Girth problems - how do you handle it?

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My wife is extremely tight and it was only last year that we finally figured out that my girth is the issue. She is still working with increasing diameters of dildos and vibrators and she has made some progress but she is still not able to take me comfortably vaginally. But she is still working on it and is having some fun with the vibrators.
 

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Love-it said:
My wife is extremely tight and it was only last year that we finally figured out that my girth is the issue. She is still working with increasing diameters of dildos and vibrators and she has made some progress but she is still not able to take me comfortably vaginally. But she is still working on it and is having some fun with the vibrators.

I am sure that this is the best answer; but it can't be rushed. Lots of foreplay and lube, and then, once you can enter, add length incrementally and slowly.
 

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It takes a lot of patience, gentleness and long foreplay and even that fails sometimes. She has to be fired up and it is my experience that she needs to be on top so she can control the potential discomfort. At least until she becomes comfortable.
 

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beautifulthings said:
This is actually what I am doing on this site!!! I googled "larpe penis discomfort" because i got tired of my dude always bitching about the average number of times people have sex during each session and each week vs. us and always complaining that I never put out.

I'd like a serious answer to this question too. When we have sex it is wonderful, marvelous, fantastic. I have the best orgasms and i make sure he does too but once I come, its a wrap. I feel sore, and the friction is unbearable and I have to skip like a day or two before I can even think about sex again without feeling all grossed out. This has been our pattern for the whole 14 years we've been fucking. I'm not getting any operations, neither is he, I am really careful about putting chemicals in my body and he'll cheat before he contents himself with jerking off so...
What sayest thou?
I sayest that it sounds like you suck in bed and have spent 14 years with someone who doesn't really care about you and is only using you for sex. Congratulations on your life.
 

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After one or two babies pass through there a monster penis should be no problem...

Seriously though if it's not possible to warm her up to the point where she can take it (you are dealing with the laws of physics here) you either need to find other activities with her that satisfy you or find another girl where the fit is better.



Perhaps there should be a dating site based on girth and length. Men/Tops put their measurements out there, Women/Bottoms put their range preferences.



Thicknesses range could be pencil to beer can
Length range could be stubbie to kielbasa
 

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Patience, patience, and more patience...liberally doused in foreplay and emotional connection...

There is no other pleasant way unless she just has a gaping hole...

...OB
 

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Honestly, my experience with the seriously hung was never pleasant at first. After I turned 30, I started trying poppers, and realized they do work. Poppers are chemicals in vials you sniff and breathe momentarily, and then woosh off to higher altitudes for a few minutes. That's how you loosen up and feel less pain getting to the peak of the girth. After that, you can stay grounded and handle the banging. There are some cheap poppers, and some good ones. Make sure, and some don't work for individuals.
 

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Foreplay and excitement are the keys. I'm pretty tight down there, and my man is quite thick, but by the time we're ready to put it in he's gotten me so horny and wet that I stretch to accomodate him without a problem.
 

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I usually finger her with one and then later two and then three fingers to get her opened up. Then I'll start to stretch my fingers slightly inside her, touching her walls and stretching her and smearing her juices everywhere.

Also. I finger her while she uses her magic wand in forplay. I hold my hand palm up and she put the head of the magic wand on her clit against the palm of my hand. I then tap on her g-spot and massage it with vibrating fingers and she usually haves 5-8 orgasms that way before I mount her.

Actually, her inner muscles are spasming then and it's harder to push in. But she's so delerious at that point, I think it all feels good. At least at that point I don't hurt her. Her vagina feels pretty soft and stretchable, and it's certainly slippery enough, after all those orgasms.

But we are every other day lovers at best. I never thought of it ini terms of her hurting the next day, but she's always had a rule about that and now I can understand it from her perspective. When you're that big, a recovery day is required, unfortunately. My wife gets uti's after sex a lot. It seems from other posts here that that is another symptom of a guy being really hung.
 

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Well in my experience...

Watch your cutesy love for each other slowly fade into bitter resentment... attempt foreplay on someone who finds everything about it 'icky'... continue on with an unfulfilled relationship for a bit... then finally break up and find a slutty drug addict with a looser orifice.

But that's just my story, can't speak for anybody else.

Wow, somebody woke up on the wrong side of the bed July 27th. :tongue:

But seriously, druggies are easier lays. Get on that shit.
 

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i've only had this problem a few times, and mostly it just came down to taking it slowly at first...letting her get comfortable with it and wet enough where we could both go a bit harder and faster. and of course a quick interlude to go down on her for a bit longer, or play with her clit and whisper dirty nothings in her ear can also do wonders. ;)
 

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The only times I've had this problem was when the girl wasn't REALLY into it, and/or I was too "eager".

It seems if a girl really wants to, she can take me no problem. At least that's how it is with current girl. She's gonna get shagged silly on Saturday.
 

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After one or two babies pass through there a monster penis should be no problem...

Seriously though if it's not possible to warm her up to the point where she can take it (you are dealing with the laws of physics here) you either need to find other activities with her that satisfy you or find another girl where the fit is better.

Babies don't help at all. My wife had two. My wife doesn't complain, but I can see it in her face, and has told me why she has a pained look. Finding another woman is not going to happen.