Im curious to know if everyone on this site is either gay, bi, and/or curious? Are there any real heterosexual people like myself? 
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My percentages are the same as yours, longjohnd, and I consider myself heterosexual. I've had some experiences with other men, but I do not self identify as gay or even bi. If we take the Kinsey "continuum" view of sex as accurate, everyone falls somewhere on a sliding scale of exclusively hetero to exclusively homo, with most people falling somewhere in the middle portions between the two extremes.
I'm not sure where one needs to be on that (admittedly subjective) scale to cross from being heterosexual to homosexual or vice versa. My understanding is that such labels as hetero or homo are much more about how one self-identifies than the actual sexual practices he or she engages in. In short, I think a "real heterosexual" can still be just that, even if he or she has had some sexual experiences with the same gender, AND if he or she finds the same gender attractive at times.
I'm not sure where one needs to be on that (admittedly subjective) scale to cross from being heterosexual to homosexual or vice versa. My understanding is that such labels as hetero or homo are much more about how one self-identifies than the actual sexual practices he or she engages in. In short, I think a "real heterosexual" can still be just that, even if he or she has had some sexual experiences with the same gender, AND if he or she finds the same gender attractive at times.
Im not offended but cgttown kind of explained it for me. The 10% is because of past experience I had and Thats when I signed up for this site. I just never changed it.
I just want to say, Im not judging anyone or their choice of sexual orientation. I believe you are what you want to be.
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gee whiz, i do believe there' someplace onsite where the statistics of us all are listed. Mystic Wolf did a thread about it in Etc. once a long time back. as i recall we reflectthe general population but most don't post as much on the boards.
I understand your sentiment, longjohn, concerning that we are what we want to be. However it simply is not true. There are far too many men (and women) out there who desire to be straight and simply are not and suffer because they are not. We are who we are and not just what we believe we are. Glad you are on the site and hope that you find a sense of friendship among the men and women here who represent our social makeup in all its complexity and diversity.
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I think there are a lot of heterosexual people on this site. There are a lot of people here.
I dont agree with that. Those people are just not mentally strong. The mind has a lot to do with it. If they wanted to be straight they could, it wont be easy and they would probably have to completely change their lifestyle but its possible.
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Not to stick my nose where it may not belong but, I'm gay but again my percentages reflect the past as well, and whatever catches my eye. I see myself getting old and pairing off eventually with a man relationship wise. I think this site has just been so welcoming and diametrically opposed to most dealings in my real life as far as the acceptance of everyone regardless. People really just seem to be live and let live here, and really inclusive. I for one haven't seen anything homophobic or nasty, at all. It seems like a real good melting pot of human sexuality and respectful of all stances. I'm really really glad I found this site on a rather random google search months ago, and thanks to you all I suppose for making me feel pretty damn at home. Hope I can help make the place fun, informative, safe and even more fun.
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You can force yourself into a certain pattern of behavior, but you can't change your natural desires and your attractions - your sexual orientation - regardless of "lifestyle". Many have tried, even with so-called conversion or "reparative" therapy, and virtually all have failed. Most people who live in denial eventually end up acting on their repressed desires and doing damage to themselves and people around them. Having a "strong mind" might mean it's easier to convince yourself of a lie for awhile, but just saying you're straight and going through the motions when you're not don't make it so.
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Somehow or another, we can always count on coming back to this topic. I will go ahead and say that it's the labels that make things a bit more complicated. I personally identify as gay, because I will definitely be growing old with a man. Women just give me something completely different. With that being said, I'm fair enough to admit that I am in fact sexually bisexual, and there's nothing wrong with that.
If you are going about your business in your day to day life, and you have no intentions of dating someone of the same sex, I could understand identifying as heterosexual, but don't get too comfortable with that label. Because the part that you're not admitting is your bisexual tendencies. So what I'm trying to say is that in your day to day life, just be you. Don't try to hide behind any hype. If someone wants to get to know you sexually, male or female, tell them straight up what you enjoy. If you're looking to settle down with a woman, feel free to be honest with her about your past, and what you might like in the future. Because you can say that you're only gay that "10%" but your past has told you something, and if you're a member of this site, then 9 times out 10, your past is still speaking.
So lets be careful when we ask if there's straight men on this site, because a lot those "straight" men are camming together on skype. Just sayin'.
If you are going about your business in your day to day life, and you have no intentions of dating someone of the same sex, I could understand identifying as heterosexual, but don't get too comfortable with that label. Because the part that you're not admitting is your bisexual tendencies. So what I'm trying to say is that in your day to day life, just be you. Don't try to hide behind any hype. If someone wants to get to know you sexually, male or female, tell them straight up what you enjoy. If you're looking to settle down with a woman, feel free to be honest with her about your past, and what you might like in the future. Because you can say that you're only gay that "10%" but your past has told you something, and if you're a member of this site, then 9 times out 10, your past is still speaking.
So lets be careful when we ask if there's straight men on this site, because a lot those "straight" men are camming together on skype. Just sayin'.
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I'm sorry, and please don't think I'm trying to be an asshole, because I swear I'm not. But that statement just bitch-slapped every gay/bi person who feared coming out to their families, friends, co-workers,etc. My sexual and emotional wants are not a choice. And if you believe that, then you're saying that you're making a choice with your sexual orientation. If you want to fool yourself and others by locking the truth up in pandora's box with the other chaos, then be my guest. But don't say that others are mentally weak because they choose to accept the truth. You may see the world in black & white, but some of us see the rest of the spectrum. And that's quite the statement to make, and I doubt that you'd make it unless you speak from experience.
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Maybe I should retract my statement.
This sounds like focus on the family and the phelps clan.
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Yes I beleive there are some 100% totally straight men on this site...even the ones that protest to be 100% straight even though they 'ocassionally like to suck cock'...or 'like to wank a bro'... or 'get gut fucked up the ass without kissing'... or even the ones that 'stop liking men after they come'... or even the ones that 'have decided to choose the right path and eat pussy'....
they are all 100% straight too...
they are all 100% straight too...
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