help with girlfriend
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It's different for every couple at different times in their relationship. If you think there's a mismatch in expectations or libido, talk to her about it & try to find a compromise, e.g. is there anything you can do to your job to be less tired all the time, or are there sensual/intimate things you can do together other than sex when you are tired?
The Dragon
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Spend the weekends in bed fucking like ferrets.
Come Monday morning she'll be sore, bow legged and happy and then spend the rest of the week seducing her and sending little reminder txts.
Lots of small gestures mean everything.
You can add spice even if you are busy and tired.
Come Monday morning she'll be sore, bow legged and happy and then spend the rest of the week seducing her and sending little reminder txts.
Lots of small gestures mean everything.
You can add spice even if you are busy and tired.
The Dragon
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Yep.
One special guy and I had to negotiate the whole weekend in bed thing because we did try week night play dates and we'd stagger into work the next morning zombie like.
It was seriously jeopardizing our careers and so we decided that we would nurture the bond *seduction* during the week and save up all the lust for the weekends.
It's just a matter of negotiation and finding a happy middle ground.
Ditto Dragon's advice. I can't add much, just talk to her, find a compromise.
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Once a week, no way. Depending on how old you are once a day and two or three on weekends.
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Since it's a "girlfriend" you are partnered with, I presume both of you are still young, in which case once a week indicates you have a lot of restraint. When I was in my mid-20's my girlfriend became my significant other, and a couple years later we got married. From our mid-20's to late 30's, we fucked once a day, sometimes twice (waking in the morning, and at night before sleep). My work wasn't laborious, such that it tired me out and killed any interest in sex, but it was stressful and the frequent sex with my wife was perfect to relieve the stress. Both of us enjoyed the frequent intimacy. With children it changes. The low level of sexual activity in these later years has me looking back with lust and longing. My suggestion: don't let those opportunities pass you by.
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1-2 per day on average...we are both pretty sexual people, even when I was working 16 hour days I would make time for us. I can't go much less than every other day before it takes a toll on me in quite a few ways....and my girlfriend now is the first I've had that actually can't even go without for one day...I'm in heaven!
When I had a job my stress level went to none. Did not jerk off for a month 1/2. Tell I quit it.
Did not like the area so I moved back to California. I prefer the big city.
well thanks for the advice, i have a hard time believeing that everyone has sex everyday, that makes me feel like an ass if its true, and yeah were young she is 21 im 25, i dont know my job is stressfull and i work long hours but i want her to be happy to its just tough for me to have sex every god damn day
Is it tough for you to shit, shower, and shave every day, tough to eat three meals every day, tough to stretch out in front of the TV for a while every day? Sex is worth making room for it somewhere in your daily schedule. It's a matter of priorities. Give up a breakfast, pass on the sports page, give up slurping a couple beers with TV. Gain some time wherever you can for your health and pleasure. Unless your libido is registering -10 you are probably jacking off for relief, so hold off and pump your girlfriend instead. If you continue the way you are now, do the world of women a favor and give up sexual relationships, because by the time you are 40 you will be a lost cause.
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