Bad tempers.

[invisibleman]

Do any of you have a bad temper?

Has your temper got you in trouble before?

I have a temper for sure, but only certain things spark me off. It can take me a long time to cool right down again. I have said and done things that although I haven't as much regretted, I have thought I might have done a little different if i wasn't totally enraged at the time.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not violent but I do have an unpleasant dark side that flashes out sometimes if I'm serious offended and upset by someone and I have just walked away before now and never had anything to do with whomever pissed me off again.

What about you guys?

Yeah, I have a temper. And it depends on how shitty and mean the guy is, if it progresses to fisticuffs, Jason Bourne moves, JEDI knight tricks and Matrix style "focused" running up the chair rail to render a proper Jason Statham.

 

[D_Ivana Dickenside]

i don't have a bad temper and the majority of people i know have never seen me blow up. it takes A LOT to get me pissed off too. but when i do get angry, run the other way cause all hell breaks loose.

 

[bbristow]

i got super pissed off from a customer at work, that when i transferred the call over to my manager, i kinda raised my voice at her too and was kinda offended by it. anyway i said sorry to her afterwards.

i normally keep to myself when i'm angry though.. i can feel my blood boiling, and i want to just hit someone or something,but i don't..

 

[B_Jennuine73]

My temper has been a constant internal battle my whole life.

I have taken anger management classes but it's really hard to remember the techniques when you want to rip someone's head off.

I don't get rages anymore and only get angry occasionally. When I do, I isolate myself because I don't want to hurt anyone. Not saying I'm a psycho that will run around threatening people with a knife. Just that you can never take back the words you say. You may be understood or forgiven, but you can't turn back time. So I stay away from the person who pissed me off until I have calmed down enough to talk to him/her.

 

[D_Ivana Dickenside]

i got super pissed off from a customer at work, that when i transferred the call over to my manager, i kinda raised my voice at her too and was kinda offended by it. anyway i said sorry to her afterwards.

i normally keep to myself when i'm angry though.. i can feel my blood boiling, and i want to just hit someone or something,but i don't..

i hate when customers are stupid like that. i work in an office and it's one thing i despise about having to deal with people.

 

[bbristow]

i hate when customers are stupid like that. i work in an office and it's one thing i despise about having to deal with people.

i just wish i pass this semester so i can graduate, quit the bank, and start working in a non-customer service or sales-oriented branch of the IT industry.

just thinking that i'm gonna be at work tonight is making me angry already..

 

[Ethyl]

Back in the day I had trouble keeping my temper under control when it would flare, now I'm able to express my anger when it's appropriate. Once bothered by people who have no interest in courtesy and seem to enjoy being rude, I am happy to say I can let it roll off my back easily now.

A few weeks ago, a woman inquired about the price of a chandelier in the showroom. When I told her the price she looked at me and said "you're full of shit". I burst out laughing (how could I not?) and asked why. She insisted she could get the same chandelier for half the price (I know for a fact she could not, at least not in the states; the company which manufactures that particular chandelier is based in Paris) and she watched for a reaction. I simply looked at her and said "OK". She stood there for a moment, waiting for me to offer a lower price and when I didn't, she turned and walked out of the showroom.

I relayed this story to my sales manager who thought it was quite funny. She was impressed by my ability to see the humour in the situation. All I know is that when I went home that night, I was glad I wasn't her and relieved I was still the person I am.

 

[D_Bob_Crotchitch]

I once had enormous patience. Twenty-three years of dealing with the public, and totally incompetent asshole managers, has shortened my fuse. I get really sick of the same people being jerks over and over again. I said one peep needed to take care of her own business and stay out of others. If she took care of her own business, she wouldn't have lost over $70k gambling, her son been arrested, and her house looking like crap.

 

[naughty]

Back in the day I had trouble keeping my temper under control when it would flare, now I'm able to express my anger when it's appropriate. Once bothered by people who have no interest in courtesy and seem to enjoy being rude, I am happy to say I can let it roll off my back easily now.

A few weeks ago, a woman inquired about the price of a chandelier in the showroom. When I told her the price she looked at me and said "you're full of shit". I burst out laughing (how could I not?) and asked why. She insisted she could get the same chandelier for half the price (I know for a fact she could not, at least not in the states; the company which manufactures that particular chandelier is based in Paris) and she watched for a reaction. I simply looked at her and said "OK". She stood there for a moment, waiting for me to offer a lower price and when I didn't, she turned and walked out of the showroom.

I relayed this story to my sales manager who thought it was quite funny. She was impressed by my ability to see the humour in the situation. All I know is that when I went home that night, I was glad I wasn't her and relieved I was still the person I am.

That is a great story. I hope to get to that place where I can truly let things roll off my back. I can have an explosive temper and I try to almost go over board here to control it. I am sure most of us have the deep down capacity to curse someone out like a sailor but ultimately it may only reap temporary satisfaction and gain nothing in the interim.I find I tend to have a shorter temper when I am not feeling well or are tired.

 

[invisibleman]

Back in the day I had trouble keeping my temper under control when it would flare, now I'm able to express my anger when it's appropriate. Once bothered by people who have no interest in courtesy and seem to enjoy being rude, I am happy to say I can let it roll off my back easily now.

A few weeks ago, a woman inquired about the price of a chandelier in the showroom. When I told her the price she looked at me and said "you're full of shit". I burst out laughing (how could I not?) and asked why. She insisted she could get the same chandelier for half the price (I know for a fact she could not, at least not in the states; the company which manufactures that particular chandelier is based in Paris) and she watched for a reaction. I simply looked at her and said "OK". She stood there for a moment, waiting for me to offer a lower price and when I didn't, she turned and walked out of the showroom.

