Dealing with Bi Urges

[Kenunow]

I am a married man in my early 60s. As I have gotten older, my urges and thoughts for gay sex has increased pretty dramatically. While I love a woman's body, the desires to get physical with a masculine man consumes my mind. I don't look at straight porn anymore, it is 100% gay porn that centers around alpha type men my age engaging in aggressive sex. I fantasize about being a submissive bottom to a big dicked masculine man who takes charge and uses me for his pleasure. I have met a few guy off chat apps in the past, but never moved beyond cyber sex and meeting. Although they wanted to meet up again to have sex, I get too nervous and tend to chicken out, mostly because I think I will feel guilty about stepping out.

How do you married bi guys deal with the feelings/needs?

 

[daftman]

depends if you want to be square with your wife...fyi I am same, and wife knows it...!

 

[WilliamG]

I am a married man in my early 60s. As I have gotten older, my urges and thoughts for gay sex has increased pretty dramatically. While I love a woman's body, the desires to get physical with a masculine man consumes my mind. I don't look at straight porn anymore, it is 100% gay porn that centers around alpha type men my age engaging in aggressive sex. I fantasize about being a submissive bottom to a big dicked masculine man who takes charge and uses me for his pleasure. I have met a few guy off chat apps in the past, but never moved beyond cyber sex and meeting. Although they wanted to meet up again to have sex, I get too nervous and tend to chicken out, mostly because I think I will feel guilty about stepping out.

How do you married bi guys deal with the feelings/needs?

There are LOTS of guys like you.

 

[ohiocurious]

I'm 21, married - I love her soooo much. I love pussy too. But I also have a thing for guys. I've sucked and been sucked. I've been the bottom and top. She isn't aware

 

[dickthrobbing]

I am a married man in my early 60s. As I have gotten older, my urges and thoughts for gay sex has increased pretty dramatically. While I love a woman's body, the desires to get physical with a masculine man consumes my mind. I don't look at straight porn anymore, it is 100% gay porn that centers around alpha type men my age engaging in aggressive sex. I fantasize about being a submissive bottom to a big dicked masculine man who takes charge and uses me for his pleasure. I have met a few guy off chat apps in the past, but never moved beyond cyber sex and meeting. Although they wanted to meet up again to have sex, I get too nervous and tend to chicken out, mostly because I think I will feel guilty about stepping out.

How do you married bi guys deal with the feelings/needs?

The question that you and only you can answer, is the desire for sex with another man greater than the loyalty to your wife.
There is no right or wrong answer just a matter of conscience. If you decide to have sex with another man be prepared for a guilt trip although this will pass and as a warning sex with another man is adicktive

 

[Kenunow]

I am already addicted to gay porn, I can only imagine the addiction to the physical. The guy that wants to hook up is married too, but he plays with a buddy. He's looking for a regular fuck buddy.

 

[TTB906]

Like you I'm a married man in my early 60s. Unlike you I've known I'm bi since I was a teenager and have had many experiences with other men over the years. What I really want right now is what you describe, another married man who understands the desire for physical intimacy and also the need for saftey and discretion. But the last thing I want is to blow up my relationship with my wife who would not understand.

 

[Kenunow]

Like you I'm a married man in my early 60s. Unlike you I've known I'm bi since I was a teenager and have had many experiences with other men over the years. What I really want right now is what you describe, another married man who understands the desire for physical intimacy and also the need for saftey and discretion. But the last thing I want is to blow up my relationship with my wife who would not understand.

Yeah, for me it would be nothing, but physical, no romance. Thanks for your reply, I am sure there are others just like us.

 

[TTB906]

I often wonder what I could say to get my wife to understand that my attraction to men is physical, more social not romantic, and no threat to our relationship.

 

[Mixolid]

Mos

I am a married man in my early 60s. As I have gotten older, my urges and thoughts for gay sex has increased pretty dramatically. While I love a woman's body, the desires to get physical with a masculine man consumes my mind. I don't look at straight porn anymore, it is 100% gay porn that centers around alpha type men my age engaging in aggressive sex. I fantasize about being a submissive bottom to a big dicked masculine man who takes charge and uses me for his pleasure. I have met a few guy off chat apps in the past, but never moved beyond cyber sex and meeting. Although they wanted to meet up again to have sex, I get too nervous and tend to chicken out, mostly because I think I will feel guilty about stepping out.

