Giant size problem

[sexialexia]

Originally posted by friskykitty@Oct 15 2004, 08:41 PM
sexialexia....

i don't doubt your situation because i am experiencing about the same thing. not only can i not get my hand completely around his penis, i can hardly get more than an inch past the head of his penis in my mouth. so we end up doing other things and using other parts of my body....but not my vagina yet. he has issues about his size, and has also been rejected more so than accepted because of his size(he's almost 30 and only had sexual relations with one woman because of it, other women he dated rejected him on the spot after seeing it). he was really flakey with me at first when we started getting intimate because as he says he "didn't want to ruin the moment." which of course it wouldn't have ruined it for me because i want to make him happy regardless. i desire to have sexual intercourse with him but i know that i will not be able to for a long time. it will take a lot of working up to on my part....but then again maybe i give my body more credit than it has. it may never be possible for me to have sex with him and that worries me because i don't want to lose him because of it. so in some respects i share the same issue as he does....in that he thinks he's too big, and i think i'm too small. this is a very mental situation, its difficult to determine when to stop or to let go. i've considered breaking it off with him because i'm not sure i will be able to make him happy sexually and i'm a monogamous type when it comes to relationships. he's assured me that the sex wasn't the most important thing to him, which i was happy about....but i am still concerned.

i also don't doubt that many other women, and men for that matter, go through this. thank you for sharing your situation, it gives me some hope.

~frisky

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Friskykitty I am very moved by your story. You obviously have tender feelings for him and feel that you would have a warm and close long term relationship with him. My friend entering me is still quite painful for me but it is easing up. We have only been going together for a few months and I have stretched enough just in this short period so that it doesn't remind me of childbirth. So please persevere and dismiss all thoughts of breaking up. You've got a great thing going and they don't come along too often. I hope you post regularly and keep everyone updated. All the best Alexia

 

[Mr.Stout]

I am very glad to see this whole thread on here from a womans perspective. I don't post much for the very reason we saw here with many people scrutinizing the original posters thoughts.
Anyway, I truly understand from the mans end how this feels. I have written this before but here it is again.
My wife and I have been married for 6 yrs now. We have 4 children and everything seems great, except in bed. We have only actually had intercourse now about 7 times. We were both virgins and had never conceived of any problems but she is just small and I am just too big. We don't beleive in divorce, so no matter how tough it has been for us it is worth it because it just keeps getting better. I am only 10 x 8 and I am sure there would be many women out there who could take me more then my wife but it is not about sex in a relationship, it is only just one small part of it.
(Please before any one asks the dumb question of how we could have children with out intercourse, take note I am a biology teacher and can and will provide all the details in great depth)
sexialexia,
Please remember patience love and understanding can overcome anything of any size including the size of his penis. Frustration will happen but it is only fleeting.
So Best of Luck for the next time!
GE

 

[madame_zora]

Aww, all the love- this is what a support group is supposed to be!

Mr Stout, your story is enlightening- I am sure there are many couples out there who have experienced what you describe, but for many reasons these things just don't come to light. One of the things I've learned from members here is how much the "normal sized" world really does NOT want to hear about large penis issues! They don't really want to acknowledge your existance, but less the thought that you may actually be a human being and (dare I say it?) in need of help. Most men assume a big penis automatically means an easy life, lots of chicks, confidence in bed, and a whole rash of other idiotic notions. I get flamed regularly for reminding ppl that this support group is here for supporting large penises, not small penises. This is the one place on earth you should feel free to discuss the things peculiar to your life, and not feel you need to apologise to the rest of the world for your size. It is inspiring to hear that you have kept a strong marriage in light of the difficulties you've encountered.

Alexia, you are going to become a fast favorite of mine! I love how you took the time to respond to each of us, you show your nature easily and I find it very appealing. I hope you will post a lot, we will all benefit from your perspectives.
You and your b/f seem to be in a very mutually beneficial relationship, helping each other out lovingly. It's amazing what we can accomplish when duly compelled.

 

[13788]

monstro:

Originally posted by madame_zora@Oct 16 2004, 12:02 PM
...this support group is here for supporting large penises, not small penises. This is the one place on earth you should feel free to discuss the things peculiar to your life, and not feel you need to apologise to the rest of the world for your size.

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Hear, hear! Well said

 

[sexialexia]

Originally posted by madame_zora@Oct 16 2004, 12:02 PM
Aww, all the love- this is what a support group is supposed to be!

Mr Stout, your story is enlightening- I am sure there are many couples out there who have experienced what you describe, but for many reasons these things just don't come to light. One of the things I've learned from members here is how much the "normal sized" world really does NOT want to hear about large penis issues! They don't really want to acknowledge your existance, but less the thought that you may actually be a human being and (dare I say it?) in need of help. Most men assume a big penis automatically means an easy life, lots of chicks, confidence in bed, and a whole rash of other idiotic notions. I get flamed regularly for reminding ppl that this support group is here for supporting large penises, not small penises. This is the one place on earth you should feel free to discuss the things peculiar to your life, and not feel you need to apologise to the rest of the world for your size. It is inspiring to hear that you have kept a strong marriage in light of the difficulties you've encountered.

