Lol I never even had my first kiss, and I’m about to be 28 in a few months. That attractive? Lol
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That’s nothing to be ashamed or worried about. If you want to change that, there are plenty of people on here that may help you.
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Idk how I feel about it. Lol im used to it. I guess ya my normal. But if it happens it happens. I’m not searching or trying make it happen. Lol
No, I’m constantly surrounded by family and friends. Lol I like meeting new people and all.
Are you happy to be gay and are you out? If you aren’t out, do you live in a part of the world that is not hostile to homosexuality?
Yeah I’m out my family is supportive. And I accept myself completely. I think it’s just insecurities and fear that won’t allow me to like let anyone in. Is what I’ve been told.
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As long as you haven't been rotting away doing nothing with your life it really doesn't matter at all, as there are a whole assortment of variables that result in people being very late when it comes to having their first sexual experiences.
I didn't do anything with a woman until last spring, I'm 28 now, and looking back on how my life progressed it'd be extremely obvious to see how I was denied of such a basic experience for so long.
When we moved to a new town and to say the least I didn't fit in at all. Literally no one would talk to me and because of that I never had even the slightest chance of developing the skills and experiences necessary to interact with women. Prior to moving to this town I was a normal kid with a lot of friends, actively participated in different sports, clubs, etc. Anyway, during high school I got a really good paying job and focused on that and later working out when I was a bit older, so these years were both very good and very bad in different aspects.
After graduating I continued working through my late teens and into my early twenties. I had taken some courses at my community college part time from 19 to 21 and later did a full year at a local 4 year university, which I commuted to. Looking back if I was more proactive socially back then I would have had a lot of opportunities then but wasn't really in a place where I was interested in that. Prior to going to the 4 year my exposure to people my age, let alone those of the opposite sex, was practically nonexistent. I literally went months without seeing anyone remotely my age, mostly people in their early 30s and up, opportunities with the opposite sex were an extreme rarity to say the least.
Through my mid twenties I had other things that I was focusing on and wasn't in a position to meet women at all. Then in the latter part of 2016 on this changed and in about a 6 month time period that involved actively working on approaching and interacting with women I was interested in it eventually gave.
If I told most people about this in real life they'd be shocked that it was so late, as they most certainly wouldn't picture a guy like me being in a predicament like that, if you'd even want to call it that. Also, I'm genuinely not attracted to the majority of women and combine that with the fact that many have issues, plus the set of circumstances I was in, it's very easy to see how it happened so late.
I didn't do anything with a woman until last spring, I'm 28 now, and looking back on how my life progressed it'd be extremely obvious to see how I was denied of such a basic experience for so long.
When we moved to a new town and to say the least I didn't fit in at all. Literally no one would talk to me and because of that I never had even the slightest chance of developing the skills and experiences necessary to interact with women. Prior to moving to this town I was a normal kid with a lot of friends, actively participated in different sports, clubs, etc. Anyway, during high school I got a really good paying job and focused on that and later working out when I was a bit older, so these years were both very good and very bad in different aspects.
After graduating I continued working through my late teens and into my early twenties. I had taken some courses at my community college part time from 19 to 21 and later did a full year at a local 4 year university, which I commuted to. Looking back if I was more proactive socially back then I would have had a lot of opportunities then but wasn't really in a place where I was interested in that. Prior to going to the 4 year my exposure to people my age, let alone those of the opposite sex, was practically nonexistent. I literally went months without seeing anyone remotely my age, mostly people in their early 30s and up, opportunities with the opposite sex were an extreme rarity to say the least.
Through my mid twenties I had other things that I was focusing on and wasn't in a position to meet women at all. Then in the latter part of 2016 on this changed and in about a 6 month time period that involved actively working on approaching and interacting with women I was interested in it eventually gave.
If I told most people about this in real life they'd be shocked that it was so late, as they most certainly wouldn't picture a guy like me being in a predicament like that, if you'd even want to call it that. Also, I'm genuinely not attracted to the majority of women and combine that with the fact that many have issues, plus the set of circumstances I was in, it's very easy to see how it happened so late.
Yas. Same exact thing. I’ve always focused on myself and bettering myself. To become a person that I had envisioned. Career, education and personal goals of trying to be the best of I could be didn’t really give me time or energy to focus on that part of my life so being gay and accepting it pretty late, now being comfortable in my body and who I am. I think I’m about ready to experience that part of my life but I feel so inexperienced that I might suck at it. Lmao. Kissing I mean. Lol
Don’t worry about not being good at it. You’ll work it out. Besides, people with lots of experience can still be bad at it.
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This is coming from a heterosexual man only attracted to women, but here is my input on this. Being totally inexperienced at a much later age than normal did play an impact on my confidence. As I mentioned in my post, for most of my adult life opportunities with women of the opposite sex that I'd be interested in were extremely rare. Generally these would occur in random day to day type settings where there was an attractive woman that was clearly into me, but due to being inexperienced I wasn't able to capitalize on those opportunities. Also, being a guy that doesn't drink alcohol rendered the bar scene an awkward and pointless place for me, as if that'd be a place you'd want to meet someone anyway.
I'm of the opinion that if you meet a person that is into you, not just physically but on a personal level as well, that she, or he in your case, shouldn't be phased by one's lack of experience. However, there are many people out there who would definitely be turned off by a person who is inexperienced, but if you are looking for a potential relationship you have essentially weeded out someone that isn't for you. Also, I wouldn't go around advertising being a kiss less virgin, as it really isn't anyone's business. Go out and spend time with someone, get to know them and enjoy their company in dating type environments and you'll be fine.
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