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you're getting all frazzled over that? my wife gets crazier shit and i could care less. i give zero fucks. your insecurity about it speaks volume to your character.
the reality-truth is that at any moment, our partners could be getting fucked by other people and we wouldn't know jack about it. all you can really do is trust in your partner and continue to focus on yourself in making you the best you can be. if you can't trust your partner then it's gonna be game over soon.
let it go...
the reality-truth is that at any moment, our partners could be getting fucked by other people and we wouldn't know jack about it. all you can really do is trust in your partner and continue to focus on yourself in making you the best you can be. if you can't trust your partner then it's gonna be game over soon.
let it go...
Lol my character. You dont even know me and u bring my character into this. It was a question. I am the least insecure guy you would know. I just think at work things should be kept professional. After all it is a work place. This guy continues to message her and he was fired on Tuesday. She says she doesnt even reply to him yet he keeps trying to talk to her about what's going on in his life. She has only known him the six months he has worked where she works. I seen some of the messages he talks to her like you would your wife about all your everyday problems.
Have a female coworker share something sketchy with you and guage her reaction to it..if she's cool drop the issue, if not there's a problem.
Marriedasian pretty much nailed it, whole post and follow ups all scream of insecurity. First this is some guy your wife works with, now its some guy who was fired on tuesday? not to mention she didn't show you....just happened to pop up on her phone while it was in front of you and you've seen previous texts between them, sounds like snooping due to insecurity to me followed by over reaction. If she doesn't find anything wrong with it, drop it and get over it.
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Probably didn't show you because she knew you'd get upset by it.
Whether it's o.k. to send depends a lot on their relationship. I have male and female friends at work who I'm sure have sent stuff like that to each other.
One thing, letting her see you upset pretty much ensures that she's not going to share that stuff with you next time it happens.
Was he fired on Tuesday? He's still messaging her after he was fired? That could be that he's upset about being fired and is trying to cope. Who knows?
Lol. Ya he did work with her and was fired on Tuesday. Is that a problem for you? Move on little man it was a question not insecure about anything.
First I am not upset. What I said was I didnt think it was appropriate for him to be sending this stuff. Yes he was fired on Tuesday which I just found out the other day. The guy is married I would think if he was trying to cope he should be talking to his wife. My wife has never even met this guy in person. She works out of her office at home and he works at the office at work. She knows him from working on the same project and thats all. So its not like they are friends. Thats why I think he is a bit weird because he doesnt really even know her other then through work emails and a few work phone calls.
I think we’re beating a dead horse here.
It’s exceedingly simple to block a number these days. Is she keeping in touch for networking reasons? Plausible.
In any event, she gets to draw the line for inappropriate or unprofessional behavior.
It’s exceedingly simple to block a number these days. Is she keeping in touch for networking reasons? Plausible.
In any event, she gets to draw the line for inappropriate or unprofessional behavior.
She says she hasent been replying to him yet he keeps messaging her. She does not need to keep in touch for net working as he has no connections. She is very well known in her field of work.
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Wow, what kind of phone does she have ? What application , automatically opens photos ?
Ya if someone sends u a text it pops up on the screen. Its not a flip phone there buddy
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Let it go man, let it go. While it's weird to you it may be normal for her. That's why my phone locks and I have to either open with my finger print or enter a passcode.
LMAO and the plot thickens,Flip phone what is this? 1999, shit not many phones out there that I've come across that auto open a text and just show the content, and we're right back to you being insecure, and starting to sound a little controlling. Ever think she's not giving out too much info on the guy and downplaying their friendship cause this is how you react?