Alexia, you are going to become a fast favorite of mine! I love how you took the time to respond to each of us, you show your nature easily and I find it very appealing. I hope you will post a lot, we will all benefit from your perspectives.
You and your b/f seem to be in a very mutually beneficial relationship, helping each other out lovingly. It's amazing what we can accomplish when duly compelled.

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Madame Zora I typed out a message to send to you but when I hit Send Message the words on the screen said NO Such Member. I'm confused. Alexia

 

[madame_zora]

I think when I set up my membership I had an underscore in my name that has since disappeared. Try madame_zora. I'd love to hear from you.

 

[philberttrw]

Originally posted by madame_zora@Oct 15 2004, 09:06 AM

I'll never be able to express how much I appreciate each and every person who has been open enough with me to let me learn from you all! How delicate we all are and how similar in our needs to be accepted.

Awww, MadameZora... I love you! You should PM me sometime ;-)

 

[13788]

Just A Guy:

Originally posted by madame_zora@Oct 15 2004, 08:06 PM
Gottabigone summed up what is a major issue for many hung guys- being faced with the idea that someone out there is bigger is a huge blow to the ego, even for the stout of heart. Most of these guys have been hearing all their lives "that's the biggest cock I've ever seen" by thier partners, so they are reticent to believe a bigger one exists.

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I have a hard time accepting that. You think most men who have experienced problems with their partners because of their penis size are going to be jealous of an even bigger man and so deny they exist? That does not wash with me personally, any thoughts like that were cut bitterly out of me early on. When my friend told me he could not get blowjobs because he was too thick I did not envy him, I pitied him. My length has caused me my own problems, why would I add to them by wanting his? Once you are above a certain size the blessing becomes a curse, but only those who stand on that threshold or go beyond it are the ones who know it.

Then along comes someone who says they are even larger who proceeds to assure everyone that their ladies go absolutely wild over the size and feel of their huge cock. Hung men shake their heads sadly and wonder just what species of female this guy is putting his blessing in. While it obviously does no good to question the authenticity of some of the messages here my own bad experiences with being moderately hung would indicate there are too many people here too happy with their too big penises (that is from a heterosexual perspective, I can appreciate the gay community being more size driven and size-accepting)

Please note, what I wrote does not bear comment on this particular thread, just on what you wrote and the general tone of this message board. I have always found it a little bizarre and off-putting that a board that purports to offer support for men with large penises would have a message sub group entitled Making It Bigger. It only helps contribute to the feeling of unreality here.

As a side note about girth, when I go down on my lady I take a cucumber with me, and she can accommodate one up to 9 and a half inches in circumference at best, and she was able to give birth to 2 10lb+ babies without tearing. Therefore I just don’t see claims of 13 inches as being credible at all for vaginal accommodation, let alone size of penis.

 

[GottaBigOne]

What Madam zora and I were saying is that for SOME men who have larger than average sized penises but suffer no detriment, hearing about an even bigger penis might stroke them the wrong way and make them want to automatically dismiss such claims. Being on the large side of usuable pleasurable penis size is a big ego boost (has been for me, although recently I've run into problems where i felt "too big") and most men with these sized penises might like to feel like they are somehow special. A more complicated explanation might lie in the fear of being too big oneslef and not wanting to admit that there are penises out there that are "too big". Denying that having a big penis may be a problem for other people makes it a bit easier to dismiss ones own feelings of "super-adequacy".

 

[madame_zora]

Thanks, GBO, I wasn't going to "out" you on that one, but yes- sometimes some of the men I've talked to have shared those thoughts with me.

Just a guy, if these are not feelings you share, good for you, but why on earth would I lie about personal conversations? I was only sharing insights so that others might know they are not alone if they are feeling this way too. For some it's kind of a double-edged sword, they have cumbersome problems because of their size, but they still take delight in hearing their partners give them the "biggest dick on earth" title. This is usually from the guys who are not so large as to be unusable. It's often the guys in the 8 to 9 something range who haven't experienced some of the more traumatic effects of hugeness that are not eager to believe very huge ones exist. Some of these guys really do fantasize about being bigger! From their perspective, being above average is good, so being huge might be great. I know it seems silly, we all read the same stories of the difficulties of having a very large penis, but that's the male ego for you- it's not supposed to be logical.

 

[13788]

Just A Guy:

Originally posted by madame_zora@Oct 19 2004, 02:04 PM
Just a guy, if these are not feelings you share, good for you, but why on earth would I lie about personal conversations? I was only sharing insights so that others might know they are not alone if they are feeling this way too. For some it's kind of a double-edged sword, they have cumbersome problems because of their size, but they still take delight in hearing their partners give them the "biggest dick on earth" title. This is usually from the guys who are not so large as to be unusable. It's often the guys in the 8 to 9 something range who haven't experienced some of the more traumatic effects of hugeness that are not eager to believe very huge ones exist. Some of these guys really do fantasize about being bigger! From their perspective, being above average is good, so being huge might be great. I know it seems silly, we all read the same stories of the difficulties of having a very large penis, but that's the male ego for you- it's not supposed to be logical.

