a "normal" question

[hung?]

What's up with me?

I have an ample dick (7.5x6) that my wife really digs. She and I have awesome sex - she has a hot bod and loves sex in varieties of ways. We were both virgins when married and have grown sexually together and have some very hot experiences. (I often think about our "adventures" when younger and more recent hot fucks when I get off.)

So, why do I (I feel, sometimes,) waste hours on this site and lookin at porn when she's away or I have time I'm not accountable for. Sometimes I jack off a couple times a day. I have other more productive things to be doing.

Am I hooked, addicted, or do I just need to quit obsessing over it and enjoy myself? I have been curious about craigslist and meeting people to see some really huge cocks - a fantasy is meeting a guy with a huge cock to watch fuck my wife.

What do you think? Do I need to try to curb this behavior or not?

I'm asking because I've enjoyed reading some of your thoughtful responses in the past. I think some of you really care and try to be helpful.

 

[clarkma86]

Fantasies are healthy outlets for sexual desires. As long as you are able to put them away and live your life, I don't think you have anything to worry about. If you're more serious about exploring it, it's definitely a good idea to discuss it with your wife. Honesty, openness, and communication are the foundation for any successful relationship after all.

 

[chavous]

Don't be so hard (no pun intended) on yourself. Try to chill and just live in the moment.Is looking at this site or porn causing problems for you in your everyday life? Are you spending too much money chasing porn? If not chill out.

 

[jjsuperbird]

Thanks for posting this question.

I'm in a similar position to you Hung? ... Met my wife in High School, we have been happily married for longer than many of the members of LPSG have been alive. I was a virgin when we met and never been unfaithful. (Though I have been tempted from time to time.)

I like pornography and enjoy this web site. I have a healthy imagination and enjoy sexual fantasies -- Just read some of my stories in the fiction section of this web site. I'm happily heterosexual, but enjoy displays of sexual prowess and well endowed athletic muscular males and females having sexual encounters. I'm not into anything too kinky but like to see people -- men and women -- really 'satisfied' by a good sweaty fuck. Again, read my stories...

I have some of the same concerns you do. I worry that I spend too much time on this site and other porn sites. I also have the same fantasy you do about seeing my wife being 'satisfied' by a healthy muscular well endowed man.

I notice that the two posts in response so far have been from males 80% or 90% gay. they are good responses and I agree with them.

However, I wonder what some of the other members of LPSG think?

Are there similar guys on this site to Hung and myself?

Does your wife know you are a regular on this site?

 

[jjsuperbird]

Hey everyone!

The last post on this thread was almost a month ago. doesn't anyone else have an opinion?

 

[hung]

Hung responds. I feel that looking is a lot like watching "Car/Truck" ads on TV. I own a Car and a Truck. I enjoy most ads. Can I buy all the Cars and Trucks that I see? Of course not.

I also enjoy looking at females, yet I remain married and faithful to one woman, my wife. I enjoy looking at penis images on this site and a few others. I do not get involved with the other people. I remain faithful to my own penis.

Do I spend too much time in these endeavors. I think not. I still enjoy gardening and a plethora of volunteer activities.

I consider my lifestyle quite well balanced.

 

[D_Coyne Toss]

I do not think that you are "misbehaving", until this doesn't interfere woth your provate and sexual life.

Has your sex life changed after you discovered net porn and began masturbating often?

Does masturbating prevent you from doing other, more important, things?

 

[buddy629]

If you love your wife...don't place yourself in a position to cheat on her. When you mentioned craigs list, that is what passed thru my mind.

I think it is healthy for you to masturbate all that you want to. Go for it. Just make sure it is not getting in the way of leading a productive life. It shouldn't be a priority to get-off, versus other time-oriented, important, life necessary tasks. Live your life first, be responsible. Then, jack-off on your free time. Fantasize all you want. That's healthy too. If you feel comfortable sharing your fantasies with your wife, do it. Maybe she will want to join you.

I wouldn't encourage you to incorporate a 'third' person into your sex life. Very few couples are able to mangage that type of situation in a healthy way. The consequences can be disasterous. Also, you are each others only physical, sexual experience (first time). I think more sexually experienced, promiscuous, people are better able to handle 'threeway' and 'swinger' situations better than people with sexual experiences like yourself.

Permiscuous people are better able to view sex as pleasure and recreation, and also have better control over their ability to engage/disengage emotionally in a sexual experience. It's something you learn ONLY by BEING promiscuous in the first place. You and your wife were never promiscuous in the past, it is not something you can learn without doing. So, I wouldn't recommend doing it.

Stay together, don't fool around with others, with or without each other. A happy marriage is hard to find, don't think the grass is greener for one moment. If you are happy in your marriage, my friend, you just won the lottery.

 

[FrankPipeliner]

hung, i've been the guy with the huge cock fucking the wife. i've found there are two major categories of couples that engage in this fantasy/reality. one is couples who swing. that is, they enjoy trading partners or having 3somes with another man or woman. those who choose men often seek virile, hung types. typically everyone partakes in the sex. the second category includes cuckolds, generally men who prefer to watch their female partners satisfied by another man; also a hung guy most often.
i don't judge either of these groups of people. many couples, swinger and cuckolds alike lead the most "normal" and banal existence; work, clubs, etc.
the question is do you want the fantasy or do you want the reality? you don't strike me as a cuckold but then that's a slippery slope and i've never met a guy who started life as a cuckold.

 

[CUBE]

it is a place to hang out and your a sensual guy...no biggie..just don't over think it.

 

[Whopper-lee]

U may want to check with your wife and let her in on this fancy fuck since U want to watch... then give me a call:biggrin1: :biggrin1: :biggrin1: :wink:
Be Safe, Be Careful, & Enjoy!
Whopper-lee

 

[giantsfrey]

even when i was with this most amazing chick who was a sexual fucking goddess and did EVERYTHING right, and VERY frequently, i too, still found time for porn. haha. i donno if it's an addiction or not, but was just always able to find time for some jerking off of my own. of course, i did it a lot less frequently when i had that girl, and jerking off wasn't as enjoyable as the real deal