Cheating

[Joegrant43]

I know it wrong and not fair to the person you are with, but my urge to play with a huge cock is so strong. What do others do with this urge, feeling?

 

[9inchRick]

Communicate with your partner. Be honest about your feelings. Who knows, it could lead to some sort of a threesome, or your partner could allow you to do what you want with their permission. Cheating is never the answer.

 

[green882]

When that happens to me, I make sure nobody is looking, and put my hand in my pants.

 

[pcghabsy]

Communicate with your partner. Be honest about your feelings. Who knows, it could lead to some sort of a threesome, or your partner could allow you to do what you want with their permission. Cheating is never the answer.

Exactly. It is not cheating if your partner is accommodating. Here's how I feel about it - I would always want the best for someone who I really love. So, if she really wanted a bit of sexual experimentation, it would be selfish and cruel of me to devoid her of that pleasure. At the same, I understand if my partner were possessive and wouldn't want me fooling about. However, some people aren't able to control either way, but I don't know how to overcome that.

 

[belowaverage1]

What they said.

 

[mikeyinbrooklyn]

Exactly. It is not cheating if your partner is accommodating. \.

Gotta disagree. First, emotions do not obey our commands. Even if a partner were to willingly consent to your cheating, they may still be jealous or be otherwise wounded. And that wound can fester for a long, long time. Also, it is hard to say if any consent would actually be sincere. Someone might agree so as not to lose you, which is sort of an inferred emotional blackmail.

If your partner is unable/unwilling to meet your sexual needs, you should weigh whether those desires are more important to you than the rest of the relationship. Personally, I just love sex. But the guys I have been in a relationship with were more to me than just sex. I can get myself off whenever I want. But I can't replicate emotional attachment at the drop of a hat.

In theory, in order for cheat "authorization" to work, it would need to have been granted at the outset of the relationship. Although my hunch is the person humiliated into granting such a concession would still be hurt.

 

[Joegrant43]

All great advice and all very true. I just wish I could satisfy this urge for a huge cock to fuck me. I get off and an hour later I am back to wanting big dick. And I know if I cheated I would feel so terrible.

 

[Joegrant43]

I know everyone has different values and some would consider me coming here chatting etc a form of cheating. Is it?

 

[Stephenmass]

To answer your most recent question, no, unless you sneak around on this site without your partners knowledge.

MikeyinBrooklyn, I always enjoy reading your answers or posts. They are always sincere and nonjudgmental. It is on target. For instance, if my partner felt as the above poster did and asked me that, I'd think in my own head that I am not enough for him. You are tuned into your emotions (and more importantly others) perfectly. A true good man.

 

[Joegrant43]

Well unless I am hooking up with guys from here do I really need permission to looks at porn or voice my thoughts on topics?

 

[mikeyinbrooklyn]

MikeyinBrooklyn, I always enjoy reading your answers or posts.

Thanks, Stephenmass. I like your posts as well. I do try to think through what I write, and not just go off on some person or topic (although I have done that a few times).

 

[Aconite]

All great advice and all very true. I just wish I could satisfy this urge for a huge cock to fuck me. I get off and an hour later I am back to wanting big dick. And I know if I cheated I would feel so terrible.

Don't go there. Just masturbate or use a large dildo perhaps? Cheating on someone you love is a wound that never heals for both.

 

[malvada]

why not break up?
give her a chance to be with someone who wants her only.

 

[Aconite]

why not break up?
give her a chance to be with someone who wants her only.

This, also.

 

[telephone123]

Exactly. It is not cheating if your partner is accommodating. Here's how I feel about it - I would always want the best for someone who I really love. So, if she really wanted a bit of sexual experimentation, it would be selfish and cruel of me to devoid her of that pleasure. At the same, I understand if my partner were possessive and wouldn't want me fooling about. However, some people aren't able to control either way, but I don't know how to overcome that.

So if your girl would want to have sex with other guys that is oke?

 

[Exbiker]

When did the partner become female ?

Perhaps I'm just not paying attention...

Everyone on Earth can do whatever they like. Forgiveness is easier to obtain, than permission. We ought not to seek total control of one another.

But.

Actions do have consequences.

 

[Joegrant43]

Very true, your actions can get you in a heap O trouble. And as of today I have done nothing wrong. As a horny human male with a sex drive much strong than my partner don't think coming here mad chatting and fantasizing about big cocks is the worst thing a person can do. I have not acted upon it. I not dead yet and still find others hot, especially you Exbiker. Wow!

 

[latinluva]

why not break up?
give her a chance to be with someone who wants her only.

Amen to that, better to communicate what you are feeling.

 

[cdog204]

I just don't understand why being in a relationship necessarily means being monogamous sexually. You can be emotionally connected to someone and have some fun sex outside the relationship. It really isn't that difficult of a concept.

 

[Joegrant43]

I am all for communicating feeling, but I know I would get if u feel that way then leave. I don't want to leave, just want one experience when a really hung guy. So I just have to deal with those feelings and move on. They go away but eventually surfy race every so often.