My early experience was a rape by instrumentation moment.
Beer bottle.
Iām so lucky it didnāt break.
Filed charges, got laughed out of the police station.
Fast forward 20odd years.
Iām dating a wonderful guy, 16 years my senior.
He asks, conversationally, in a string of flirting emails if Iāve ever done anal.
Not willingly, I reply.
He immediately apologizes, and says he doesnāt want to bring up bad memories. But does throw the āIād be slow and gentle line.ā
This gives me time to intellectualize the idea. Something that works in his favor.
Six months later, we are having a great play date. Heās about to go on tour.
We have been engaging in anal play both ways, and heās using his fingers.
He said, I canāt wait to have my dick in your ass.
I said, what are you waiting for?
He froze. I thought I broke him.
I look at him...heās in a stunned daze. It was hilarious.
I kissed him and said again, what are you waiting for?
He came to, flipped me over, ate me like groceries and went so slow and carefully.
Itās on the menu.
I loved it, 80 percent. The rest was meh.