I relayed this story to my sales manager who thought it was quite funny. She was impressed by my ability to see the humour in the situation. All I know is that when I went home that night, I was glad I wasn't her and relieved I was still the person I am.

You shoulda let that chandelier fall on her. She would see how much it costs that way. Upclose and personal.

 

[The Dragon]

I don't have a bad temper, and anyone who says I fucking well do will get their fucking arm ripped out of it's fucking socket and belted around the head with it.

Have a lovely day and do come back soon.

 

[Not_Punny]

I used to have a bad temper, but my children cured me.

Now, I'm miz even keel and loving it!!!

 

[Rikter8]

Thanks Rugby for posting this. I know its a bit of a revival, but I thought I would build on your thread, if I may, rather than starting a whole new one.

What about Rage?

Have any of you experienced rage? Something that suddenly out of nowhere, pops in your head, and a seemingly stressful situation is thought out to be much more than it is.
your heart starts to pound. You start to tremble. your mind races on what you should say, what you want to say or do but can't. So it all balls up in your head and your body like your going to explode.
And then suddenly...it goes away... the trembling reduces, and your heart rate goes back down.
Then you cry - for the situation that your mind created as it never existed in real life.

Anybody have something like that?

 

[sdbg]

I don't have a bad temper at all. I have a calm, very easy going disposition and often don't even get pissed at people who really deserve it. Not worth my time and energy. I tend to get angry when injustice is involved to a 3rd party, and go to battle more often for others than for myself.

 

[B_Nick4444]

used to have this big, destructive temper

shed it at about 16 years of age, when I recognized how destructive it could be

 

[ballsaplenty2156]

I've learned to keep my rage and explosive temper under control. When I was in high school, I injured a guy pretty badly and although he clearly deserved an ass-kicking, I lost control and went completely overboard. He ended up in the hospital for over a week, and my parents had to hire an attorney to keep my ass out of jail. He was a bully who had picked on many people who were reluctant to fight back, I was one of them initially. But there was no appeasing this guy. He was/is a big dude physically and intimidated many people, teachers included, for a long time. He just happened to catch me on a bad day, I had something on my mind, and he just wouldn't let it go. I doubt he ever picked on anyone again.
I had to go for counseling, which turned out to be a good thing, as my temper had gotten me in trouble before. It seems I'm predisposed to some sort of explosive rage disorder. Through meditation and learning what exactly sets me off, I've learned to keep my temper on a very strong leash.

 

[earllogjam]

Some people who post on LPSG do have a very bad disposition for apparently no good reason.

Oftentimes I've noticed that rage flares up but it is often just misdirected anger or frustration of the shortcomings of the person. It's a sign of weakness and lack of any type of class.

 

[SpeedoGuy]

I've found, to my surprise, that I can keep a lid on my temper despite provocation. Its been very rare when I've lost my temper and done something I've later regretted.

Probably one of my biggest failings as an adult is that I tend to expect similar consideration from others and rarely get it.

But I also wonder about anger, rage and tempers. I sometimes wonder whether human anger isn't just like physical energy: that it can neither be created nor destroyed, it instead merely changes form on a whim and travels from person to person like a virus. One might never know where and when anger is next going to resurface violently and unexpectedly. I think this might explain a lot of displays of anger we encounter.

 

[earllogjam]

Yup, anger is catching and what goes around comes around. It often festers and then explodes misdirected.

I think not showing one's anger is often seen as a weakness especially when arguing and not returning anger with anger, when in fact it is just the opposite. Being in control of your anger is a great strength and indication of character.

It is a sign of maturity, wisdom and understanding of the situation, a sign that your ego is not easily bruised.

Any moron can get mad. It is the smart ones that can keep their cool and get even.

 

[Principessa]

Some people who post on LPSG do have a very bad disposition for apparently no good reason.

Oftentimes I've noticed that rage flares up but it is often just misdirected anger or frustration of the shortcomings of the person. It's a sign of weakness and lack of any type of class.

I disagree anger is not a sign of weakness or an absence of class. It is a sign the person is seriously upset about something. The fact you or I may disagree has no bearing on their socio-economic status or strength of character.

I had to go for counseling, which turned out to be a good thing, as my temper had gotten me in trouble before. It seems I'm predisposed to some sort of explosive rage disorder. Through meditation and learning what exactly sets me off, I've learned to keep my temper on a very strong leash.

Wow! I'm glad you were able to get help early on in life. I hope you are able to keep up with your meditation and relaxation exercises.

That is a great story. I hope to get to that place where I can truly let things roll off my back. I can have an explosive temper and I try to almost go over board here to control it.

I am sure most of us have the deep down capacity to curse someone out like a sailor but ultimately it may only reap temporary satisfaction and gain nothing in the interim. I find I tend to have a shorter temper when I am not feeling well or are tired.

It's always my mom that seems to go out of her way to pluck my very last nerve when she knows I am sick or over tired. Grrr :12: then she tells me what a disrespectful and ungrateful child I am.

I once had enormous patience. Twenty-three years of dealing with the public, and totally incompetent asshole managers, has shortened my fuse. I get really sick of the same people being jerks over and over again. I said one peep needed to take care of her own business and stay out of others. If she took care of her own business, she wouldn't have lost over $70k gambling, her son been arrested, and her house looking like crap.

Ouch! You really got up in her Kool-Aid.

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