Your Criagslist Experience

[bwhip1011]

I haven't has good of an experience as some have. Many are more experienced as to what to look for. I do understand the apprehension, though. For me I'm fairly little physically so in most cases the guys are much bigger/stronger than I am, which I do prefer! With that being said it would be easy for me to end up dead in a dumpster and a content filler on Investigation Discovery. Another member mentioned something about back and forth messages to get a better feel and verify the face pic first--very good advice.

Another step that I take is being sure that a friend or family member has the URL to the guy that I'm meeting. Even if it gets deleted and am found in the dumpster, then the FBI can track him. Don't like to have to behave that way, but best to be safe when you're meeting up for sex with someone you know nothing about.

We have verification on here. Would be nice if there was some level of verification or rating on CL. Sort of like e-Bay has. Would probably not be very realistic, though. Just take my chances and try to be as careful as possible.

 

[halcyondays]

I placed an ad on CL and a coed answered. After sharing pics and emails we started texting and talking, meeting for coffee. She was cute and kinda geeky and followed me to my house, but bailed after we started kissing. An hour later she was on her back in my bed with fingers in my hair while I ate her. She came easily and frequently riding me. I was her FB 3 times a week for the rest of the semester and she often stayed the night. Summer break came and I never saw her again. Another time a coed answered my CL in the middle of the night and wanted to fuck in the back of my truck as soon as I picked her up. I pulled off in an an apartment complex, ate her till she came then fucked her mish. Next night after class she came over and fucked till midnight. Ran into her a year later at restaurant where she waited tables. She came over late after work and I fucked her in every position, sending her home happy at daybreak. Love these CL coeds.

 

[Filmgrain]

Been shopping on CL for about 2 yr and have developed some guides that have resulted in some pretty good encounters. First is that you MUST make the first meeting on neutral ground like a coffee shop or bar. Engage the other in small talk but steer it to his family. Listen to him talk of his wife/kids. If he is separated or divorced i shy away. See, if he has a family he has to protect his health. So there is a very strong chance he is DDF. As a family man he is not too likely to take your name and pics and smear them all over the internet. Also get him to talk about his job. If he catches HIV his career is ruined and he wont let that happen. Tattoo Artist and Carnival ride operator are NOT careers. In this circumstance career is defined as a job you tend to want to keep.....not have it in your mind that if anything goes wrong you can just drift to the next tattoo/carnival job.
Next, never answer an ad that is FOR NOW. there is nothing that cant wait until tomorrow, even sex. If the guy cant wait he also wont pay attention to disease prevention. A bad prospect.
Tell the guy to text you or email or phone 30 min prior to your meet to confirm they are on the way. I have been stood up too may times so if I get the call, its on. If I get no call I go about my business and go to bed, jerk off, watch tv, you know, forget about it. No more waiting in parking lots for guys with cold feet. If they confirm its a pretty good bet they will show.
Keep notes. kind of like a diary. after the encounter note his descripton, sexual activities, contact method like phone# or email (CL emails dont count as they expire) make/model of his car, license plate # etc so if you turn up positive for anything you can backtrack. From the small talk note his place of employment or home city.
So here are the numbers. I reply to appx 25 posts per month and meet up with 2-5 guys per YEAR! Yes, i am VERY discriminating but I have met some really terrific guys and managed to weed out the creeps. bottom line....CL is a tough way to go but still WAY better than lurking at your LBS.

 

[Doodlemansc]

CL can be tough. I agree with the video verification. If I send a face pic online, it will never be racy or xxx. Every time I don't ask for video verification, I get caught up with someone who can't make me cum.

Also, don't ask for tons of pictures. I usually stop replying when guys/creeps ask for more photos because I don't trust them.

I have never hosted someone at my place that I met online. I always travel out because I know I'm not a crazy person. However, when I was younger, I did leave messages on my desk in case I was kidnapped so that someone could find me. I was paranoid when I was teen but never had anything bad, just disappointing, happen.

 

[bimetaldude]

Never used craigslist for hooking up. Years ago I did use yahoo chat quite a bit., until this one guy I met came over and was super weird. jacking off in my living room with the blinds open (I was yelling WTF are you doing ?) and then he started trying to get rough with me, biting and twisting my nipples beyond painful and then he started twisting my balls, I pushed him so hard off me, he landed on the floor, i threw his clothes at him and told him to leave before i called the police. I kept telling him no that hurts, and he would do it harder.

 

[Infernal]

I've met 3 or 4 guys from CL. There are always a few that just never show, so I don't count those. One was decent. Short married guy separated from his wife and just wanted head. He kept trying to shove me down on his cock so I could deep throat it, and finally I had to tell him he just wasn't long enough for it and to stop being aggressive over something that wasn't possible. The others were really fucked up damaged people. One guy was clearly terrified and strung out on who knows what. I sent him on his way. The others were the usual desperate older guy who didn't match their pictures.

Now I read the ads, but never reply. It's just too strange in my area to want to meet someone again.

 

[deleted704937]

Always get a face pic, and verify it by asking for another with something specific he could not accommodate off someone else's facebook or dating profile. Move on if he claims not to have any; it's 2014 and everyone has a camera or phone. Specifically ask the ddf question first thing even if his ad or reply to yours said it; it makes him say it right to you - and yes, he might lie, but a person is more likely to be real if asked point blank. Do this first so no one is tempted to lie because they know the other guy is hot - again, he still might but you're eliminating a motive. Leave a prominent note in your house saying where you went with whom; if the plan is to go to your house, you can semi-hide it or mail it to yourself so it shows up at your house a day or two later. Agree in advance what the plan is: if you meet in public and decide to proceed, where will you go and how long will you stay (this not only allows you to make plans for afterwards that you would be missed at if you didn't show and tell him of the same, but also gives you a timeline in case he is harmless but you're just ready to go). Finally, there are normal guys on Craigslist but there is also a higher percentage of weirdos there than elsewhere - you may feel safer somewhere like A4A or even manhunt where there is at least some structure that weeds out some (not all) of the trash.

 

[belowaverage1]

My experiences have been good mostly. Met up with a few guys as either dates, friends, or hookups. Cock size is usually always overstated.

Can't insist on the meet somewhere safe thing first.

Cheated on my ex with two separate guys. The first was a hot tattooed latino that I blew while rock music was playing.

The other was a pretty hot white guy with a nice sized cock who was rough and knew what he was doing. Fun times and one of the best tops I've had.

 

[wavejock]

I can go on about a million things one should do when meeting off craigs whether it is for a date or a hookup. I have met some awesome dudes off it...and yeah plenty of guys that werent my "type"..except for awkward exchanges when there was no connection no horror stories really.

But one thing I can say with certainty. Use your instinct to decide whether you want to take the step to meet or not. If the person sounds weird, nutty, freak, or just doesn't give you answers that seem upfront. Don't do it. People can be discreet without sound like they are hiding something. Take a few emails to chat, find out stats, what their deal is, and always always get a picture at some point. Common sense goes a long way...

 

[stroker_ace]

in the past i've met quite a few people from craigslist for strictly sex. i'd say the vast majority of my experiences were fun and about what i expected. of course, there were a few that i regretted just because the person didn't live up to their photos, the vibe was awkward, etc. but i never had any experiences that were "horror stories" or where the person turned out to be really sketchy or dangerous.

 

[Capitolhillguy]

Mostly good experiences. I offer head and a massage. Require face pics and stats. Have had a number of repeats. Best has been 17 visits from a 30 yo hung married ice hockey player As a mature gay man I have luck mostly with bi men. Gay men not attracted to me. Gays are more ageist as a rule.