Anorgasmia

[SR_Blarney_Frank]

A man being limp is NOT the equivalent of a woman not-orgasming from a guy's efforts.

I can safely say that a limp penis can be pleasurably stimulated. The man may not be hard, but experiences some pleasure.

perhaps this is more accurate: a girl not wanting any sex but insisting that it's OK.

I'm not getting how lack of an erection means a guy doesn't want sex.

You seem to want to quibble the analogy and totally fly over the point of my post. How would you feel if the man you were with was unable to get erect or ejaculate? Further to that how would you feel if he became so upset at your eagerness to please that he dumped you?

 

[sykray]

The majority of women, whether they enjoy penis-vagina sex or not, do not orgasm simply from the fucking. Simultaneous masturbation by either partner or from cunnilingus is the more usual ways in which women orgasm.

Also bear in mind that there is a strong psychological/emotional component to orgasm and sexual pleasure. Men tend to focus as masturbating teenagers on the purely physical sensations. Men, in particular, also build up a myth that orgasm during intercourse depends on penis size. For most women this is an irrelevancy unless the penis is stimulating the clitoris (or the contentious existence of the G spot) though again psychological issues may play a part, too.

As Mlle. Rouge points out anorgasmia means never having an orgasm.

Don't sweat it! Your sexual relationsip seems fine from your accounts.

 

[dolfette]

Dolfette great post. Everything you are saying is exactly right. I care for her so much that I feel like she is missing that closure at the end of a great sex session. You also pointed out how I am startin to act. She has told me on several occasions to just enjoy it as she does. I might be creating a problem that's just no there for her. I can give her orgasms with my tongue and hands although it takes some work, I don't mind, and a vibrator can finish the job in less than 5 minutes, that's why I feel like I'm failing in the intercourse dept. Does she just require that intense clitoral stimulation? Thanks everyone for your input.

you're welcome. love.
she cums. and you sound like you have a wonderful sex life.
i would hate to see you ruin that.
cherish what you have!

i personally would never orgasm without clitoral stimulation...it's just the way i'm wired. five minutes buzz will get me there.

Do you even listen to yourself? Imagine you're dating a guy and no matter what you try in the bedroom he stays limp but insists that it's ok and really it's fine. And as you experiment to try different things to get him hard he gets mad at you because you just don't listen and kicks your ass to the curb.

I'm sure you'd understand.

y're an idiot.
she's not impotent. she's having normal sex. she's not broken.
she's just not having orgasms through penetration.
and LOTS of women don't.

yes, i've had relationships with men who couldn't orgasm with someone else there. i was perfectly ok with that. the sex we had was pleasurable to them and the intimacy was good.

and i've been with men who just take forever to cum.
if that's what they want, as long as i'm not getting sore, then it's worth working on.

of course if you would rather turn it into an issue and end up with her faking just to get it over with...

 

[dolfette]

The majority of women, whether they enjoy penis-vagina sex or not, do not orgasm simply from the fucking. Simultaneous masturbation by either partner or from cunnilingus is the more usual ways in which women orgasm.

Also bear in mind that there is a strong psychological/emotional component to orgasm and sexual pleasure. Men tend to focus as masturbating teenagers on the purely physical sensations. Men, in particular, also build up a myth that orgasm during intercourse depends on penis size. For most women this is an irrelevancy unless the penis is stimulating the clitoris (or the contentious existence of the G spot) though again psychological issues may play a part, too.

As Mlle. Rouge points out anorgasmia means never having an orgasm.

Don't sweat it! Your sexual relationsip seems fine from your accounts.

^^^an experienced man who knows about women.

 

[Love-it]

My wife says that she has never had an orgasm through intercourse but vibrators, fingers and my tongue works for her every time. When I was younger and dumber I worried that her inability to orgasm from intercourse was my fault and that it bothered her. I asked and she told me that was just the way she worked. She enjoys orgasms and would like to have orgasms from intercourse but it doesn't worry her.

 

[Rubenesque]

In my opinion the main villains in this piece are porn - where a woman cums and cums and cums (yeah sure you are honey) from penetrative sex alone after about 3 mins of fucking. And real life women. Not all women, just the women who, for whatever reason, have chosen to consistently fake orgasms and therefore lead their partners to believe it's easy to cum from penetrative sex. If you imagine that a guy has had 5 partners, 1 could orgasm from penetration, 2 faked it and 2 didn't cum at all. As far as he's concerned the majority of women CAN.

Both of the above give men enduring misconceptions about sex and the female orgasm.

 

[dongalong]

Several female members at LPSG have mentioned that with age they developed new ways of orgasming, so it could be possible for your wife to experience this, if she wants.

Sexual Orgasm Reseach Center - the Lin Institute

This site has a lot of useful information about orgasms that taught me a lot. Unfortunately the website is a monster and extremely difficult to navigate, Dr.Lin's English isn't very easy to understand but if you are patient you might find a way for her to become vaginally orgasmic.

From memory, he suggested a way of exercising the vagina muscles by pushing in and out a "love egg". As most men know, tensing up makes us come quicker so tensing stronger vagina muscles will do the same for women as well as increasing the friction and pleasure.

 

[MarkLondon]

I developed true anorgasmia when on a short course of anti-depressants but that did not make sex worthless for me. It was still very pleasureable. Yeah, I missed the fireworks, but I still felt good during and after.

 

[DickDarlington]

I've been with a woman that has never had an orgasm before during sex and could barely reach one during masturbation (if ever, can't really remember). Let me tell you it was frustrating.
With me, she did manage to have an orgasm during sex but it took a lot of work and energy, and also the use of a vibrating toy on her clit while I was penetrating her.
Although I was happy with the achievement, it was still frustrating. It took a lot of work. And don't even mention going down on her. Instead of getting gradually stimulated to the point of orgasm, she would somehow skip that stage and get to the point of "too sensitive" and couldn't go on with it.
And even when she did cum, I felt it wasn't as strong as the other women I've been with.

 

[Symphonic]

I have lots of sex without orgasm. I would still rather sex with my partner than to masturbate; there's just a totally different connection and experience. It actually upsets my partner more than it does me. /male

 

[SR_Blarney_Frank]

y're an idiot.
she's not impotent. she's having normal sex. she's not broken.
she's just not having orgasms through penetration.
and LOTS of women don't.

You have this amazing ability to totally ignore what's written and go off on your own /random rant.

So, how would you feel if you got dumped for trying too hard to pleasure a guy - limp, hard or otherwise. You know, because your big huge ego just made you try to please him?

 

[dolfette]

You have this amazing ability to totally ignore what's written and go off on your own /random rant.

So, how would you feel if you got dumped for trying too hard to pleasure a guy - limp, hard or otherwise. You know, because your big huge ego just made you try to please him?

and you have no amazing abilities at all.

if i'd persisted in turning it into my personal quest instead of actually listening to him, i'd deserve to be dumped. same as anyone else.

 

[SR_Blarney_Frank]

if i'd persisted in turning it into my personal quest instead of actually listening to him, i'd deserve to be dumped. same as anyone else.

personal quest? what, did he try to stick a finger up your ass or something?

 

[dolfette]

that was his finger? i assumed it was your head

 

[SR_Blarney_Frank]

sorry to disappoint but wasn't me...you may want to keep better tabs on who's mucking around back there...