guy's experiments
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Yes, when I was 15, I met the new guy in town. He seems about as ordinary and "regular" as I thought myself to be, but that was the beginning of a two year relationship which revealed to us both a side of our sexuality which we had not ever considered before. Ever since that time I have never called myself 100% straight. I am a happily married man and have always considered myself fortunate in the male bonding in that teen relationship. We learned by doing and the sex was great and only became better with each repeat and new discovery of ways in which men can bond.
I haven't had any homosexual experience, unless you count masturbating with a friend (not mutual).
Naturally one cannot speak for all males, but it seems to me that our society does a disservice to little boys growing up. Constantly, we seemed to have been reminded that there are certain things boys do and don't do: "Boys don't cry; boys don't hug and kiss other boys; boys mow the lawn while girls help mother make the beds; and the list goes on and on."
Children find themselves confused when they are told not to do those things which to them seem so natural and harmless. What both sexes have often been told with regard to "playing with their private parts" has laid unnecessary guilt trips on innocent children. The sad thing is that these "learnings" are carried into adult life. As a teen I was delighted to find one other boy who was not "freaked out" by close bodily contact, even those contacts outside of rough play. How many men do you know for whom anything closer than a handshake or a pat on the back seems too close for comfort? Some would say we men have to get in touch with our feminine side; I would say what we need is much broader: we have to dare to get in touch with our humanity; we have to dare to be in touch with our unique human sexuality as persons.
What two persons do together sexually in all cases ought to feel natural and right and this requires that we examine and deeply question the attitudes, prohibitions, and models which have been laid on us. Then we will not speak of experiments; we will do what ought to come naturally. I am glad to be a man; I have been happy as a married man, but I am grateful that in my journey I was put in touch with a side of my sexuality I had not thought much about before. Was it an experiment? Not really. I was surprised and eager to continue to enjoy it; for the last two years of high school I learned much about myself and I knew a whole lot of what it meant to love. We learned by doing; the sex was great; and, as men who are aging too fast we treasure the love we have for each other including the memory of the sexual love we shared so long ago. My advice would be: don't let anything or anyone define you with a label. Live and enjoy!
Children find themselves confused when they are told not to do those things which to them seem so natural and harmless. What both sexes have often been told with regard to "playing with their private parts" has laid unnecessary guilt trips on innocent children. The sad thing is that these "learnings" are carried into adult life. As a teen I was delighted to find one other boy who was not "freaked out" by close bodily contact, even those contacts outside of rough play. How many men do you know for whom anything closer than a handshake or a pat on the back seems too close for comfort? Some would say we men have to get in touch with our feminine side; I would say what we need is much broader: we have to dare to get in touch with our humanity; we have to dare to be in touch with our unique human sexuality as persons.
What two persons do together sexually in all cases ought to feel natural and right and this requires that we examine and deeply question the attitudes, prohibitions, and models which have been laid on us. Then we will not speak of experiments; we will do what ought to come naturally. I am glad to be a man; I have been happy as a married man, but I am grateful that in my journey I was put in touch with a side of my sexuality I had not thought much about before. Was it an experiment? Not really. I was surprised and eager to continue to enjoy it; for the last two years of high school I learned much about myself and I knew a whole lot of what it meant to love. We learned by doing; the sex was great; and, as men who are aging too fast we treasure the love we have for each other including the memory of the sexual love we shared so long ago. My advice would be: don't let anything or anyone define you with a label. Live and enjoy!
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Yeah -- I can relate. While I was a comfortably heterosexual bachelor a gay friend (we never had a sexual relationship) asked if I'd like to visit a gay bathhouse in San Francisco. This was like being asked to take a peek at a forbidden "dark side." I was busy being liberal non-judgmental, and would never have otherwise had a chance. We went together. Inside we separated so he could enjoy himself, and I spent a couple hours being totally amazed at the casual, anonymous sex, with a raging hard-on under a towel on that I ultimately satisfied alone. A few years later, on another visit to San Francisco, I returned to the bathhouse, quickly found a guy in a jacuzzi who wanted to get fucked in the ass, and (with a condom) satisfied his longing. Had to find out how it felt to fuck a guy. Pretty good, actually.
Avg Joe, having experiences on both sides is one thing and I wish more men would allow themselves to at least consider that their sexual orientation isn't set forever when they are young. But, there comes a time when one finds that person one is willing and eager to spend the rest of one's life with. In my case it was a dear lady and I did not ask her for permission to occasionally have sex with a man. Being a faithful husband has not been a problem for me. But, there was a price and I do not deny that I find still find some men sexually attractive, but having sex outside of my committed relationship is not my way. Life involves choices and part of being mature is honoring the commitments one makes.
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The 99% stat I hink is way off but it is a very high percentage. I am always amazed at the number of married guys who play, both now and when I was escorting in school. And plenty of college guys do experiment at least once. Had many calls from them inquiring, though few could afford it.
I haven't but since this is pretty anonymus I will admit I have thought about it. Overall I don't have any strong attraction for men but I am interested in cock (which is why I am on this site). I have a recurring fantasy of sucking off a guy with a big cock. If the opportunity comes up, I'm pretty sure I'd go for it.
I got fucked in the ass by a guy once. It was an internet arranged meeting. It didn't feel that good because he came rapidly and I guess he didn't have so much stamina. He did have a big cock tough. I loved sucking on it, it was awesome and I would love to do it again, but with a guy who would let me fuck him too and also who could stay longer without coming.
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