I don't even know where to begin with this situation. Several people in my group have left or are leaving the firm. The group is made up of 6 support staff and our manager. One person was encouraged to leave, another turned in notice and that leaves 4. When I realized what was happening with the other employees, I debated on telling my boss that I had also accepted a position elsewhere. Though I am leaving, I don’t want her to be left out in the cold without the support staff she needs. After, discussing this with a friend and fellow co-worker I learned that this person was leaving also and in a similar situation to where she would be giving her resignation later in the year.
We decided to speak with our boss together and give her a heads up that we would be leaving closer to the end of the year. Immediately after we finished with my boss, she went around to a couple of other managers and talked with them about the situation. After, speaking with the other managers she decided to pull me into the conference room alone and tell me what I did was unprofessional and that she did not understand why I decided to leave. I don't completely agree that it was unprofessional, but the resulting gossip is definitely unprofessional. I did my best to explain myself to her though I really did not have to. The only thing I owe her is two weeks, however, because I am offering her over a month. I also apologized for presenting the issue to her with another co-worker. When I was asked to meet in the conference room, I assumed our meeting was going to be her trying to counter or change my mind about leaving the firm. Who knows, maybe that is what she was trying to do, but now I feel like there is some anger and animosity between us and would not consider staying because of that.
In my explanation, I tried to make her understand that my decision to leave was not malicious in any way. The job I have accepted will position me so that I may accomplish several of my personal goals, such as, furthering my education, retirement and who can pass up the benefits the government offers. In addition, this position is one that I turned down to take this job. Opportunities like this do not come back twice. Whether I like or not, I am going to try it.
Since that day, a lot of gossip has been floating around the office and people that I used to go to lunch with have been told not to go with me. It is unfortunate that our group decided that it needed to dismantle but we did not make the decision as a group, it was individual. She really believes that we decided to do it together to make her look bad. She also said I should have spoke to her earlier and maybe she could have done something. The funny thing is that I did speak to her; there was a situation with another co-worker earlier in the year that had me considering leaving. I went to my boss about it and told her if something were not done, I would consider other opportunities. I reactivated my resume online and was contacted regarding a government position I had interviewed for previously. At that time, I decided that my next move would be one that I would not regret.
I must also note that she has not spoke to the other person at all about the situation and during our meeting, she asked me what she should do about the 2 remaining. I told that she needed to talk to them and that they were expecting her to speak with them. I thought maybe she would have talked with us when the first 2 loses were announced.
Do you all think what we did was unprofessional? I would like really like to hear from managers so that I can better understand her position. We either would have spoken to her one after the other or did it together. Either way, it was going to be a slap in the face.
We decided to speak with our boss together and give her a heads up that we would be leaving closer to the end of the year. Immediately after we finished with my boss, she went around to a couple of other managers and talked with them about the situation. After, speaking with the other managers she decided to pull me into the conference room alone and tell me what I did was unprofessional and that she did not understand why I decided to leave. I don't completely agree that it was unprofessional, but the resulting gossip is definitely unprofessional. I did my best to explain myself to her though I really did not have to. The only thing I owe her is two weeks, however, because I am offering her over a month. I also apologized for presenting the issue to her with another co-worker. When I was asked to meet in the conference room, I assumed our meeting was going to be her trying to counter or change my mind about leaving the firm. Who knows, maybe that is what she was trying to do, but now I feel like there is some anger and animosity between us and would not consider staying because of that.
In my explanation, I tried to make her understand that my decision to leave was not malicious in any way. The job I have accepted will position me so that I may accomplish several of my personal goals, such as, furthering my education, retirement and who can pass up the benefits the government offers. In addition, this position is one that I turned down to take this job. Opportunities like this do not come back twice. Whether I like or not, I am going to try it.
Since that day, a lot of gossip has been floating around the office and people that I used to go to lunch with have been told not to go with me. It is unfortunate that our group decided that it needed to dismantle but we did not make the decision as a group, it was individual. She really believes that we decided to do it together to make her look bad. She also said I should have spoke to her earlier and maybe she could have done something. The funny thing is that I did speak to her; there was a situation with another co-worker earlier in the year that had me considering leaving. I went to my boss about it and told her if something were not done, I would consider other opportunities. I reactivated my resume online and was contacted regarding a government position I had interviewed for previously. At that time, I decided that my next move would be one that I would not regret.
I must also note that she has not spoke to the other person at all about the situation and during our meeting, she asked me what she should do about the 2 remaining. I told that she needed to talk to them and that they were expecting her to speak with them. I thought maybe she would have talked with us when the first 2 loses were announced.
Do you all think what we did was unprofessional? I would like really like to hear from managers so that I can better understand her position. We either would have spoken to her one after the other or did it together. Either way, it was going to be a slap in the face.
