I cant believe he's gone back to her!!!!

It may not be a case of "want" if she's threatening to kill him. It may be more out of fear, or thought of his children's safety.

I know it won't feel like it right now, but in the future you will probably look at this as a lucky escape.
He would never be able to make a clean break with the loonie ex as she is the mother of his children.

Thats a good point actually, apparently she has threatened him like that before!!

But he spoke to me sooo horrible and cold on the message he left me it was so strange.....

I know it won't feel like it right now, but in the future you will probably look at this as a lucky escape.
He would never be able to make a clean break with the loonie ex as she is the mother of his children.

Yeah maybe one day I will????

It just seems so unfair though and I feel like he wants her more then me and they were on the verge of divorce aswell!! its so weird to go back now!!

Amber1;bt16226 said:

I know it won't feel like it right now, but in the future you will probably look at this as a lucky escape.
He would never be able to make a clean break with the loonie ex as she is the mother of his children.

Yeah maybe one day I will????

It just seems so unfair though and I feel like he wants her more then me and they were on the verge of divorce aswell!! its so weird to go back now!!

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I wouldn't be surprised if she is using the kids as a weapon. Unfortunately that often happens in divorces.
He is probably a total emotional mess, especially if he is being pushed about by the loonie wife. You would never really know where you stood unless he had made a full and complete break, and like I said, he can't do that because of the kids.
Honestly, you really are better off out of it... It might not feel like it now, but if she is half as bad as you say, he would never be able to escape.

Yes!!!

He said that to me before!!! that she uses the children to get to him!!!

That he wanted to move away completely but couldn't because his children were too young and he loves them too much and would miss them too much!!!!

JESUS!! What the heck did he go back for then???

Deep down he hates her....maybe even not that deep down??

from what i can tell you really deserve better. What i am wondering is are you wanting him?

I don't know....One minute I hate him the next I feel sorry for him....Most of all I feel sorry for me!!! Well right now I do!!

I DONT think I do want him anymore cos he stabbed me in the back!!! I've actually done a lot for him in the past and he just has no backbone!!!!

So no I don't!!! But it still hurts. The hurt is 2 days old still sinking in and I still miss him and I'm still mourning the relationship...But I think thats normal ...

Yeah that can't sink in fast... Denies he even knows you? What a prick! And such a complicated situation. My brother just got out of a very abusive marriage but they didn't have kids (thank god) for him to have to protect. That must be this guy's motivation. Or at least I hope that's what's going on because no other good can come out of that.

Just ignore the guy and his wife from now on, you don't want that woman to threaten your life/kill you.

Change your phone #, and look through the peep hole before you answer the door. Really. You don't need Psyco Wifey paying you a visit.