Age Difference

I don't think an age difference is a big deal, as long as both parties are legal...of course a 15 year old and an 18 year old is fine by me.

I think the older you get the bigger the age gap that can be acceptable...like

25 and 35

46 and 58

64 and 80 doesn't seem so bad.... but 20 and 36...that's a bit weird

I'd date a guy as old as 15 years older or 5 years younger...but honestly to me? maturity != age...and it never has. And therefore, setting a range for me is pretty arbitrary...but if I was forced to that's what I'd guess...that doesn't mean I wouldn't date someone who was 50...because I would if it was right.
 
The standard rule of thumb for men dating/marrying women is that you can credibly date a woman as young as half your age- averaged up- plus seven years.


a 19 year old can credibly date a 17 year old, but no younger.
A 50 year old can get away with a 32 year old, but no younger.
and a 70 year old has to keep it above 42 or it looks really unseemly.

This rule works in reverse, as in any woman can subtract 7 from her age and double the number to find the oldest guy she ought to be seen romantically with.

I don't know of any rule of thumb for women dating younger men or they dating older women...

Doesn't this also work for converting fahrenheit to centigrade?:biggrin1:
 
I'm 52 and my BF is 23. It's been 3 years. I never thought it would work because it was not something I was after. I like younger guys but not 30 years! This one chased me until I caved - thinking it would be fun for a few months. We're living together and it's been the very best thing for both of us. I'm incredibly happy and everyone of my friends and even family can see it. Age should not be a stumbling block if you meet someone who you really enjoy being with etc.
 
My hubby is 10 years older than me. I have never dated a man under 40. I prefer older, mature men. I don't think age gaps make a difference as long as the individuals are like-minded. And fuck what anyone outside of your relationship thinks--it is YOURS for a reason.
 
My hubby is 10 years older than me. I have never dated a man under 40. I prefer older, mature men. I don't think age gaps make a difference as long as the individuals are like-minded. And fuck what anyone outside of your relationship thinks--it is YOURS for a reason.


What others think does not matter. If there is love and you are happy...who cares about statistics and do's and don't do's?
 
i'm 23 (turning 24 in november) and he's 25. we're perfect for each other.

before him i've dated younger, older but still in my age range, and much older.

the younger guy thing wasn't for me. the much older men were great but we were way too different.

older but still in my age range, perfect. it's always worked out best because i prefer men who are older than me, but not by a significant age difference.
 
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10 up, 5 down....that seems to be the consensus from others I've asked. For the most part, they've said that age is not terribly important -- that any two people can find love together -- but that they would not consider dating someone 10 years their senior and that 5 years younger is too young.

Let's be fair, there's also a social component -- an 18yo dating a 33yo is not highly regarded and may not meet with the families'/communities' approval...

So just how important is age difference in a relationship?
What range are you comfortable with?
What is 'acceptable' to you?

My last two relationships were 9 and 19. My current one is over 20 years dif.
 
First of all, age isn't important, but still a huge factor. You can get along with older people or younger people. But I think I look for people who have around the same age as me. Also because getting in contact with someone who is older or much younger isn't something I do, and not on purpose.