How big is too big (to the ladies that is)

[Nitrofiend]

Hello, I'm a new member (no pun intended) to the group and I think your site is very interesting. I have a question though directed mainly to the women. How much of a penis can you take without great discomfort during or afterward?

My girlfriend gets very wet during foreplay but always seems to get bruised inside and generally sore outside her vagina. She often jokes that I should "cut some of it off" but the fact is I'm not really that big in the first place and she's had longer (about 8 inches). I myself am 7 inches long (give or take a quarter inch depending on the situation), and at my thinnest (my shaft is almost uniform), 6" around with apparently the biggest head she's ever seen. Obviously my girth is more notable (the most she's ever taken) than my length, and I trust her statements on it based on the fact that she has slept with over a dozen men (even enjoying sex with a quite small one) and seen 20+ erect penises .

I've been going out with her for about 9 months now (spare me your judgment on that), and I still wonder whether or not her vagina may be smaller than average -- thus explaining her chronic discomfort (and we use plenty of lubricant). She recently saw her gynecologist and the latter was concerned because she was noticeably swollen inside and inquired whether or not she has been "playing with any large dildos lately [sic]". Most guys would take pride in damaging their lovers with their penises, but I'm genuinely concerned for her well being.

I've only slept with 2 other women so I can't really compare or contrast their vaginas very well, even though both of them had similar discomfort. However my girlfriend seems to get off from the pain. And she almost always wakes up the next day in a considerable amount of pain (despite herself insisting that I should "destroy" her the night before). Also, she often complains immediately of a burning sensation on her outer labia from the friction. I don't know, can anyone here shed some light on the situation? Why does she get pain if I'm not endowed? Do you women like being stretched a lot? Exactly how big are your vaginas and what can they take comfortably? I want a lot of responses here.

 

[zaza]

Regardless of the size issue, pain after intercourse should be investigated by a doctor. It can be a sign of something wrong.

 

[Heather LouAnna]

She often jokes that I should "cut some of it off"

Ok. Your post was very well written, concise and nicely worded, but I really didn't read any beyond this line. She's gotta go. *thumbs the air*

If I were ever with a man and h told me "You should cut some of your pussy off," I'd see leaving that fucker.

 

[Nitrofiend]

Ok. Your post was very well written, concise and nicely worded, but I really didn't read any beyond this line. She's gotta go. *thumbs the air*

If I were ever with a man and h told me "You should cut some of your pussy off," I'd see leaving that fucker.

She jokes about it. She's not allowed to joke? She is very much fond of my penis she's not some Lorena Bobbit wannabe, lighten up :biggrin1:.

 

[Porterhouse]

Most guys would take pride in damaging their lovers with their penises, but I'm genuinely concerned for her well being.

That's a fucking stupid assesment, some guys maybe but if you honestly believe that this would be the preference of most guys you either:

a) watch too much porn
b) have your sarcasm detector disabled
c) have no sense of humor and can't tell when friends or acquaintances are joking about this subject matter.

Not meaning to attack you here but more so just standup for the average guy who would much rather please their partner not cause them pain (unless of course that pleases them)

 

[karmen]

Hello, I'm a new member (no pun intended) to the group and I think your site is very interesting. I have a question though directed mainly to the women. How much of a penis can you take without great discomfort during or afterward?

My girlfriend gets very wet during foreplay but always seems to get bruised inside and generally sore outside her vagina. She often jokes that I should "cut some of it off" but the fact is I'm not really that big in the first place and she's had longer (about 8 inches). I myself am 7 inches long (give or take a quarter inch depending on the situation), and at my thinnest (my shaft is almost uniform), 6" around with apparently the biggest head she's ever seen. Obviously my girth is more notable (the most she's ever taken) than my length, and I trust her statements on it based on the fact that she has slept with over a dozen men (even enjoying sex with a quite small one) and seen 20+ erect penises .

I've been going out with her for about 9 months now (spare me your judgment on that), and I still wonder whether or not her vagina may be smaller than average -- thus explaining her chronic discomfort (and we use plenty of lubricant). She recently saw her gynecologist and the latter was concerned because she was noticeably swollen inside and inquired whether or not she has been "playing with any large dildos lately [sic]". Most guys would take pride in damaging their lovers with their penises, but I'm genuinely concerned for her well being.

I've only slept with 2 other women so I can't really compare or contrast their vaginas very well, even though both of them had similar discomfort. However my girlfriend seems to get off from the pain. And she almost always wakes up the next day in a considerable amount of pain (despite herself insisting that I should "destroy" her the night before). Also, she often complains immediately of a burning sensation on her outer labia from the friction. I don't know, can anyone here shed some light on the situation? Why does she get pain if I'm not endowed? Do you women like being stretched a lot? Exactly how big are your vaginas and what can they take comfortably? I want a lot of responses here.

Nitrofiend:

In my humble opinion, she is pobably not built to accommodate you. Wanting it hard and fast is not the same and being able to withstand that level of onslaught.

For example, when I am with a lover who is hung, I have to have time to accommodate him and there is No Fucking Allowed.

Oh, I've gotten carried away and asked to be Fucked. I think it was something like, "Fuck me now with your big cock." " Oh, yeah, baby, make me beg". "Make me cum all over your cock" Well you get the picture :wink:

However, the same or the next day, I was always in a lot of pain. And it always took me a few days to recover. That's when I figured it out---slow and easy, deep and long. So instead of fucking. I am all about making love.

Just my perspective. I'm sure others will have their perspectives, as well. Good luck to you.

Hugs and Kisses,

Karmen

 

[OmahaBeef]

Your packin dude, so i dont see why your sitting there thinking you arent hung, because obviously you are.

Avg length: 5ish
Avg girth: 4.5-5ish

You: 7x6

Chances are she has a small vagina, but even more likely an average one. I know youve been together for 9 months, but how frequent is the sex itself? Chances are the more often you have sex, the easier it will get. I would give up or anything. Maybe she isnt relaxing enough for whatever reason? Perhaps she anticipates a vaginal beating, and instead of relaxing she tightens up?

OmahaBeef

 

[Nitrofiend]

We actually have sex very frequently, 4 to 6 (or more) times a week, sometimes twice a day. She does greatly enjoy the sex (otherwise we wouldn't have been together this long) and I don't bluntly beat her, I put technique into it. I'm just concerned because of the pain she always seems to have for a couple days afterward. Every time we have sex, it's always a stretch for her, it's never usually stick-it-in-and-go. The thing is, she doesn't usually like it when I go slow or don't penetrate her all the way. Like I said, she insists that I "destroy" her (especially while in doggy style if that helps). Her gynecologist's comments worry me though.

 

[Gisella]

If she doesnt has any gynecological problems going on, is turned on and well lubricated..she seems small to you, bcause of 9 months of constant sex she still having pain..

In my personal experience i had to learn to accomodate a 9" and after a while it fitted like a glove.

 

[Nitrofiend]

I seem to have made a breakthrough in avoiding causing her pain, I just need to avoid striking her cervix. I have an erection that is perpendicular to my body (and thus parallel to the ground), so I need to make her an inch or so lower than me. That way I stretch the right part of her vagina instead of beating up her cervix. I tried it today and there was a major difference. I could go all the way in at any speed I wanted, and she didn't have any pain during or after.