Bisexual Issue

[neil.adin]

Hello everyone !

Maybe I should have post this some where else but I don't assume my bisexuality and it is a real issue for me.

I am 23 yo from Belgium (please excuse my English mistakes) . 4 years ago, I broke up with my girfliend (we stayed together for 3 years) not because I didnt love her anymore but because I was lost and ashamed. I was lost because I was feeling sexual attraction for guys too... At first I thought I was gay but with the years I can say that I am à bisexual guy today... Since I broke up, I have a problem which is I am afraid to be engaged in a relation with someone... I ve never fell in love with a guy (didnt know if it is because I dont assume or if I am just sexually attracted by guys) but when I fall in love with a girl, I will flirt with her but as soon as we are closer, I am just always running away and I hâte myself for that because I never have any explanations for those persons I loved. I always have these thoughts "Which girl would accept a boyfriend which is also attracted by guys ?" and "how should I tell her that I am bi ?"... On the other hand I ve never tried anything with guys because I am top afraid of how I will feel after that... And I know that I could not be at ease in a relationship if I don't assume my sexuality.... So today, 4 years after I broke up, I am just really unhappy and my life at university is quite messy because I try to focus only on my studies but I am always thinking about this problem I have and of course no one knows for my bisexuality.... Sorry I hope I ve been clear enough to allow you to understand...

If I post this here, that is because I would like to know if someone has been in the same case and can give me some pièce of advice or even telling me his story..

Thank you for your reading

 

[Industrialsize]

I would recommend that you see a mental-health professional to help you sort through your feelings.

 

[dickthrobbing]

Bi sexuality is a struggle to come to terms with, take your time to find the right partner for you. When or even if you are comfortable you can be open about being bisexual, but you have to be fully comfortable in doing this.
A sex / relationship councillor might help, they don't give you answers as you have to find these yourself but guide you on a path

 

[HorseHung40's]

I would recommend that you see a mental-health professional to help you sort through your feelings.

I would agree. A llcensed professional is your best option here. Good luck.

 

[tangas]

You really do not need a license professional being in university is great experience stuff with guys and discreet, there are lots of guys in the same boat. Nowadays it is easier to experiment. Try sucking at first then fucking maybe then you will feel what you like best, Curiosity is more common now.

 

[1454612]

I have passion and romantic love for women and have great sex filled l relationships with them....
I have guy friends that I have and would never see in a sexual light.....

I also have lust for some men and really enjoy gay sex...and extremely love sucking cock.

I realize it can be tough to accept your interest that are often judged taboo.
....however , truth is something you should never put a lie above.
I will also add that you shouldnt be with ANYONE that you cant be honest with..... If you have to lie to get love , you will never know if youve ever had it ..and fuck that.... itll eat ya up inside and build animosity between yours partner...
Telll her that you have been having thoughts and curiosities that are causing you anxiety and insecurities.

Gay porn could be something to help her get used to it and show rational compromise.
Maybe she would share a man with you....
If you can tell her the truth ,theres not LOVE there... Tell her you need to figure a few things out.... then walk away respecting you and her....

 

[Mercurio73]

I can agree with those telling you to see someone professional. There is no shame in looking for help and being bisex can be rather confusing. Most important is to love yourself and who you are. When you do I’m sure you’re be open to finding love again, be it with a man or a woman.