Height Difference? Dating Advice

[Xyzor]

I'm a Gay male and have been seeing a boy remotely via zoom dates for the past few weeks. Everything has been going well and we're going to finally meet in a few weeks. There's just one potential problem - a height difference.

I'm 5'7 and he's anywhere from 5'10 to 6'1. He does not know (although he does see my instagram pictures?) how short I am. I'm worried that he'll be turned off and disengage once he finds out. Don't want him to be caught by surprise when we meet but am also afraid of sounding insecure in bringing this up beforehand. In fact, he complimented me the other day saying "you are so confident and it's really attractive."

Do gay men care about height? If it matters, I'm a more masculine top and (I think) he's a bottom, but do not know for sure.

How should I handle this? Should I bring it up?

 

[lttle1]

If you really want to warn him, you could just say something like, "By the way, I'm 5'7". How tall are you?" That wouldn't sound insecure, just curious. And yes, tall and short guys pair up, in all combinations of top, bottom, versatile.

 

[WilliamG]

I can't imagine height being an issue. I love tall women (I'm 6 foot). But I married one who is just 5 foot <ggg>. And for my bi side... Shorter guys are hot. Don't know why... And I would be more of a bottom if it happened.

 

[cedarizzo]

If he isn't interested in you because you are shorter than him, that would be very shallow. Not sure I would be interested in somebody who was that shallow.

 

[Tight_End_SC]

When I was in my 20's and early 30's it may have been an issue if the difference between our heights was substantial. At this point I can honestly say deeper traits of the other person (i.e., attitude, mental stability, and other aspects related to personalitiy) matter much more. Hey, when you're next to each other in bed, the spooning may be feel better if there is a height variance.

 

[cedarizzo]

I am 6'2" and I've always dated guys shorter than me. I dated a guy for a while that was much shorter than me, he was 5'6". The height difference was never an issue and it never bothered either one of us. We did have a few people who would mention it as a joke, but we would just laugh and change the subject. There are many things that I consider more important in a guy than his height. I do like tall guys, but I have never dated anybody my height. I would always be single if I waited for a tall to show up.

 

[AVx22]

Tell him your height. Pretend you're meeting in person. It really is that simple.

 

[Stephenmass]

You are not really that short. Generally one of the two is shorter than the other. Guy I'm seeing is your height. Never even thought about it.

 

[Emeraldvoid]

Anyone like a 6ft plus guy?

 

[Stephenmass]

I don't think height matters one way or the other. I either enjoy being with someone or I don't. That doesn't depend on their height.

 

[TouchMeHere]

I'm barely 5'6" on a good day and of slender stature. I mostly agree with what other guys have said but it's also true that I can find large men to be somewhat intimidating, or maybe it's overwhelming. There can just be too much person taking up too much space.

The best "gay-ish" relationship I've had was with a guy my same size, he was about 5'5" and thin. I also once dated a woman for a year who was 5'10."

I'm with a woman now who's 5'1" but if I dated a guy, all things being equal (which they never are) I'd prefer my same size. It all depends on the person though.

 

[9038421]

Remember you are the same height in bed. My mate he’s 6ft 7” and his boyfriend is 5ft 5” they been together 2-3yrs and great time.

 

[HorseHung40's]

This reminds of conversations that I have had with clients during my gigolo days. I was curious about those physical attributes I had that made them want to pay for sex with me.

Although this is a few decades old, here is the approximate list in order as I remember it:
1.) Attractive face;
2.) Youth;
3.) Physique;
4.) Penis size;
5.) Manners;
6.) Ability to hold an intelligent conversation.

I am 6ft2, although no paying client ever praised me for my height.