I wish I had friends like that.
Is it more normal then not to have sexually relaxed friends !
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I wish I had friends like that.
Is it more normal then not to have sexually relaxed friends !
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I am not sure. What I went through was awesome. Even though they talked about me in the third person I got so hard! And their reaction to me being jerked off by my gf kept me hard! Awesome time!
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I guess it depends on the circles you move in, I don't know many folks like this, especially women, but I guess they'e out there. It's one thing too if you start out in a kink community vs. just discovering this about your friends like the OP.
Never went further than that unfortunately. I have had girls invite me over to show it off and jerked off for them on two occasions. Must have been the circles I ran in
Straight guys of Reddit, what's the most intimate moment you had with another guy? : AskReddit
This thread on reddit is less homoerotic and more about intimacy between straight dudes
This one is homoerotic themed
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/4tsz6s/straight_guys_of_reddit_what_was_the_gayest/
This thread on reddit is less homoerotic and more about intimacy between straight dudes
This one is homoerotic themed
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/4tsz6s/straight_guys_of_reddit_what_was_the_gayest/
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I remember going on vacation for spring break with some college buddies. There were about 12 of us and we were sharing 2 connected rooms. There was a lot of homoerotic behavior going on in those rooms especially when the guys were intoxicated. I remember guys using the restroom and showering with the doors open and of course 2 guys to a bed which there were 2 beds per room. I saw a lot of morning wood when I would wake up to sneak to the restroom. One roommate thought he was being discrete and snuck to restroom to jackoff but me being a light sleeper I watched him wake up in a rush and holding his erection against his body and rushing to the restroom. He shut the restroom door but I could see the shadow under the door and the light was fluttering under the door because he was beating his meat and when he orgasmed I heard a muffled moan before he rushed out and climbed back into bed. I also remember finding a few stiff cumrags in the trashcan. We were all young and probably had very healthy sexual appetites but the circumstances left us in an odd predicament where we couldn't jackoff as often as we may have wanted to.
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I've mentioned my best friend a number of times in this thread. Nothing overtly sexual ever goes on. We now see each other for long weekends several times a year due to schedules, etc. Lately when we are together, he has been much more open about nudity. I've seen him naked for short times before, but now we are both naked together a few times a day. In the morning when we get coffee, when we use the same shower (not at the same time but one after the other), getting dressed with the door open, etc. It's nice to bond that way.
All real friendships between men have a level of homoeroticism.
Homoeroticism: the essence of all friendship - All Men are Liars - Executive Style - <!--#echo var='SITE_F' --> Blogs
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Maybe, although I don’t think it needs to involve any sexual element? I have some close male friends and there's not one volt of sexual desire between us, and that ain't no lie
Maybe, although I don’t think it needs to involve any sexual element? I have some close male friends and there's not one volt of sexual desire between us, and that ain't no lie
That's the thing, people think homoeroticism implies only a desire for sex, it doesn't. It's actually also means an attraction and a desire for the person.
What's fucked everything up with male intimacy is the neo-platonic concept of platonic love, which is Catholic renaissance homophobic balderdash.
Physical intimacy is actually on a spectrum from non-sexual to sexual and men will engage at a level with their friends which they mutually desire and consent.
My spidey sense tingles when absolutes are stated. All? Nah. Some? Sure.
After reading the article, in my opinion the author seems to have an inability to differentiate between sexual desire and a desire for companionship. The fact that I enjoy the company of certain people....male and female...without any sexual attraction or desire, would refute his absolutes regarding a mandatory sexual element to all friendship. Hunghorse30 has related the same experience. I'm sure there are plenty of guys who have male friends for whom they have no sexual desire, and plenty of women with female friends for whom they too have zero sexual desire.
Given that the word's origins literally mean "male sexual desire", and literally every definition is a variation of The Oxford Living Dictionary's, "Concerning or arousing sexual desire centred on a person of the same sex", it's little wonder that people correctly assume the word centers on sexual desire.
After a quick search on goggle, here is what I found.
Interpreting a behavior as Homoerotic can get very complicated when you “look under the hood” to learn what is going on. Apparently there are a number of overlapping processes going on inside each individual to produce some feeling that they may define as homoerotic.
At least six different areas of attraction may interact to produce this special feeling.
Physical Attractions
-Aesthetic
-Sensual
-Sexual
Emotional Attractions
-Romantic
-Platonic
Technical Attractions
- Relationship(s) developed for social enterprise
Physical attraction: Liking the way someone looks physically and desiring physical closeness etc. It is like wanting to sit close to them, be near them ect based on attraction to how they look. You feel an actual physical 'pull' to their looks. (Aesthetic attraction is just experiencing the attraction without the physical 'pull' towards their looks)
Sexual attraction: (as a defining factor for sexual orientation) is the desire to have sex with another person, for personal or mutual sexual pleasure/sexual release etc.
Sexual attraction as ''the desire for partnered sexual contact with someone else, to share our sexuality with them''
You may desire that sexual contact because you are in love with said person, maybe because you find them physically attractive and that's why you desire sexual contact, maybe that is the person available and willing to have partnered sex with you at a time when you are desiring it, there are all sorts of reasons.
