Do you think it's ok to call someone "fucking deluded" and "brainwashed", and make assumptions about their life.... just because you misread their post?
Yeah, I used strong language, intentionally. Because frankly, sometimes strong language is the only thing that cuts through the passive aggressive nonsense that gets dressed up as “reasonable discussion” on here.
“Yeah I mean it’s not small” read as a snide, backhanded comment. It sounded like someone trying to sound balanced while quietly undermining — like saying “it’s fine, I guess” about something clearly above average. That kind of subtle undermining contributes exactly to the warped body expectations that forums like this often feed into.
So yes, I called it out directly. I said fucking deluded and brainwashed because when people constantly measure real bodies against porn standards, that’s what it is.
Honestly, if more people were willing to speak plainly instead of constantly tiptoeing around egos, we might have a healthier baseline for what normal even is.
If someone clarifies their comment, great, and dialogue moves on. But don’t pretend I kicked a puppy just because I didn’t wrap my opinion in bubble wrap. If you’re more outraged by my tone than by the toxic standards being reinforced, then maybe ask yourself why that gets a pass and I don’t.
I’m not here to babysit feelings. I’m here to challenge bullshit when I see it and if I ruffle a few delicate feathers in the process, so be it.