flirting

[twoton]

If you're flirting with a guy, do you do it when your SO is there?

 

[EllieP]

Sweetie, I flirt 24/7. Yes, I flirt in my sleep. I cannot help it, I just do it. It doesn't mean anything, but I know people take it the wrong way. It's just me.

My husband is resigned to it. He knows I'm going to do it, but he also knows that I'm going home only with him.

 

[AlteredEgo]

Nooo. He allows me to pursue other men, but I'm not supposed to do it in his face!

 

[paigexox]

I try and avoid it. Flagrant flirting with another man, in front of your own man, seems impolite to me unless it is happening under some "favorable or appreciated" context.

See? Always leave an ambiguous loophole.

 

[SprinkleMe69]

I'm a natural flirt but I do not do it in front of a SO.

 

[redz_rule]

I never flirt IRL, I think it's been conditioned out of me. Too many non-flirtatious conversations had been taken the wrong way while I was still in my teens for me to drop my guard very often since. I looked older than I was (as a lot of girls do past a certain age) and picked up a bit of a stalker for a while. I'll always remember my mum being absolutely furious with me, shouting that I must have said or done something to cause it. I was mortified and completely dumbfounded because I had never even said so much as 'hello' to the guy. That experience had a lasting effect.

There is also the fact that if I was enormously attracted to someone, I'd be far more likely to blush and go shy than engage in outrageous flirtation. I have certainly never flirted in front of a partner, one of my exes was very jealous - the idea of flirting with anyone in front of him... *shudder*

Actually, thinking about it, I think the only time I flirt is here! Must be something to do with the 'safety' of distance/anonymity. Oh, and with a couple of gay guy-friends.

 

[AlteredEgo]

redz, I know what you mean. I used to flirt with customers at my last job. It was fun, and great for sales. But it was just meant to be harmless ego-stroking. I never did it if they came in with a female partner, and if they were gay men shopping together, I flirted with both so if they were a couple no one had to feel put out. Usually, even shoppers not attracted to me (het women and gay dudes, and straight dudes who just were not into me) understood that I was just being playful, and took it in stride.

A lot of times wives or girlfriends would show up just as we were heading to the cashier and shut down my sale. every once in a while, some dude would ask me out after they were done shopping. I'd confess to being married which didn't deter most of them. Those were always awkward moments for me, and I'd stop flirting with anyone for a bit afterward. But flirting is so fun and giggle-inducing that cessation was never permanent. Plus, happy, giggly people spend more money on frivolous shit, and I did have my stats to consider.

But (outside a swinger venue) I never flirt in front of my Dude, and I never knowingly flirt with anyone in front of his or her SO. (Scratch that. I will flirt with a woman in front of her husband unless her response indicates I should stop.)

 

[xX_Sarah_Xx]

I don't always know I'm flirting, I just have a way of interacting with people that's smooth and easy and I like to smile and laugh and touch and hug a lot. Some people consider it flirting. I guess it's just a natural thing for me.

Would I do it in front of my SO? I guess so... I mean, I'm me. If he loves me he should take me for who I am. If it bothers him, I might try to put a hold to the "flirting", but I believe that if he's confident in our relationship, he should have no cause to feel jealous. So I would question him about that.

 

[Mercurygirl]

No. I wouldn't like him doing it around me so I don't do it around him. To be honest I don't do it at all whether he's around or not. I'm a one guy type of gal. I'm not saying that women who do it are somehow cheating or it's bad. I'm sure it's quite harmless it's that it's just not for me. I'd end up feeling guilty and think that I was somehow betraying our intimacy/love. When guys flirt with me I feel awkward and uncomfortable. I must come off as a cold bitch because I never reciprocate, not even a little. But that stems from experience because when I have been nice about it the guy sees it as a sign that it's OK to continue the behavior. Since I don't welcome it I feel the need to nip it in the bud with a blank silent stare. Which usually works and gets the message across.

 

[julesq]

Both my husband and I are flirts. I can turn it on and off whereas he can't it's his nature. If it happens and our mate is there it is not a big deal. There are times I like to purposely flirt in front of him to turn him on. I am very careful not to do it if we are out with friends because I don't think they would get it. The bottom line for both of us is it doesn't matter how often or how blatantly we flirt, we each know we are ONLY going home with one another.