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So I think it time that I finally fess up to my true feelings and let the REAL Me be known. I have gotten to the point where I want to let my family and close friends know that while I find women attractive, I am attracted to men more. In other words, I'm gay. And while on this site I have considered myself bisexual, I have a yearning for men. I think women are amazing and beautiful but deep down inside it just doesn't do it for me. So I feel that it is time for me to let it out. I know that my immediate family will be totally ok about it. I have a sibling that is gay and the love is still there. My parents always taught us to love and except people for who they are and not to judge them. I have always been the type of person to preach about being who you are and not worrying about what others will think or say, but I guess that is easier said than done. I feel I never came out before because I knew that meant I could lose friends, be judged and I don't think I was ready for that. Now as I am about to get another year older, I feel that it's the right right time to truly be myself and to take my own advise to not worry what others will think.

I hope I did not bore any of you with this story. I needed a free space where I could express myself.:smile:
 

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You got this, Luv! Once again, congrats! You know where to find me. Lemme know what happens.
 

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Kudos to you, Luv, I have every confidence that your decision will prove itself to be a very positive move for you. If there is some short term pain with those who react negatively you'll be all the better off for knowing of their own close-minded deficiencies. If some who are close to you find it difficult to accept, but are willing to try, you'll be providing them both the opportunity and encouragement to better themselves and grow. And among those who are totally accepting it can only heighten the esteem that they already have for you.
 

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Congratulations! It's good to hear how supportive and loving your family has been. I'm sure it'll be no less for you.
 

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Congratulations, this is like a "rebirth" for you. Your life as your real self can really begin. This is what it was like for me. You may loose a friend or 2 but are they really friends then? You will wish you did it sooner. Welcome to the team!
 

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Like I said, this is awesome news. If somebody asked me what my biggest regret in life is: it would be not coming out ( as bi, admittedly) sooner - lets just say I was late 20s I guess it's just the pressure of being the only son. Mind you, if your sibling has come out before you ... You gotta think that's some kind of awesome. Congrats from ur lpsg family.
 
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So I think it time that I finally fess up to my true feelings and let the REAL Me be known. I have gotten to the point where I want to let my family and close friends know that while I find women attractive, I am attracted to men more. In other words, I'm gay. And while on this site I have considered myself bisexual, I have a yearning for men. I think women are amazing and beautiful but deep down inside it just doesn't do it for me. So I feel that it is time for me to let it out. I know that my immediate family will be totally ok about it. I have a sibling that is gay and the love is still there. My parents always taught us to love and except people for who they are and not to judge them. I have always been the type of person to preach about being who you are and not worrying about what others will think or say, but I guess that is easier said than done. I feel I never came out before because I knew that meant I could lose friends, be judged and I don't think I was ready for that. Now as I am about to get another year older, I feel that it's the right right time to truly be myself and to take my own advise to not worry what others will think.

I hope I did not bore any of you with this story. I needed a free space where I could express myself.:smile:

Well, if you have "No response" here, then I dunno. No response I suppose.
 

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Good to hear.

May we ask how old you are ?

I was 21 when I did it, but I kind of knew a long time before that ... sort of wish I'd done it sooner, but I needed to be away from the family, I thought ...

Anyway - it's all cool.

:cool:
 

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So I think it time that I finally fess up to my true feelings and let the REAL Me be known. I have gotten to the point where I want to let my family and close friends know that while I find women attractive, I am attracted to men more. In other words, I'm gay. And while on this site I have considered myself bisexual, I have a yearning for men. I think women are amazing and beautiful but deep down inside it just doesn't do it for me. So I feel that it is time for me to let it out. I know that my immediate family will be totally ok about it. I have a sibling that is gay and the love is still there. My parents always taught us to love and except people for who they are and not to judge them. I have always been the type of person to preach about being who you are and not worrying about what others will think or say, but I guess that is easier said than done. I feel I never came out before because I knew that meant I could lose friends, be judged and I don't think I was ready for that. Now as I am about to get another year older, I feel that it's the right right time to truly be myself and to take my own advise to not worry what others will think.

I hope I did not bore any of you with this story. I needed a free space where I could express myself.:smile:

My cousin that is 26 just came out, but I all ready knew about it 2 years ago. When I had his gay friend fix my over shirt for me as a button had came off of it. More then likely they all ready know. Possibility you could have slipped up somewhere without knowing it.
 

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Thank you all for the generous comments. You truly don't know how much it means to me to have your support. While we may not always talk and some of you I don't know yet, just knowing that there are people wishing nothing but the best, feels so damn good! :grouphug:
 

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UPDATE: Again thank you all for your kind words. So I was planning to let the sharply dressed cat out of the bag this past weekend. I was home for 3 days and was going to sit everyone down so I could let them know I was gay. BUT there were so many things going on that I could not find the right time where I felt comfortable enough to let it be known. So now I am trying to figure my next plan of attack and wanted some input. There is another opportunity coming up where I can sit everyone down but its like 2 months from now and I don't really want to wait that long. I thought about just busting out an email/text where I could make sure I said everything I want to say and it can reach everyone all at once. But is an email/text too impersonal? Is it a cowardly way to get out of the one on one experience? Will this dictate the type of 'out and proud' guy I will be? Someone too scared to say it loud?

These are just some of the thoughts running through my crowded head right now. So if you have any insight please share.

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I did it with close family by letter. This was something like 25 years ago. So Email wasn't so easy ...

Within a few days of that, I also had a "coming out" party, for friends.

It did go ... OK ... but I often wish I'd done it face to face.

There's no absolutely right or wrong way. It never goes perfectly. But it usually doesn't go terribly either ... don't wait for the "right" moment. There's no such thing.

But, in your own mind, you have to just treat is a piece of truth. It's not bad news. Not like someone has died. But it is change, and sometimes that takes some time for some people to adjust to ... which is fair enough. Be supportive.

But don't act like you are serving them with a writ or subpoena ...

:wink:
 

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I was home for 3 days and was going to sit everyone down so I could let them know I was gay. [...] There is another opportunity coming up where I can sit everyone down but its like 2 months from now and I don't really want to wait that long.

Why do you feel the need to get everyone to sit down and listen to a speech and so on?

It's not a critic, I really don't understand why you feel you should do it that way and not another...
I don't know, simply a day where you're seeing a close relative, just talking about if while you're walking downthe street with them or while you're all busy in the kitchen...

In my opinion, you don't need to make a show of your coming out, that's why I'd like to understand...

BTW, simpler than a mass e-mail, you could also update your status on Facebook.