Hi,
I've lurked on the forums a bit, but this will be my first post here. I'd like to get some opinions on something. My gf and I are in a long distance relationship, and this is something that she told me about recently. Recently she and a 2 other friends went over a third friend's house for dinner. At the dinner, they shared a couple bottles of wine, a few joints, and some whiskey. She had never smoked pot before and was curious so she took a few puffs. While they're smoking pot the friend that is hosting the dinner starts leaning into my gf and starts rubbing her hands. And then after a while he starts rubbing her hands and thighs under the table. This continues until they leave his house. As they leave the house, the guy that's hosting the dinner tries to hold her back and urges her to stay. She wants to go, and doesn't know how to respond so she hugs him and says he's drunk and leaves with her other friend. When my gf told me this she said that she was feeling cold because the AC was on pretty high so she was glad that the guy was keeping her warm. She said that she didn't think at the time that it was weird that he was rubbing her hands, and she only realized later that he was flirting with her.
When she told me this, I was kind of upset at her because she let him touch her throughout the dinner without thinking much of it, and so I responded callously. She became upset because she said she was in a confusing situation and thought that I should have been more comforting towards her. I guess I'd like to hear some opinions on how I should have responded when she told me what happened.
I've lurked on the forums a bit, but this will be my first post here. I'd like to get some opinions on something. My gf and I are in a long distance relationship, and this is something that she told me about recently. Recently she and a 2 other friends went over a third friend's house for dinner. At the dinner, they shared a couple bottles of wine, a few joints, and some whiskey. She had never smoked pot before and was curious so she took a few puffs. While they're smoking pot the friend that is hosting the dinner starts leaning into my gf and starts rubbing her hands. And then after a while he starts rubbing her hands and thighs under the table. This continues until they leave his house. As they leave the house, the guy that's hosting the dinner tries to hold her back and urges her to stay. She wants to go, and doesn't know how to respond so she hugs him and says he's drunk and leaves with her other friend. When my gf told me this she said that she was feeling cold because the AC was on pretty high so she was glad that the guy was keeping her warm. She said that she didn't think at the time that it was weird that he was rubbing her hands, and she only realized later that he was flirting with her.
When she told me this, I was kind of upset at her because she let him touch her throughout the dinner without thinking much of it, and so I responded callously. She became upset because she said she was in a confusing situation and thought that I should have been more comforting towards her. I guess I'd like to hear some opinions on how I should have responded when she told me what happened.