asking her out

[someperson]

She is asking "personal questions " .


not sure what I should do since I was getting nervous. It's a new experience for me.

 

[AlteredEgo]

Stop pretending she's the last woman on Earth and that her answer matters. Be polite to her, and just invite her somewhere. If she accepts, that's wonderful for you. If not, you'll live long enough to ask the next girl.

 

[helgaleena]

Go for it! Personal questions means she wants to befriend you at the very least. Try a few 'personal questions' in return, too.

 

[Serial Kisser]

Tell her how big your penis is. Girls love that.

 

[Rubix]

Just be honest. You can tell her that you're a bit nervous or embarrassed, but also that you would really like to get to know her better. Tell her that you would really like for her to have a coffee with you (or whatever works for you as a stepping stone). :smile:

 

[Jillang]

What kind of personal questions are you talking about? If it's just flirting that's probably ok. Some personal questions are ok but others really aren't appropriate to ask someone you aren't dating though.

 

[Twistbarbie]

I have a policy of you can ask me anything, however, I reserve the right to refuse to answer.

 

[someperson]

she asked if I had a job.

 

[D_Anne_T_Freeze]

she asked if I had a job.

This is a joke right? I mean no-one is going to actually consider stopping seeing someone just because she asks if you have a job? Unless of course you're a member of the CIA or maybe a Russian spy. Get over yourself!

 

[AlteredEgo]

He isn't already seeing her. He is just telling us what kind of personal question she asked which led him to think maybe he shouldbask her out. At least that's the impression I get.

 

[EllieP]

Well, that's kind of a personal question, but not what I was thinking. Maybe she wants to offer you a job. What else has she asked? Favorite music? Restaurant?

Look for context.

Otherwise, just talk to her. Ask her a personal question and see if how she answers.

It does sound like she's interested, but that question makes me pause.

 

[Jillang]

she asked if I had a job.

Nobody ever asked you a question like that before? People always ask me,"what do I do?". It was probably one of the first exchanges in my bf's and my first conversations. It's something that is asked in most profiles anyway. Plus, it's not like you are "required" to answer anyway. Why does that question bother you so much? I'm just curious.

 

[helgaleena]

I hope you picked up on Serial_Kisser's sarcasm btw. I know if you are unused to social exchanges that seems like a personal question, but how personal it's considered varies a lot from place to place. In some areas, it's the sort of thing you ask complete strangers, and it's even carved into your tombstone. Others, you don't know what your neighbors for decades do for a living.

Just as long as you show interest in her at the same level as she is showing in you, tit for tat, things should progress smoothly.

 

[D_Anne_T_Freeze]

He isn't already seeing her. He is just telling us what kind of personal question she asked which led him to think maybe he shouldbask her out. At least that's the impression I get.

Either way, i'm still baffled. And the question wasn't exactly self explanitory. However if that is the case OP and this is just some girl who you think wants to date you because she asked what you do for a living, then that's not a sign she wants to date you. It is a simple conversational question. I can't believe you've gone through life without someone asking you this before.

 

[someperson]

Either way, i'm still baffled. And the question wasn't exactly self explanitory. However if that is the case OP and this is just some girl who you think wants to date you because she asked what you do for a living, then that's not a sign she wants to date you. It is a simple conversational question. I can't believe you've gone through life without someone asking you this before.

she seems to act differently to me compared to the other customers there

 

[someperson]

Forgot to add that she thought she knew me from HS school but I never went to the school she went to and that I was on one of the sports teams there ..
Yeah I do get confused for other people sometimes.

 

[D_Anne_T_Freeze]

she seems to act differently to me compared to the other customers there

The other customers where? At your work? So she knows you have a job? I'm thoroughly confused so i think i'm going to bow out here. Good luck.

 

[someperson]

The other customers where? At your work? So she knows you have a job? I'm thoroughly confused so i think i'm going to bow out here. Good luck.

nah I do not work there

 

[AlteredEgo]

I hink it is clear it's at her work... I don't think she would ask at his job if he has on, but my understanding is he is a customer where she works, she appears to his observation to treat him preferentially, and she wants to know if he works too.

 

[lottie]

Well as he only gives a couple of words on here and those words are not clear what he's getting at, then the poor woman is going to have a hard time getting him into conversation. Maybe she just likes a challenge and/or see him as special, lol.