Apology

[Freddie53]

Dr. Bubbkes,

Chris did a beautiful job of telling it like it is. I only posted to affirm what he said. As one of the resident theologians and religion columnists, let me say that the word is appropriateness. Nothing you did here was inappropriate for this site.

Now, you have to be true to yourself. Your pictures to relfect who you are on the inside. If you look at a pictrue and it doesn't reflect who YOU see yourself as then it is a picture you probably want to hide regardless of what you are wearing or not wearing as the case may be.

You have a doctorate. You are intelligent. I think you are able to make those choices by yourself. I don't understand why anyone would question you anyway. What forum are we on? What kind of pictures do we have in the gallery? This is not a first grade classroom.

But if after putting them up you feel uncomfortable, then yes take them down. But you don't owe an apology for it. If you feel comfrotable with them up, them leave them up.

As I said to thine own self be true.

I love your posts and I highly respect you.

 

[GottaBigOne]

BB, I don't think you need to apologize to anyone for anything.
You wanted to put up the pics as you say to "feel sexy" and to get nice comments; this is not something to be ashamed of, we all like to get compliments, it does not mean you are shallow, it means at most that there are parts of you that value compliments on your physical appearance; hardly something to be ashamed of.

Just because there were some people who drew some wrong conclusions by your posting of your pics is not your fault, and reveals nothing about you, just them. They were wrong about you, don't let their misguided perception of you overrule your own.
Don't try to live your life based on the image of yourself in other people's minds, because you'll always be misunderstood. Instead try to understand yourself, and live to fufill your own perception. But if you want to be totally "un-shallow" then I think you're hoping for something that is probably unnatural and impossible. You can not change a lot of the things you are, but you can learn to accept the more socially unnacceptable parts. Believe me, when you throw off the yolk of social expectation and opinion you'll be much freer. More alone maybe, but free. Free to be yourself, free to feel good about yourself on your own terms, and free to live YOUR life, not the life seen in other people's eyes.

 

[jumbo747jet]

BB

No matter how truly beautiful your outside is, it will never compare with your inner beauty

 

[dolf250]

BB;

I hope that it is you who I am thinking of or I’m going to feel like a real ass. I read the post only once a few weeks back and it stuck with me (though I am not 100% sure that it was you.)

The post was right after a response from Jonb and there was no question of your avatar that I recall, but you brought it up. You mentioned that traditionally Native American women are more modest and it almost struck me as an apology where none was warranted. (If that was you) I had a feeling that perhaps you were not entirely comfortable with putting it up.

Well, though I am not 100% sure about that post, I am positive that your mind, body, smile and spirit are beautiful, and though I will miss seeing your physical beauty and kind smile at least the other two are still visible in each of your posts.

 

[madame_zora]

You are right, Dolf, that was her, and may I say that was very sensitive of you to notice.

*peels Dolf's redneck badge off his chest* You won't be needing this anymore.

 

[dolf250]

Will I get it back when I tell you that I drive an ex-military vehicle?

 

[madame_zora]

not as long as it's not still painted in camouflage!

 

[dolf250]

It is still camouflage. One day I will paint it all flat black or possibly that nice cream color after the ones I see on CNN in desert storm.

Pretty sure I see a reissuance of my badge in the near future.

 

[13788]

orionsword57:

Originally posted by naughty@Apr 25 2005, 04:52 PM
DR.Bubbles,

Please stop flagellating one of our favorite people! We might have to come and find you and take drastic measures! YOu are loveable and capable. Dont you know that we will love you whatever you chose to do with your pictures? Do you feel the love? You needed to feel feminine and affirmed . We want you to know that you are very special to us and that we want you to do what is best for you. I think you were very wise in doing what made you feel comfortable. I understand . I was reluctant myself to even put up the avatar that i have on board now. It is really sad that we can not just be without repurcussions from other's interpretations, but unfortunately that is not the world we live in and it is a small one. So on view or not, you are in our hearts. Can I get an amen, Guys? LOL!


Naughty

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AMEN!

To: DR. B
I once told a subordinate that he had earned the right to screw up. If you think that posting your pic was a screw up, then that's what counts, ie... how YOU feel! because you have earned that right by being interesting, witty, intuitive, kind etc... here, relax and know that we support your decision.

 

[Altairion]

bb,

You are a strong and admirable women, and I am honored that you are here with us. While I (and obviously many others ) enjoyed seeing you express yourself with your avatar, I did share some concern that some people may not have seen you as the smart and caring person we all know and respect. I applaud you having the courage to share your picture with us, even if you did decide in the end not to leave an avatar up.

 

[Dr. Bubbles]

Thank you for your support of my decision and your encouraging words. Words truly cannot express my gratitude to each of you - I feel like I only cheapen my appreciation to you by trying to elaborate.

Each of you are a delight in your own special way. I am honored and priviledged to have established a relationship with several of you and do look forward to the continual expression, debate and humor you offer to all the members of the lpsg site. You are remarkable people... extremely and I am humbled to be among you.

Many thanks and many blessings your way....

bb

 

[naughty]

Altarion,

You have such a way with words, is your signature song at the bottom of the page telling us something? By the way, though Sinatra did a wonderful rendition that 41 year old classic was written by one of the fathers of Bossa Nova, Antonio Carlos Jobim. You should hear it in Portuguese.... Sizzling!


Naughty

 

[13788]

DieHard9x6: Clearly, BB (Dr. BB, that is), anyone who made such assumptions about you hasn't bothered to read a thing you've contributed to the board, nor chatted with you in the room or off-site. It's a shame if people equate being sexy with being easy; but the bulk of the populace does seem rather shallow -- and the anonymity of the Internet isn't exactly known for putting people on their best behavior.

At any rate, as fantastic as the rest of you is, your face & smile are what make you a knockout. Thank you for giving us a brief glimpse, and -- obviously -- no apology was warranted. Talk to you again soon! XO

 

[MASSIVEPKGO_CHUCK]

Dr B, Bubbles, you needn't feel any regret over your pics soley predicated on a few negative asshole opinions. You are in a class here that comes along every so often, and is never, ever not wanted. I dream of the day when I'll meet a lady who's beautiful both inside and outside like yourself. I might also add that Madam Zora, another lady who both occupies beauty in & out, made a strong point about your eyes and smile being absolutely alluring, and your body, well it goes waaaayy past beautiful in my own view, That, along with your raven-black hair as well.