How Long Does He Last?

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Hey there shaft.

Just readin about your quick unloading.
I have a nd still do suffer the same thing.

But I have found a way to control it. I am just practicing it ow and getting better at it.

There is a muscle inbetween your sack and anus no idead what its called but I noticed that when having sex (and jerking off) I always had it tense. So I have tried relaxing it while active and as long as I dont tense that muscle I dont cum. But it is very hard not to tense it I find it is like a reflex to tense it when hard so it is taking me quite a few months to get it right but it sure does work.

Note its not the same muscle that makes your cock bounce up and down when hard or the muscle that cuts off your pee when you stop mid stream it is a different one.

Hope this helps
pc muscle?
 

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I'm trying to be nice about this, really, but I just can't. I would never have dated you, much less married you, with that performance. :eek:
This is part of the reason I don't have casual sex. Aside from size issues, most guys cannot seem to last more than 5-10 minutes, which is simply grossly below my standards.
You are clearly choosing the wrong men Ms. Bette. :tongue:

Have you tried Performa condoms? They have a little bit of lignocaine (numbing gel) in the tip which means you can't feel as much but can last a lot longer.

That's lidocaine, but I don't see how that would help as most men say condoms diminish sensitivity immensely anyway.

but to be honest it's sort of a compliment his wife is too hot for him to last I'm guessing she stopped seeing it as a compliment 6 months into the marriage.
but I'd recomend hand manipulation or oral sex first then have sex with her
I could be wrong, but I would think they would have tried that by now.

Well, you could have my problem and not be able to reach orgasm after 10, 15, 30 min... or 3 hours of sex.... oh well.
Jonesy98, I strongly suggest you see a physician.

I can go an hour sometimes more without cumming; but that's usually because he isn't quite hitting it or I am not emotionally connected to him.:redface: Frankly after an hour if I cum and he hasn't I'm annoyed. :rolleyes:

You sound charming my dear!:eek: What is your performance like then?:rolleyes:


I'm not agreeing with Bette; but I can kinda see her point. It's like the women that complain that they can't handle their husbands length and/or girth. How many people are virgins when they get married? How did you not know this would be an issue before the wedding night?
 

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You are clearly choosing the wrong men Ms. Bette. :tongue:


That's lidocaine, but I don't see how that would help as most men say condoms diminish sensitivity immensely anyway.

I could be wrong, but I would think they would have tried that by now.


Jonesy98, I strongly suggest you see a physician.

I can go an hour sometimes more without cumming; but that's usually because he isn't quite hitting it or I am not emotionally connected to him.:redface: Frankly after an hour if I cum and he hasn't I'm annoyed. :rolleyes:



I'm not agreeing with Bette; but I can kinda see her point. It's like the women that complain that they can't handle their husbands length and/or girth. How many people are virgins when they get married? How did you not know this would be an issue before the wedding night?
Its not like it's a permanant thing. It can be dealt with. Bette makes herself sound like a bitch. Any way I have had the opposite problem where the woman cums way before I do. I don't mind if I cum or not sometimes but they seem to think they have failed if I don't cum.:mad:
 

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Any way I have had the opposite problem where the woman cums way before I do. I don't mind if I cum or not sometimes Really? Most men act like cumming is the sole purpose for having sex. but they seem to think they have failed if I don't cum.:mad:
Well yeah, I've not had this happen much, but when it does I am bothered because I think I must have done ore not done something wrong.
 

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What has your size got to do with it?:confused: What is your size?


I know you question is directed to him and I have no ideia of his size too etc..

But in my experience with a big penis both in lenght and particularly girthy regarding penetration and thrusting it rings all the bells inside and incredible fast..but the situation is it does feel so incredible good that you want to cum and cant help cum but you wish to keep feeling all of that...than for this motive rear penetration is my top choice position to keep feeling without cuming too soon..the problem can be if the man did not learn to control himself and then cums too soon in this position...most men I had experienced feel very excited by rear and can have struggle to hold his cum...than it takes an experienced man to wait more ...or at least if he cums too soon as I wished to keep feeling him more etc etc hopefuly he is a guy who can become hard and do it again soon as we will start over etc etc...

Conclusion: Than to me men who lasts with size particularly extra girthy and a penis a bit long to do great rear motions etc is my favorities that by his anatomy alone can make me cum very fast but I just want to have him more and more and not stop the sensations he brings me inside. It is just amazing to be penetrated by it all over.
 

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I'm trying to be nice about this, really, but I just can't. I would never have dated you, much less married you, with that performance.

This is part of the reason I don't have casual sex. Aside from size issues, most guys cannot seem to last more than 5-10 minutes, which is simply grossly below my standards.

Tell me, Why do you hold such high standard. Do you like to be disappointed all the time. Quite frankly I find women like you make it impossible for women like me to find a good man. You demean men and treat them like toys. Get over yourself. Just my opinion thats all. But I believe that men get the wrong idea about what we want because of women like you.
 

