So me and my boyfriend have been dating for six months and we've had a pretty good sex life up until now. He is going to school and we are both stressed, but he never seems to want to have sex, even when i try to persuade him. I have tried everything from hot massages to showering together to showing him how horny I always am, but nothing is working. I know he still likes me, but I don't know what I can do to get him to want to have sex with me again. I mean...I can't slip anything into his drink...right?
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Plain and simple you cannot slip something into his drink and if you are doing all of that and he still isn't having sex with you, it should tell you something that you already know. He simply isn't into you. I don't mean that to be cruel.
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I know he still likes me, but I don't know what I can do to get him to want to have sex with me again.
Have you asked him?
Maybe he would appreciate a little Communication love instead of Physical love ,if you guys have had sex before etc..
Personally think communication can often go a lot further than Physical action, maybe he is just in a downer period?
Have you asked him?
Maybe he would appreciate a little Communication love instead of Physical love ,if you guys have had sex before etc..
Personally think communication can often go a lot further than Physical action, maybe he is just in a downer period?
Don't try to force sexual compatibility. Even if he gives in to your needs, it won't be because he really wants to. Keep him as a friend and find another sexual partner.
Hey alex, stress is probably the number one libido-killer in the world. There's nothing like stress to destroy a couple's sex life. (Just ask first-time parents.) Stress floods our bodies with adrenaline and cortisol, and that combination inhibits sexual arousal. It makes sense from an evolutionary point of view (times of stress would not be the best time to spend resources on a pregnancy and a new baby), but we're pretty far removed from our evolutionary environment, aren't we?
The thing is, if his stress is affecting his libido, all the horny advances in the world aren't going to help. In fact, they may just add to his stress. I'm betting he's wondering what the fuck happened to his sex drive and why your advances aren't working - and I'm betting that's leaving him feeling pretty confused and worried.
My guess is that the best way to bring your sex life back is to work on managing stress better and reducing it where possible. Chronic stress isn't good, anyway. It has all kinds of health and mental health implications. And if you as a couple can learn to weather stress early on in your relationship, it'll benefit you enormously in the long-run.
Also, you're six months in to your relationship. This is prime time for a couple's sex life to diminish a bit in terms of frequency, anyway. Don't stress out too much over it
The thing is, if his stress is affecting his libido, all the horny advances in the world aren't going to help. In fact, they may just add to his stress. I'm betting he's wondering what the fuck happened to his sex drive and why your advances aren't working - and I'm betting that's leaving him feeling pretty confused and worried.
My guess is that the best way to bring your sex life back is to work on managing stress better and reducing it where possible. Chronic stress isn't good, anyway. It has all kinds of health and mental health implications. And if you as a couple can learn to weather stress early on in your relationship, it'll benefit you enormously in the long-run.
Also, you're six months in to your relationship. This is prime time for a couple's sex life to diminish a bit in terms of frequency, anyway. Don't stress out too much over it
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