How do you married bi guys deal with the feelings/needs?

Mostly, I log on here and crank out a load (or several). There are always horny dudes online, so I try to connect here.

 

[elklindoxxx]

I am a married man in my early 60s. As I have gotten older, my urges and thoughts for gay sex has increased pretty dramatically. While I love a woman's body, the desires to get physical with a masculine man consumes my mind. I don't look at straight porn anymore, it is 100% gay porn that centers around alpha type men my age engaging in aggressive sex. I fantasize about being a submissive bottom to a big dicked masculine man who takes charge and uses me for his pleasure. I have met a few guy off chat apps in the past, but never moved beyond cyber sex and meeting. Although they wanted to meet up again to have sex, I get too nervous and tend to chicken out, mostly because I think I will feel guilty about stepping out.

How do you married bi guys deal with the feelings/needs?

I go at least once a month to the bate club in my area.

We have quite a few guys like yourself who show up to bate. And we are always looking to hook up with bottoms.

So I would suggest finding a bate club in your area. It's safe to say that they are always looking for new 'members' to cum and have a good time. Just go and see what it's like. There's no pressure, everybody wants to have a good bate session.

 

[Kenunow]

I go at least once a month to the bate club in my area.

We have quite a few guys like yourself who show up to bate. And we are always looking to hook up with bottoms.

So I would suggest finding a bate club in your area. It's safe to say that they are always looking for new 'members' to cum and have a good time. Just go and see what it's like. There's no pressure, everybody wants to have a good bate session.

How does that work? Is there porn?

 

[Rob1hallz]

The question that you and only you can answer, is the desire for sex with another man greater than the loyalty to your wife.
There is no right or wrong answer just a matter of conscience. If you decide to have sex with another man be prepared for a guilt trip although this will pass and as a warning sex with another man is adicktive

I decided to satisfy my curiosity about man sex about 5 yrs ago. I had a meet up maybe once or twice a month. Recently decided to back off and focus on my marriage. I thoroughly enjoyed playing with cock but concluded that's more important.

 

[elklindoxxx]

How does that work? Is there porn?

Jerking of with a group of men...is porn.

Way better than you have ever seem in your entire life.........

 

[SilentHill]

I have dealt with one of the most confusing situations in my life. I met this 19 year old who has a baby on the way with his girlfriend who is now his fiancé, long story short we met while both staying at the same Airbnb because it was a house with like 5 rooms all being rented out. While she was pregnant we’d hang out and chill, she’d even get really jealous. I confessed to him one day that I was bisexual but keep to myself and haven’t explored much. After that day he’d be real affectionate with like prolonged eye contact, trying to feed me food when we eat together, sometimes even feeding eachother and eating out of the same plate with the same utensil, playing with my belly button and sometimes pinching my nipples when we’d hug each-other. It would be times where he’d even choose to hang with me over spending time with his girl. Fast forward.. once that baby got here and she went into overdrive with trying to throw pussy at him, she even started doing whatever she could to replace any moments we’d have by doing them now, like smoking and going to eat at the places me and him used to go. Pretty much trying to replace all the stuff we used to do and do it with him now. He’s become a little cold and very distant. We barely talk anymore. We used to wrestle and smack eachothers butts, one time he pretended he was gonna finger me saying all kind of stuff. In any event, has anybody ever experienced anything similar? And what was this that I experienced? A man with repressed desire? Or just hormones that were looking to fill a void temporarily? It’s been so confusing and there are millions of layers to this story that I just wouldn’t be able to fit all here so that’s the skinny. Sb: weve known eachother for about one year, January 2026 makes a year.

 

[jamiesux]

How does that work? Is there porn?

What are you actually after I wonder!! Some hot sex with another man or Porn.. both can be very addictive... ????

I like to ask so called bi guys 'have you actually touched another man sexually, his cock etc., EVER?'
The amount of times a man says, 'never' and then five minutes later confesses.. I will never forget the blowjob from my best friend when his parents were away one weekend..
Technically that is, 'I've touched another man. I've had sexual touching with another man'.