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Tell me, Why do you hold such high standard. Do you like to be disappointed all the time. Quite frankly I find women like you make it impossible for women like me to find a good man. You demean men and treat them like toys. Get over yourself. Just my opinion thats all. But I believe that men get the wrong idea about what we want because of women like you.

Hehe. Yeah. You know I was just thinking also that my bf has always been good about staying hard ever since we started having sex but he's gotten a lot better at it too. Like I guess it's something you can get better at not just you're stuck where you are. So maybe any guy can get better at it...??
 

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Thinking back about the women with whom I've had intercourse, there have been two with whom I've had what I considered a problem of cumming too quickly too much of the time, although I don't think either of the women complained much. What's fascinating is that I had long-term relationships with these two and also that neither of them were particularly aggressive about sex--initiating it or taking some control during sex. I've always thought when I came prematurely it was because I was anxious about performance and pleasing her.
 

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Tell me, Why do you hold such high standard. Do you like to be disappointed all the time. Quite frankly I find women like you make it impossible for women like me to find a good man. You demean men and treat them like toys. Get over yourself. Just my opinion thats all. But I believe that men get the wrong idea about what we want because of women like you.
Well said!!!:wink:
 

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I have been with my wife for 3 years. I still cannot last more than 1 or 2 minutes with hard pumping. I try to go slow to last longer but she keeps saying "harder, harder". Do any of you women experience this with your husband? How long does he last? What would you do if he lasted 1 or 2 minutes?

honestly... I have fucked my wife for almost 2 hours plus..and she came at least 15 times....I'm serious!
 

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Franky the idea of getting pounded for 2 hours straight makes me want to cry. I've said it before here, but if I haven't cum in 20 minutes I'm sure as hell not going to cum in 2 hours...chances are I'm just going to dry up and be raw as hell. I've been with men that lasted a long time and not been as good a lover as some guys that usually only lasted a few minutes. Things like oral sex, basic understanding of my body and listening are FAR more important to me than a guy who can drill me for 2 hours straight non-stop. That might work for some people but I would guess that's an extremely small proportion of the population.

My husband generally lasts about 8-20 minutes depending on how fast, what position, how many times we have had sex that day, how much he's had to drink, etc etc etc. I couldn't be happier and even if he lasted 2 minutes each time I know he cares about me and would find a way to please me sexually.
 

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how long i last is directly related to how often am i getting laid. the wife complained after denying herself to me. we were having sex about once every 2 wks. i told her i would do fine if we had sex a little more often. now we been together for 31 yrs, she is past the change in life, and has some medical problems, mental and physical, but all treated. so we stepped up our sex lives, and i was right, the more i got the longer i lasted. the next day, i gave her a multi orgasmic screwing, and she re-discovered how good orgasms can feel. But I think at one point she was mad at me, because i was right. our sexual frequency became about every other a day, and there were still a few times i didn't last long, but she was willing for me to get a "second wind" and i performed long and hard. this continued for about 6 wks until she got a cold and was sickly for about 5 days. have not been able to get her back to a nice sex life.
 

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I have been with my wife for 3 years. I still cannot last more than 1 or 2 minutes with hard pumping. I try to go slow to last longer but she keeps saying "harder, harder". Do any of you women experience this with your husband? How long does he last? What would you do if he lasted 1 or 2 minutes?

There are easy techniques to learn to last longer.

You find these in most sex technique books. Boschmann's has an entire chapter devoted to simple training exercises, which you carry out with your partner, to make you last much longer.

They consist of making love to your wife, she on top, and just when you're about to climax, she takes your penis' head firmly between her thumb and index finger, squeezing it, until your urge to orgasm disappears. You then continue to make love and repeat this. It's an easy routine and it works, at least according to the sexologists.
 

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how long i last is directly related to how often am i getting laid. the wife complained after denying herself to me. we were having sex about once every 2 wks. i told her i would do fine if we had sex a little more often. now we been together for 31 yrs, she is past the change in life, and has some medical problems, mental and physical, but all treated. so we stepped up our sex lives, and i was right, the more i got the longer i lasted. the next day, i gave her a multi orgasmic screwing, and she re-discovered how good orgasms can feel. But I think at one point she was mad at me, because i was right. our sexual frequency became about every other a day, and there were still a few times i didn't last long, but she was willing for me to get a "second wind" and i performed long and hard. this continued for about 6 wks until she got a cold and was sickly for about 5 days. have not been able to get her back to a nice sex life.

That happens to me as well. I think when you have sex often, you get a bit 'desensitized' to the feeling of it so you can last longer. Also, after cumming once, I can last much longer. The body knows that there's just not much left in the tank so it holds on longer :tongue:.