Sexual attraction (as a defining factor for ones sexual orientation) has nothing to do with looks or physical appearance or anything of the sort; it's just about having desires that sexual contact with another person for your own/mutual sexual pleasure. (Just to be clear, desiring partnered sex because you want to make a baby or because you want to make your partner happy does not count as sexual attraction. Sexual attraction desires partnered sex for the sake of the enjoyment of partnered sex itself, because it feels good, enhances intimacy etc. If you feel that about sex and want to have it with another for reasons like that, then that's sexual attraction. Again, nothing to do with how someone looks or what their physical body looks like, though you can experience sexual attraction as a result of physical attraction, for example)
Sensual attraction: generally promotes a desire to do sensual things with another person (ie kissing, naked cuddling etc) but doesn't have to be about their appearance (same with sexual attraction). It’s just about wanting to connect with another person sensually maybe because you are in love with them, maybe they are a friend and you want the comfort of mutual sensuality with each other, maybe because you are physically attracted to them and that makes you desire sensual contact. All the reasons for desiring sensuality with someone are different, but you can be sensually attracted to someone without finding them your idea of physical perfection or anything of the sort,
Finally, some attractions occur when other individuals are seen as useful means to social ends. For example, social connections that lead to a better job or that lead to another person or influential networks of people. They most often occur when an individual wishes to be identified with other people. These connections imply shared interests, values, and power.
So here are two pictures. Does either evoke a homoerotic sensation for you? Any guess why or why not?
You may need a big writing area to take notes on. It is complicated!
![two pic.jpg]( "two pic.jpg")
Interpreting a behavior as Homoerotic can get very complicated when you “look under the hood” to learn what is going on. Apparently there are a number of overlapping processes going on inside each individual to produce some feeling that they may define as homoerotic.
At least six different areas of attraction may interact to produce this special feeling.
Physical Attractions
-Aesthetic
-Sensual
-Sexual
Emotional Attractions
-Romantic
-Platonic
Technical Attractions
- Relationship(s) developed for social enterprise
Physical attraction: Liking the way someone looks physically and desiring physical closeness etc. It is like wanting to sit close to them, be near them ect based on attraction to how they look. You feel an actual physical 'pull' to their looks. (Aesthetic attraction is just experiencing the attraction without the physical 'pull' towards their looks)
Sexual attraction: (as a defining factor for sexual orientation) is the desire to have sex with another person, for personal or mutual sexual pleasure/sexual release etc.
Sexual attraction as ''the desire for partnered sexual contact with someone else, to share our sexuality with them''
You may desire that sexual contact because you are in love with said person, maybe because you find them physically attractive and that's why you desire sexual contact, maybe that is the person available and willing to have partnered sex with you at a time when you are desiring it, there are all sorts of reasons.
Sexual attraction (as a defining factor for ones sexual orientation) has nothing to do with looks or physical appearance or anything of the sort; it's just about having desires that sexual contact with another person for your own/mutual sexual pleasure. (Just to be clear, desiring partnered sex because you want to make a baby or because you want to make your partner happy does not count as sexual attraction. Sexual attraction desires partnered sex for the sake of the enjoyment of partnered sex itself, because it feels good, enhances intimacy etc. If you feel that about sex and want to have it with another for reasons like that, then that's sexual attraction. Again, nothing to do with how someone looks or what their physical body looks like, though you can experience sexual attraction as a result of physical attraction, for example)
Sensual attraction: generally promotes a desire to do sensual things with another person (ie kissing, naked cuddling etc) but doesn't have to be about their appearance (same with sexual attraction). It’s just about wanting to connect with another person sensually maybe because you are in love with them, maybe they are a friend and you want the comfort of mutual sensuality with each other, maybe because you are physically attracted to them and that makes you desire sensual contact. All the reasons for desiring sensuality with someone are different, but you can be sensually attracted to someone without finding them your idea of physical perfection or anything of the sort,
Finally, some attractions occur when other individuals are seen as useful means to social ends. For example, social connections that lead to a better job or that lead to another person or influential networks of people. They most often occur when an individual wishes to be identified with other people. These connections imply shared interests, values, and power.
So here are two pictures. Does either evoke a homoerotic sensation for you? Any guess why or why not?
You may need a big writing area to take notes on. It is complicated!
The world is just so complicated. I think everything in this thread has elements of truth. And often reality denied. I just like looking at dicks & fucking girls.
Straight to the point. I agree.
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I've realized these differences in myself in the past six months. I'm definitely more physically and aesthetically attracted to guys than sexually. I love the way certain guys look, feel and even smell, but penetrative sex either way, either end, doesn't do it for me.
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One time about 10 years ago I had a friend who owned horses and would compete in shows. He invited me to come and watch one time so I did. He was getting ready for the dressy competition and his hands were dirty from putting the saddle on the horse and there was no where to wash them. He asked if I could help him get his dress suit on. I ended up buttoning his shirt, fixing his tie, closing and zipping his pants. He wore boxers and I remember feeling his penis press against the pants as I was zipping him.