Great. One thing at a time. And in the right order.
Very true, and sometimes I forget that. As a perfectionist I tend to shy away from anything that won't result in near certain success so I fail before I try. Growth is about taking risks, going beyond my comfort zone (yes that post holds a lot of meaning for me), and so I have to guard against going back to the perfectionist mentality.
Jason, I know this post will probably generate much dissension, but words more true have never been spoken. Gay men are all superficial and shallow.
I think most people are superficial and shallow. Plenty of straight women I know are looking for Gandhi, Batman, Dr. Phil, Hugh Grant, Rhett Butler, and Stephen Hawking all wrapped in Brad Pitt's body. Any man who doesn't measure-up gets the heave-ho. Straight men are all looking for their mothers in Scarlett Johansson's body. Most gay men are looking for something they're too afraid to find.
Lucky me, I've never liked the pretty boy types anyway. They're off my radar and while they're fun to play with, I don't find they turn me on the way more masculine guys do. I will say that I am lucky in that all the men I've ever been attracted enough to really get into have been anything but superficial or shallow. On the contrary, they're introspective and kind men, not in the least like most gay men. My taste in men is very particular but when I do find ones that I want for more than a quick hook-up, I have never been disappointed in their quality even if they're not available.
Okay Jason -
My apologies I suggested that it was a pity party and got the wrong end of the stick. My bad. That is good you were able to take away good things from it. Did you get numbers or e-mails of guys that you could be in touch with? Like str82 said, one thing at a time.
No, not the wrong end of the stick at all. Please, don't be hard on yourself. I know how it sounded and you came to a perfectly reasonable conclusion. Yes, all attendees have contact information for the other attendees. It's very kind of you to care and I appreciate it.
I have contacted one of the people on that list and I'm awaiting his reply.
Just smile with your mouth closed if you feel self conscious - it's mostly in your eyes anyways. :smile:
My pics are as close as I come to smiling. Judge for yourself if it's adequate :smile:.
I know where of you speak. From the female side of things here, I try to flirt, and occasionally I succeed, but often I'm just too shy, or figure I'd just be rejected and laughed at.
I have a hard time making conversation with people... if I'm in a group of people and they're talking about something I can relate to, I can add my part. However, I sometimes have two problems with that last:
1) they will be talking about something that I can't really relate to...
2) they will start talking about something controversial in politics or religion
On top of that, I have issues with my physical appearance as well. I dream of winning the lottery and spending a fortune on cosmetic procedures and beauty treatments.
That's a common issue though I must say I'm not shy so much as unsure of how to insert myself into a conversation without being pushy. Drawing attention to myself is something I regard as desperate and pushy when in fact most people do it in complete confidence and it doesn't come across as such. That's a demon I'm trying to exterminate using confidence and the assurance that people really don't mind it if you're polite and genuinely interested.
As to the treatments and procedures, if we both win the lottery let's see if we can get a 2-for-1 at the good places :biggrin1:.
to plastic surgery, I'm open to them.
