cheating

[robi06]

if you're in a relationship, is it considered cheating if you kiss someone else? If you ask the other person for permission and they don't give you a straight answer, and you do it, would it be considered cheating?

 

[695092]

Yes?

 

[Robert53]

no that is not cheating. on whom?

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[robi06]

lol I just wondering. That's what I thought. I just know someone that swears it's not cheating if it was just making out and I wanted to see what other people thought

 

[robi06]

well if you are in a relationship with someone else

 

[Remington]

If it's a peck on the cheek, I wouldn't consider it "cheating" by any means. (Some people might)

Making out with someone, bit of a different story.

All in all, it depends. Not only on the kiss itself, but the person & the "boundaries" of the relationship.

 

[robi06]

If it's a peck on the cheek, I wouldn't consider it "cheating" by any means. (Some people might)

Making out with someone, bit of a different story.

All in all, it depends. Not only on the kiss itself, but the person & the "boundaries" of the relationship.

ahh good points. I meant full blown making out and more in monogamous situations, not general open relationships

 

[IntoxicatingToxin]

Couldn't answer the poll, there wasn't a "depends on the situation" or "maybe" option.

If my boyfriend kissed another girl on the lips with romantic intentions, yes, I would consider that cheating. If he kissed his best female friend on the lips as just a peck when greeting her or saying goodbye or something, then no, it isn't cheating. Family obviously isn't cheating either.

I have a close male friend that I've known for ages and our relationship has always been strictly platonic, no attempts at sex or dating or anything along those lines. But every time we see each other, there's a big bear hug and a kiss on the lips involved. I am not cheating on my boyfriend when I do this, it's just what he and I do. No romantic intentions.

 

[Dell1962]

If you are in a committed relationship with someone, any kind of intimate contact with another person which your SO does not know about and would not approve of, is cheating.

 

[robi06]

If you are in a committed relationship with someone, any kind of intimate contact with another person which your SO does not know about and would not approve of, is cheating.

That's my point of view, even if they know about it as long as they didn't talk about how it is ok for them to do it. My bf thinks it is ok, that it's not really intimate contact and it is not cheating. He doesnt go around making out with people, but he thinks that making out is not intimate contact or the first step to hooking up. We had a big argument about it and I was trying to see if I was that old fashioned.

 

[D_22]

It's cheating.

 

[blaquehorse]

One has to see these things for what they are. Cheating is cheating.
I will reluctantly elucidate ; Okay, given that there are open relationships and all that, i guess i suddenly see some grey areas.
So, without a partner's consent, would i say kissing someone else can be construed as cheating? Yes. Absolutely.
One way to clarify really, is to ask if the other person would like it if his/her partner did the same. The honest answer is usually a emphatic NO.

 

[rbkwp]

naaaaaaah

what type of kiss?


is it cheating if you have an agreed on open relationship
and your partner plays up, with? / without your knowledge?
have a feeling human emotions can still fck up an open relationships, at times ..
no matter how cool 2 may think they are

 

[robi06]

Yeah i meant in a serious monogamous relationship, full blown making out (not pecking) someone else. He asked me if he could and i ask what would you do if i werent there and he never replied. He did it later that day thinking it wasnt cheating bc he wanted to be with me long term and not the other person and i was seeing it. I'm a bit old style i regard to dates so i was wondering what most people would think. Thanks for all the replies! Some room for thought about what to do

 

[robi06]

If you believe it isnt cheating, why do you believe that?

 

[rbkwp]

ooops
i was talking generally

1n you specific case YES then
misinterpreted your post, understand it more now
no hesitation, tell him so ..?
SORRY!


woops
re-reading, i really ballsed it up

ahh good points. I meant full blown making out and more in monogamous situations, not general open relationships

 

[robi06]

It looks like a significant number of you don't think it's cheating. What's your line of thought?

 

[BlackLantern]

The one and only rule of cheating is, are you hiding it? In other words, if you are in a relationship with person X and you meet person Y, if you do anything at all with person Y, whether it's a hug or sex, that you have to hide from person X, then it would be cheating. Some people are more open than others and it depends on the individual and the grounds of the relationship. If you know person X is uncomfortable with you having any kind of physical contact with anyone but them, and you do it and hide it, then you've cheated on them. If person X is fine with you getting blowjobs from other people, but nothing else, then anything else you do that you hide from them is cheating.

 

[twoton]

If you believe it isnt cheating, why do you believe that?

I guess it depends on the level of the relationship. I would not do it now that I'm married. Seriously dating? Uh...yes, I guess it's cheating.

I did do that and more when I was dating (but never all the way to sex). More than once. What can I say? Get a little booze in me and I was liable to do a lot of things I won't do now. :biggrin1:

 

[tbrguy]

Yes, I'm with the majority here - it depends.

Who, what, where, when?

But a good rule of thumb surely must be, as I think someone said earlier - if you feel guilty about it, or feel the need to hide what you've done/are doing, then you know you're cheating...