Bad In Bed

[4382211]

What percentage of the men you have slept with were bad in bed?


Just a simple straightforward question. We were discussing it at a bbq and women all had different answers. Men all answered similar

 

[TinyPrincess]

I would say none. Being bad could be down to poor skills and/or lack of interest.

I've been with guys with extremely different skills but I've never been with a guy not being interested in having the best possible sex.

So it's (simply) been a question of me coaching (especially the less experienced) guys during sex. I would rather have no sex than poor sex, so I think it's only natural to coach the guys during sex.

They might not perform well at the first or second attempt - but hey, the night is always young, so I will get them there

 

[LaFemme]

A lot of time good sex is a matter of the chemistry between the people involved. It’s the two people together that make the sex good. And what was it that Mae West said? “Great sex is amazing. Bad sex is pretty good place, too.“

With that being said, I’ve been with some really selfish lovers. 5%? I don’t know. But being with a guy fully focused in getting his rocks off makes me feel like a masturbatory tool, and not a participant. I prefer to feel like I’m a part of the process, not just a body-sized embodiment of the fist.

 

[rtg]

I agree with what has already been said. However, I have found some men to be somewhat uncoachable. Back in the days where I would do hookups, if he didn't listen to my needs and was selfish in bed then I usually had no interest in going back there again.

 

[4382211]

Interesting from you all. I believe the women in the discussion that took place in person might not be as opened sexually or have the confidence to coach men. 3 women said 50% of the men they have been with were not good in bed. Being one of 2 men in this group of 6 we opted to not poke the bear and ask what constitutes “bad in bed”

I’d imagine the selfish jackhammer one pump types are what they are talking about.

 

[286798]

My wasband had issues with stamina & would always, ALWAYS cum as I was starting to "get there"... he robbed me of thousands of orgasms. But he was exceptional at oral. Would i say he's bad in bed? No. But even divorce and his cheating aside, I have zero interest in a repeat performance. He's just not good enough and my bar is set higher.

Other than that, I would only say I had one that I'd say was a lousy lay. His package was on the smaller side of average and was self conscious about it as a bigger guy. Apparently, his ex berated him about it and told others he was small. I had no issues with his junk. What I DID have issues with was him wanting me to tell huuuuuige he is, and when I didn't and saw him watching Jimmy Kimmel, I decided that was more baggage than I cared to unpack and I got dressed. Not even a 1 and done... more like a 1/3 & done.

 

[EllieP]

I have never had a lover that I would consider bad in bed. Sometimes our trysts weren't perfect, but the majority of the time it was good.

 

[4388301]

Maybe 30% for what I would consider genuinely bad? Folk who I was incompatible with as far as preferences/things we enjoy during sex is a much higher ratio. Probably 60%.

 

[MickeyLee]

Just gonna throw out a "the boy brings the good loving" brag.

Women can be miserable lays. But still a low percent. Cuz I booty mack for sweaty good times not an orgasm score board affair. That said uninspired and entitled people are the worst at sex. Blurg.

 

[4382211]

You are all angels, thx for the details. Honestly just found the subject interesting.

 

[1277255]

I've only had one who was subjectively bad. It was only that he had a larger than average piece and kept slipping out. I blame my being a virgin and him not believing me that I wouldn't bleed. I had been with strictly women prior to him and we'd long popped that metaphorical cherry. He didn't want to hurt me, but in being gentle, he just couldn't actually fuck me. It was less than a stellar first time with a guy.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

The lovers who were less than stellar tended to not engage my brain.

The best were like coming home to a universe I’d never seen.

I’m lying next to Coming Home right now.

 

[rtg]

Interesting from you all. I believe the women in the discussion that took place in person might not be as opened sexually or have the confidence to coach men. 3 women said 50% of the men they have been with were not good in bed. Being one of 2 men in this group of 6 we opted to not poke the bear and ask what constitutes “bad in bed”

I’d imagine the selfish jackhammer one pump types are what they are talking about.

It also depends how many men those women have slept with. If they have only slept with 10 men then it was probably bad luck to meet 5 dudes who were terrible. But if they had slept with 50 men then it's probably a very slim chance that 25 of them were bad.

Oh and there's so much more to being bad in bed than jackhammering. Just one example is the guy who doesn't know how to use his above average manhood. It can hurt if so.

 

[4388301]

I am closer to triple digits than not. To have roughly 30% of them be bad is pretty sad

 

[Serial Kisser]

37.3%

 

[4388301]

By bad I mean selfish and/or lazy, especially when much of it was a more casual thing. If all we are to each other is sex, you had best bring your A game or you will not see me naked ever again. Very little room/flexibility to me in those scenarios until a person became an established fuck buddy. Then the person gets slack for an off day. First time getting down n dirty? Not so much. Maybe kind of mean, but it worked for me. Used to have a short list of good + consistent fuck buddy and then I did not need to deal with adding or finding new folk.

 

[Holly Doors]

mmmm, well having been active in the swing life with my hubby for over a decade I've had the pleasure or not so much of a variety of partners, actually bad skills wise I'd say maybe 20%
Those who are able to actually satisfy my needs fully not that many if you're just talking about sex but that's why I enjoy other things as well, it doesn't have to be just about the sex and I'm happy to admit I'm difficult to please sexually.

 

[neutrno]

I'm not difficult to please. I remember one guy who was really bad. The others could all do something right, eventually.

 

[4382211]

So... follow up question. What makes a guy not bad in bed?

I’m sure it’s in the archives but I wanted to ask all you lovely women who are active in the conversation. I hope your all having a great weekend.

 

[1277255]

The only thing I can say to that question is simple. Inability to listen. If I'm telling you to do something, do it. If I say don't stop, then don't fucking stop. Ya know?