I'm not against bisexuality as bisexuals are one of the highly discriminated groups in the so called LGB+++ group. I learned this from a conference in Germany from a bi sex guy who was there with his wife.

I've chatted with guys, over many years, who start having curiosities but remain only in that fantasy. I realise things can be very difficult to initiate sex with anyone else outside of a relationship if one is afraid of being 'outed'.

I think the idea of going to a Bate club is good and I like to suggest having an erotic massage with a Man while will touch you, let you touch him and even bring you to shooting your load.. at least that is something rather than living in a fantasy of 'hard man to man sex'.. I'm not against porn (I'm on here afterall).. I just want men to experience things, get to know their own minds and bodies and I know full well what it is like to sit on the computer and have all sorts of fantasies and then it is hard to leave ones warm snug home to travel to get this sex/contact.

I've attended a Bate Club only twice and for various hang ups of my own it wasn't my thing. But it is supposedly a place of privacy and confidentiality..

Even as an out Gay Man, I don't want to be running into some idiot who addresses me in a supermarket, 'hey mate, that was a great time the other day'.

When I first got into Gay chat rooms, 1996, it was wild. Then I decided to meet ten men off the net. The first guy I met was the best I have to say. We had the best sex and he was already in a relationship.

The tenth guy accused me of lying about my height and my body. Apparently I was six foot tall (I'm actually 5'9" and he said he was 5'11") because I was taller than him!!!!!
We met in a coffee shop, so I suggest this unless you want to meet straight up for sex, no matter what.. It is up to you to decide.. meet someone, or go for blowing my load or his...!!!

If you are new to this, I'd suggest, take it easy.. using a different email / telephone number is alright for privacy and safety, but remember if you lie about anything else and the relationship takes off and lasts - even just as a cock sucker - then someone might reject you for lying!!!

Otherwise, have fun getting to know your desires and body and hopefully enjoy getting to know some really good men.

Personally, I find married men that are easy going the best.. no strings. No pressure.. they just want some fun in the moment.
As a gay man, once I started falling in love with them, then it is finished... just saying...

 

[1MWP]

The question that you and only you can answer, is the desire for sex with another man greater than the loyalty to your wife.
There is no right or wrong answer just a matter of conscience. If you decide to have sex with another man be prepared for a guilt trip although this will pass and as a warning sex with another man is adicktive

Highly adicktive. A rush like no other

 

[mrbigdoc]

I am a married man in my early 60s. As I have gotten older, my urges and thoughts for gay sex has increased pretty dramatically. While I love a woman's body, the desires to get physical with a masculine man consumes my mind. I don't look at straight porn anymore, it is 100% gay porn that centers around alpha type men my age engaging in aggressive sex. I fantasize about being a submissive bottom to a big dicked masculine man who takes charge and uses me for his pleasure. I have met a few guy off chat apps in the past, but never moved beyond cyber sex and meeting. Although they wanted to meet up again to have sex, I get too nervous and tend to chicken out, mostly because I think I will feel guilty about stepping out.

How do you married bi guys deal with the feelings/needs?

Me to the tee.... I always had a bi side to me as I got older it really took a hold of me the urges were so strong and getting stronger by the year. My wife knows of my bi past and she knows how I feel today. She is not crazy about it but she knows me very well and kind of understands. But I have gone out and met some guys and had a wonderful time. Just makes me want more. I am a top and a very oral top at that. I get it, we get that way I guess as we age, not sure why but I sure read so much about others like us. I say enjoy what we enjoy.

 

[WilliamG]

Yeah, for me it would be nothing, but physical, no romance. Thanks for your reply, I am sure there are others just like us.

I think you'll find that unlike a relationship or hookup with a woman... There's very little drama. You meet, things happen, you leave. I tell others it's like what I'm sure a golfer feels like when they leave for the day then come back. That's how it is for me. Sniffies has been a great resource for finding discreet playmates. I know some guys prefer the same one on one "fuckbuddy" situation. I kinda like variety. And as long as you don't swap fluids... You're pretty good to go.

 

[ohiocurious]

He and I have "swapped fluids" for a couple of years. It's been just him and me - and wifey, who doesn't know. He's the only one who's ever cum in my butt hole - we were each other's virgins. He only fucks me and has no other fuck buddies.