If you have a perfect first date with someone and the sexual chemistry is amazing, would you rather end a date with a passionate kiss building up the anticipation or would you like to end a first date with sex?
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I'm really awful about delayed gratification so If we're both feeling it, it can end in sex.
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It took me a long time to learn this lesson, but there is absolutely no sex before monogamy. At least not if I'm interested in a relationship. (When I watched Millionaire Matchmaker, I discovered she has the same rule!)
Something changes after sex. Maybe it's the "hunter" instinct of the male that gets suppressed or something - he's literally "bagged" his catch; maybe it raises a woman's expectations, but something changes. Anyway nothing wrong with waiting, it sweetens the delivery. And if it turns out the guy or girl isn't who you thought they were, it's easier to get out of.
Not putting done down anyone who puts out first date - I've done it myself. This is just what I've learned over the years. The ones worth it, will wait. So, I'm a first night hug and maybe a kiss.
Something changes after sex. Maybe it's the "hunter" instinct of the male that gets suppressed or something - he's literally "bagged" his catch; maybe it raises a woman's expectations, but something changes. Anyway nothing wrong with waiting, it sweetens the delivery. And if it turns out the guy or girl isn't who you thought they were, it's easier to get out of.
Not putting done down anyone who puts out first date - I've done it myself. This is just what I've learned over the years. The ones worth it, will wait. So, I'm a first night hug and maybe a kiss.
Only once in my life have I had sex on a first date, and that's only because we had some history together.
I've had more passionate kissing episodes though. That's always nice! That's not to say I didn't want to have sex, but I did possess an unusual amount of self-restraint then. My resistance is much lower now.
I've had more passionate kissing episodes though. That's always nice! That's not to say I didn't want to have sex, but I did possess an unusual amount of self-restraint then. My resistance is much lower now.
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I'd like to say i used to stop at just a kiss but half the time if it went really well, I seemed to end up staying the night!
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Personally I'd rather end a first date (if it's gone well) with a soft sweet kiss, that is, if I'm just getting to know the guy. If it's a case of we've known each other for some time then I'd probably be open to a longer make-out session. Although I wouldn't set a timeline on when sex will happen I've pretty much determined from experience that first date sex is not for me.
I feel a little traditional romance and courtship makes the sex better. I've had exactly one one-night stand and the sex was terrible. I learned that having sex with a man I'm unfamiliar with didn't bring with it the desire I needed to enjoy sex. I like to get to know a guy, see what kind of man he is. Bottom line, I can have sex anytime I want. Sex is easy. I want more than that if I'm going to sleep with a guy.
I really don't believe a "passionate kiss" is possible after a first date with a guy you're just getting to know. Passion and emotion go hand in hand in my book. There has to be some strong feelings, feelings that come with time, feelings that intensify, for a state of passion to exist. A first date kiss that would lead to sex is more about lust than passion.
I have to disagree with you about you can't have a passionate kiss on the first date but I agree about courtship making the sex better as a traditional romantic guy. thanks for your response
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I would prefer not to develop an emotional attachment to man if the sex isn't going to work out. If the chemistry is there already, and we're both interested, I'd rather have sex right away. One of the best flings I had was with a man who kissed me within the first ten minutes of our first date. For several hours we continued to get to know each other better, picking up from conversations we'd had on the phone leading up to the date. After several hours of hilarious and revealing conversation, we started getting a little handsy, and when I felt confident he would not go all weird on me if I fucked him, I passed him a condom as an invitation, which he accepted. I almost always have sex on the first date, and only once has that caused a one-night stand.
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