Am i alone?

[1dave16]

So I turned 23 recently I'm now 23 and still a virgin, have never had sex yet. Also never done anything with anyone, never been nude with another man or a woman. Have never tried/done stuff with another guy either I'm quite shy too and not interested in dating at all but don't want to end up being 25 and still not having done anything.
Am I alone? Anyone similar to me?

 

[BillM]

Dave, Why are you not interested in dating, as that is the best way to change your virgin status and start enjoying life!!! Bill

 

[meningreentights]

You are only 23. Cut yourself a lot of slack. It would be better for you to wait, and find out who you are inside, and what you want out of life first. It'll bring you less pain, scars, and baggage.

 

[Jjz1109]

Dude. Relax. You'refine. Join a gym, get in shape, you'll feel more confident abour yourself. Plus, that's a way to meet new people. It can lead to going out for drinks in a group setting. Also, join some clubs. Something of interest. Photography. Wine or beer tasting clubs. Volunteer work. Anything. It's gonna happen when you least expect it.

Any keep practicing on your cock. Be ready for when that moment happens. Know your body and don't think about it so much. Have fun. We all hit dry spells. Your time is coming.

 

[JoshAeon]

You're not alone dude, I'm 23 and a virgin too

 

[keenobserver]

What are you doing to make yourself less alone? Dating, socializing? Are you interested in women or men? A little more about yourself would lend some insight.

 

[Notaes]

You need to get you cock wet one time. You would never be the same. It would find whatever you refer pussy of ass whatever. Get your cock wet!

 

[Crimsonlurker]

You'd be surprised at how many people come here and express that very feeling.

 

[AlphaMale]

So I turned 23 recently I'm now 23 and still a virgin, have never had sex yet. Also never done anything with anyone, never been nude with another man or a woman. Have never tried/done stuff with another guy either I'm quite shy too and not interested in dating at all but don't want to end up being 25 and still not having done anything.
Am I alone? Anyone similar to me?

You'll find someone eventually, try not to worry about it too much.

Also, don't become so impatient that you end of doing something with someone and then regretting it later.

Best of luck!

 

[keenobserver]

On the subject of regrets - I've rarely regretted the things I've done - it's the things I have never done I tend to regret. Commission beats omission almost every time.

 

[1dave16]

Thanks everyone. Well I don't really know if I'm interested in men or women, possible both so I guess I'm probably bi. I don't and never have dated. As for why I'm not interested in dating, I really don't know why, I'm just not, also actually pretty shy. Going into 4th year in college next year and haven't a clue if what I'm doing in college is what I want to do so don't know what I'll do once I'm done. I do socialize some bit, have friends that I went to school with and have friends from college, also go to kickboxing classes once a week - one of my friends goes and suggested it. I watch lots of tv and play games on the computer. Still live at home and won't be moving out anytime soon, like living at home and couldn't afford to move even if I wanted to (i'm the oldest of 5 anyway so often babysit). So I wouldn't bring anyone home even if I did end up with someone.
You see on tv and read.hear about how everyone by in their late teens lode virginity etc and you think you should have too (I know that not entirely true) I suppose the fact that I'm a virgin isn't as big a deal as the fact that I've never even been nude, compared or masturbated with another guy either .

 

[PThong]

You see on tv and read.hear about how everyone by in their late teens lode virginity etc and you think you should have too (I know that not entirely true) .

ahahah. Not everyone lost their virginity by their teens.....

Love yourself!
Make love with yourself!
Show off!
Kick asses on kickboxing.
Take shower on gym after kickboxing.
Relax!
Enjoy life!

 

[ohioboxerbriefs]

take a week and fly over here to the usa and find some guys to fool around with.

then its no worries if you dont like it or dont feel a connection

 

[twoton]

I've never even been nude, compared or masturbated with another guy either .

Um...I'm almost 50 and I've never done those things. Somehow, I don't find that troubling in the least.

 

[Crowe]

Stop worrying about it, when you least expect it, boom. relationship.

 

[njfellow2002]

i was a virgin until about 23 also.. No biggie at all. Lots of life in front of you to catch up if you feel behind! Your desire NOT to date stood out for me though. Have you always felt this way? Dating, like any social experience, helps you gain confidence in yourself. DO not date to get laid. Date to enjoy the company of someone else. If you don't know where to meet people, do a little volunteer work. You will be exposed to some very nice people. Make a few new friends with diverse interests. You would be amazed at how many colorful people there are! Join meet up dot com. one word ...they have activity's local.

 

[njfellow2002]

Um...I'm almost 50 and I've never done those things. Somehow, I don't find that troubling in the least.

You have never been nude? doesn't that make taking a shower a challenge?

 

[twoton]

You have never been nude? doesn't that make taking a shower a challenge?

Yes. Maybe that's why I've never been with another guy.

 

[erratic]

Like everyone else has said: Being a virgin at 23 is no big deal. Not knowing what you want to do with your life at 23 is totally fucking normal. I think that describes most 23 year olds...

As for finding out who and what you're interested in sexually, you gotta start somewhere. You mentioned getting naked and jacking off with another guy. Why not try Scruff or Grindr and look for a guy who's interested in that? "Gamer looking for j/o buddy." Sounds like a good time. Around here there are loads of gay/bi men your age who would be down for an evening (or afternoon or whatever) of jacking off and gaming. I know you live at home (also very normal for 23 year olds), but I'm sure there's a lock on your door.

If you do it and you like it, you know more about yourself and you've started experimenting. If you do it and you don't like it, you know more about yourself and you've started experimenting.

Alas, you'll never get less shy unless you start interacting with people more actively. You can do it here, online, so why not try to meet some guys online. Start there, and move on.

Good luck! I've never met you, but I'm rooting for you.

 

[nutbag]

Lots of good advice here. Don't force it, there's nothing wrong with you because you haven't had sex. Take pride in the fact you didn't just give up your virginity to some stranger at a young age. There's a lot more to life than sex.

Just curious... do you watch porn? 1) the kind of porn you're into might just tell you what you want and 2) nothing will live up to what you see in porn. Real sex can be clumsy, messy, funny - sometimes with a person you're not really attracted to.

I was 18 my first time, and one of the last of my friends to get laid. It actually made me more attractive to my female friends. Took me a long time to admit to myself I was Bi, and I'm slightly disappointed about all the opportunities I missed because of it, but I stopped dwelling on that long ago. Good luck.