homoerotic behavior

was working in the office late at night, thought I heard someone knocking on the door . Had not seen any car drive in , unusual for someone to just arrive at the door ( live in the country ) at this time . I turned on the porch lights , was the same guy who asked to go hiking on the farm a few years ago , ended up asking if I jerked off with others . . I had not seen him for at least two years .
Yes, there he was with his dick in hand , looking to play . I stepped outside , enjoyed some time with him and he walked back to the car .
He has been here once a month since May - last visit was Wednesday night . Didn't see him drive in , just a knock on the door . he was standing there with his shorts down , dick and nuts over the waist band . I stepped out , he was already sitting on the bench on the back porch . I sat beside him , off came his shorts , so I removed mine . He asked if I had any beer , I brought out one for each of us - he clinked the bottles like we were old friends meeting at a bar . He walked back and forth on the porch a few times, then reached down and started to jerk me , so I jerked him . This is the first time he has stared anything , it was always me who made the first move .
A few minutes later he pulled up his shorts , walked to the car and left . Have a feeling he will be back
 
To many here, all male behavior can be construed as homoerotic, which is one reason straight men are wary of gay men. Who can blame them?
Those of us who are sane can blame them. They're so tough but are terrified they might be sexualized while sexualizing anything a woman does. Wary of what? Being attacked and having a cock shoved in their mouths?:laughing: So fragile and scared! A confident, grown man can take a compliment as a compliment no matter where it's from, can be secure in gay company knowing he may be desirable but isn't in danger (unlike women with many straight men and unfortunately, many lesbians--in the US, woman on woman violence is the most reported to the police in domestic violence cases, followed by women against men), and doesn't have to be wary of homoeroticism. Homosexual aggression is another story, and yes, a shit ton of gays need to back the fuck off and stop treating every guy like meat for Pavlov's dogs. But my experience always enraged me because straight guys are constantly close and intimate when it's just boys or just men together and change anytime there's a single female, gay, or even straight man of another age group present. But even stranger, some of the most homoerotic if not homosexual acts of my life have come from straight guys with each other, getting naked, feeling each other, kissing and hugging as a "joke", dry humping, flicking each other's hardons in the morning, showing off their bodies in the shower, bending over and showing their assholes, etc etc but they FREAK should they been seen as gay or if a gay guy is present, they shut down and the teasing stops. As a same-sex-attracted man, I was caught forced to act straight to not be bullied, but then when they act gay and I didn't, it STILL outed me! They're like, "you're not fucking around with us, you must be queer. does this turn you on? get out, freak!" and I'm like, "You LITERALLY showed him your hole and said "Is it pink?" and you're saying I'm weird?" Straight boys...
 
Those of us who are sane can blame them. They're so tough but are terrified they might be sexualized while sexualizing anything a woman does. Wary of what? Being attacked and having a cock shoved in their mouths?:laughing: So fragile and scared! A confident, grown man can take a compliment as a compliment no matter where it's from, can be secure in gay company knowing he may be desirable but isn't in danger (unlike women with many straight men and unfortunately, many lesbians--in the US, woman on woman violence is the most reported to the police in domestic violence cases, followed by women against men), and doesn't have to be wary of homoeroticism. Homosexual aggression is another story, and yes, a shit ton of gays need to back the fuck off and stop treating every guy like meat for Pavlov's dogs. But my experience always enraged me because straight guys are constantly close and intimate when it's just boys or just men together and change anytime there's a single female, gay, or even straight man of another age group present. But even stranger, some of the most homoerotic if not homosexual acts of my life have come from straight guys with each other, getting naked, feeling each other, kissing and hugging as a "joke", dry humping, flicking each other's hardons in the morning, showing off their bodies in the shower, bending over and showing their assholes, etc etc but they FREAK should they been seen as gay or if a gay guy is present, they shut down and the teasing stops. As a same-sex-attracted man, I was caught forced to act straight to not be bullied, but then when they act gay and I didn't, it STILL outed me! They're like, "you're not fucking around with us, you must be queer. does this turn you on? get out, freak!" and I'm like, "You LITERALLY showed him your hole and said "Is it pink?" and you're saying I'm weird?" Straight boys...
Because you asked, wary of the motives gay men may have for befriending straight men. Wary that any engagement, any kindness, will be misconstrued as "homoerotic." Wary that such a dynamic misrepresents the straight man's true, non-sexual intentions, and wary that any engagement will end in the kind of accusations and acrimony that you displayed in your response, all because things did not go exactly according to your desires. That is what I meant, and if it wasn't obvious to you from my original post, then it should be clear to you now.
 
At one point in my life I had a straight best friend who would always take the urinal immediately next to me — even when there was a row of 20 empty. He would stand there with his big cock just hanging out and talking with me like it was nothing. He was definitely proud of it, and he used to try to see if I was looking, which I always was.

We were roommates for a year, and he was always walking around the house in his tightie whities. He would even cook breakfast wearing nothing but them. He didn’t care if he was fully stout when he woke up, he would stand right up and walk to the bathroom with a raging hard-on and try to take his morning piss right through it with the door open.

I would leave the bathroom door open when I showered to prevent steam from building up on the mirror so I could see to shave when I got out. Often, he would come up when I was standing there shaving and just make small talk. He would take every opportunity to catch me naked or changing.

He knew he was bigger than me, and I think that was always some kind of homoerotic turn on for him.

He is married with children, so he must be mostly straight, but I will always believe there is some latent gayness buried in him…

Thoughts…?
I took a Spanish class on weekends 20+ years ago at the big public university. It was well-structured, a lot of fun, and we all got to know each other. Coffee was available and some of us would sip through the class. As a result I was always ready to pee during breaks. Another guy, handsome and gregarious, would ALWAYS take the urinal next to me. We'd talk and he'd look at my cock as we peed. This was every time. I'm a "show-er" and I made sure he had a good view. And I checked him out as well. As I was married then I didn't mess around with guys other than in the locker room at times. (I was a regular because I was a compulsive jogger). I wanted to see more of my class friend and allow him to fully check me out so I invited him to jog, saying we'd meet at the park, change and could shower there afterwards. He didn't take the bait and we contented ourselves with open stares as we peed. I wish it had been more but I'm glad for the memory nonetheless.