How Do You React If...
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I tell him it's not my thing
But the bigger question is why I married a guy without discussing these things first
But the bigger question is why I married a guy without discussing these things first
I'm fine with nudism. He's not into that at all though.
Threesome is better left fantasy, in both of our opinions. We've discussed it thoroughly.
The last two, we both are not remotely interested. We're monogamous, and both of us are thoroughly satisfied.
And yeah, people change. Once upon a time we *weren't* monogamous. Now we are, and we're both happier.
Threesome is better left fantasy, in both of our opinions. We've discussed it thoroughly.
The last two, we both are not remotely interested. We're monogamous, and both of us are thoroughly satisfied.
And yeah, people change. Once upon a time we *weren't* monogamous. Now we are, and we're both happier.
1 id tell him its not my thing
2 who says a woman cant sugget it plus done mfm
3 kinda not my thing
4 i already do that
so all in all it wouldnt faze or bother me as long as he doesnt keep on asking
I’d tell him it’s not my thing. If it was really important to him, he’d have to go. I’ve done all my sexual experimentation and I’m all into monogamy. Nudism? Too cold. And I’m too old to change. Hopefully he’s into me enough that I’m all he wants. Again, take a hike if I’m not.
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you're right but people can change
Absolutely.
But I'm 48, I'm thinking at least as far as I go, I'm gonna be marrying someone (hypothetically speaking) who knows their sexuality and what they like.
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Already a naturist.
I'm not setting up that shit. Find the people. Vet them. Introduce us. If I agree with the match, fine. I'm ambivalent about ever participating in group sex again.
Cuckholding? As a humiliation fetish? No. Fuck that.
Swinging? This question is too broad. I "sleep around". I never fuck my husband. I believe he is relieved to be relieved of the responsibility for my sexual gratification. I am relieved to have a safe outlet. I consider this neither cuckholding, not hot wifing, nor swinging. Someone else might.
I'm not setting up that shit. Find the people. Vet them. Introduce us. If I agree with the match, fine. I'm ambivalent about ever participating in group sex again.
Cuckholding? As a humiliation fetish? No. Fuck that.
Swinging? This question is too broad. I "sleep around". I never fuck my husband. I believe he is relieved to be relieved of the responsibility for my sexual gratification. I am relieved to have a safe outlet. I consider this neither cuckholding, not hot wifing, nor swinging. Someone else might.
1-nudism
Pleasantly surprised. I often try to encourage him to hang out in less clothing or nude.
2-threesome (mmf,ffm)
Surprise. We've already talked about it and still do semi-regularly, but only in the context of it not being our cup of tea.
3-cuckolding
Surprise, because we've already talked about it and also agree it isn't our cup of tea. Humiliation isn't sexy to either one of us.
4-swinging
Surprise, but would be open to it. I've had poly and other relationship styles in the past, not just monogamy. I check in with him semi-regularly about the parameters of our relationship and confirm we're good, what needs work, etc.
Pleasantly surprised. I often try to encourage him to hang out in less clothing or nude.
2-threesome (mmf,ffm)
Surprise. We've already talked about it and still do semi-regularly, but only in the context of it not being our cup of tea.
3-cuckolding
Surprise, because we've already talked about it and also agree it isn't our cup of tea. Humiliation isn't sexy to either one of us.
4-swinging
Surprise, but would be open to it. I've had poly and other relationship styles in the past, not just monogamy. I check in with him semi-regularly about the parameters of our relationship and confirm we're good, what needs work, etc.
Well, he wouldn't have to ask for No. 1. He sees me nude most of the time. I do housework in the nude, and pool and spa are always naked time. I do sleep in a nightgown though because of years of waking up playing "Where's the Boob?"
The rest he'd never ask because our feelings on those are pretty well known to each other. I'm selfish and don't share or play well with others.
The rest he'd never ask because our feelings on those are pretty well known to each other. I'm selfish and don't share or play well with others.
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My husband shocked me when he suggested cuckolding. I said hell no at first but warmed up to it and it has really made our lives better - I never would have believed it.
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How do you react if your man ask you to do:
1-nudism— we are House nudists. See also Ms. LaFemme’s comment on cold.
2-threesome (mmf,ffm) —occasionally comes up in talk, goes away once we come. See also Ms. AlteredEgo on “I’m not setting it up.” Someone who wont be around is a possibility. I have some jealousy/insecurity. Someone always around would be problematic for me.
3-cuckolding— I don’t humiliate, certainly don’t want anyone else.
4-swinging— see above
I’d react to any with some compassion and a few questions. Why are these on his mind? What can we do to make us both satisfied?
I do try to function from GGG. I’ll try within reason to fulfill his fantasies. I don’t like to share (but would not have a problem if he wanted to share me with someone who, again, would not be around)
1-nudism— we are House nudists. See also Ms. LaFemme’s comment on cold.
2-threesome (mmf,ffm) —occasionally comes up in talk, goes away once we come. See also Ms. AlteredEgo on “I’m not setting it up.” Someone who wont be around is a possibility. I have some jealousy/insecurity. Someone always around would be problematic for me.
3-cuckolding— I don’t humiliate, certainly don’t want anyone else.
4-swinging— see above
I’d react to any with some compassion and a few questions. Why are these on his mind? What can we do to make us both satisfied?
I do try to function from GGG. I’ll try within reason to fulfill his fantasies. I don’t like to share (but would not have a problem if he wanted to share me with someone who, again, would not be around)
Laugh in his face and tell him to pack his bags and get the fuck out or find it thown into a heap on the foot path and incinerated.
I've done almost every version of sex barring minors and animals so I've been there and done that, got the T shirt and now utterly bored and jaded with all of it.
I've gone full circle now and I like to try to keep life as simple as possible.
If anything questions like that would have me wondering at my ability to
accurately assess characters because I would not be involved intentionally
with someone like that anymore.
I've done almost every version of sex barring minors and animals so I've been there and done that, got the T shirt and now utterly bored and jaded with all of it.
I've gone full circle now and I like to try to keep life as simple as possible.
If anything questions like that would have me wondering at my ability to
accurately assess characters because I would not be involved intentionally
with someone like that anymore.
How do I react? I ask him if he's banged his head.
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Cool with nudism, pretty much practice that at home most of the time anyway. The rest either I've tried and didn't like or have never been interested in the first place.
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I'm very open minded with my husband and I trust him explicitly. We have discussed all of these scenarios throughout our very long term relationship.
In my younger days, I would have had much stronger, restrictive opinions of some of the topics. But as we have aged, we have become more open minded.
Discussions are good for growth. IMO.
Notice I said discussion, not strong-arming, or guilting, someone into doing something they do not want to do.
- Taya,
Wow.Another lesson learnt today. "Read more posts before you have an opinion about someone you haven't met."
All meant in a good way.
Way to go AE.
1) Topless beach so far. No plans to go beyond.
2) In my bucket list (mmf), but I doubt it will ever happen. Who knows?
3) In terms of humiliation, NO WAY. This is the man I love and plan to spend my life with. I'll never allow that to happen.
4) None so far. We have an open marriage, Polyamory to be exact. It's different, unique and doesn't match any stereotype.
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The regular posters to this forum ARE open-minded. Open-mindedness requires only the willingness to consider, not the willingness to do.