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I wouldn’t suggest you would lie, I was more wondering more about the mindset of who would reply saying they envied a man with a bigger penis when their own was causing difficulty. I suppose it must boil down to the severity and quantity of the problems encountered and sensitivity to their partners attitude to it.

 

[GottaBigOne]

I have a pretty large penis (8 6/8 x 6 1/2) but it by no means "unusable", sometimes I do fantasize about it being huge to the point of it being "unusable" in actuality I would not want it to be any bigger, I have run into problems with it recently so this still remains a fantasy. Sometimes when I'm fucking and it hurts the girl it does make me feel good in a way. It also makes me feel like shit, like a freak so there is a bit of a depressing contradiction. The male ego really is something that is not logical Madam.

 

[Peter Wood]

Thank you sexialexia for starting this topic and all others for your replies. This shows the world of the well-endowed men and the problems their wives or partners have to overcome. If you love some one deeply you will please her / him also sexually, no matter how. Nature can be hard ......... (yes I know what I am talking about&#33
Some men do know nothing about the size they wish between their legs...!

 

[madame_zora]

Very true, and GBO has been very forthcoming about things many men have said to me privately. Damn, what a great group we have here!! I was shocked to find that even very well hung men were often so very obsessed with wishing it bigger. A few have discussed penile enlargements, or just a wierd depression at not being 12"+, unbelievable as it sounds. Why would you want to trade something that most would consider "perfect" for something that is in all practicality unusable? Ego. Plain and simple. Our society is very competitive, and most men feel a need to win, excel, be the best, take home the blue ribbon......have the biggest dick. See, it's just not good enough to be very good. While logically this is absurd, that has nothing to do with the fact that more than a few men experience these feelings, even feelings of inadequacy. One trap that some well hung men fall into is that they learn to define their self worth through their penis size. When you are identified early on as "the guy with the big dick", you learn to focus on it yourself as your main asset. When it's greatness is "challenged", it sets off feelings of fear, insecurity, self doubt, same as with any other man, only he often will not have "something to fall back on". Most normal men had to learn to accept early on that they didn't have the biggest dick in the world, but they're damned good at _______. Well, if you think your best asset IS your dick, when a bigger one comes along, it's traumatic. Like you've been "dethroned" from a chair you were pretty damned comfortalbe in!

I hope I've gotten this right, guys please feel free to add insights if you like. I don't want to embarass anyone, but to make people understand, support really is why we're here.

 

[hung_uk]

Originally posted by madame_zora@Oct 19 2004, 03:33 PM
Very true, and GBO has been very forthcoming about things many men have said to me privately. Damn, what a great group we have here!! I was shocked to find that even very well hung men were often so very obsessed with wishing it bigger. A few have discussed penile enlargements, or just a wierd depression at not being 12"+, unbelievable as it sounds. Why would you want to trade something that most would consider "perfect" for something that is in all practicality unusable? Ego. Plain and simple. Our society is very competitive, and most men feel a need to win, excel, be the best, take home the blue ribbon......have the biggest dick. See, it's just not good enough to be very good. While logically this is absurd, that has nothing to do with the fact that more than a few men experience these feelings, even feelings of inadequacy. One trap that some well hung men fall into is that they learn to define their self worth through their penis size. When you are identified early on as "the guy with the big dick", you learn to focus on it yourself as your main asset. When it's greatness is "challenged", it sets off feelings of fear, insecurity, self doubt, same as with any other man, only he often will not have "something to fall back on". Most normal men had to learn to accept early on that they didn't have the biggest dick in the world, but they're damned good at _______. Well, if you think your best asset IS your dick, when a bigger one comes along, it's traumatic. Like you've been "dethroned" from a chair you were pretty damned comfortalbe in!

I hope I've gotten this right, guys please feel free to add insights if you like. I don't want to embarass anyone, but to make people understand, support really is why we're here.

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There is a British porn star called Omar who had a 10 inch cock, but then underwent surgery to have it extended to 12 inches! Mental! I sort of know a girl who used to go out with him. His decision might have been made for ego reasons, as Madam Zora suggests, or it could have been for professional reasons. Either way, it's crazy imho.

 

[GottaBigOne]

Originally posted by madame_zora@Oct 19 2004, 03:33 PM
When you are identified early on as "the guy with the big dick", you learn to focus on it yourself as your main asset. When it's greatness is "challenged", it sets off feelings of fear, insecurity, self doubt, same as with any other man, only he often will not have "something to fall back on". Most normal men had to learn to accept early on that they didn't have the biggest dick in the world, but they're damned good at _______. Well, if you think your best asset IS your dick, when a bigger one comes along, it's traumatic. Like you've been "dethroned" from a chair you were pretty damned comfortalbe in!

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I couldn't have said it any better, Madam you definately have a very good insight into the male mind.

 

[GottaBigOne]

I just realized that what we have been talking about can be well illustrated in my signature, although it was originally said in jest, it is very revealing.