How long....?

[Warlock08]

Health Check: how long does sex normally last?

 

[japetty]

Normal is a variable between people. What is normal for me or some other person would be different for the next person. It will even be different between who I am having sex.

 

[Hairylegs]

Jerking off, takes about a minute and a half, less if I lube up first. Vagisex: maybe about a minute once I penetrate and start my heavy pelvic thrusting, usually a little less. Takes me much longer to get hard enough to penetrate with a woman than with a guy. Male anal sex is intensely exciting and even with a condom, I'm not going to last more than 30 seconds once I penetrate, unless I pull out. Mutual masturbation/ cock sucking with the guys, better than an hour with edging. But once I reach the point of no return where I HAVE to cum, just a few seconds of intense, rapid jerking off and I'm spraying everywhere. Always thought I was a premature ejaculator until I started asking guys to be honest, and I'm about average. Won't make it in the porn world, alas, but the answers are honest.

 

[IntactMale]

I'm surprised at how big of a variation the article quotes, though, I wonder what the survey methods are. I think if they are self reported, which they must be, there is a lot of bias. If I last 3 minutes and someone asks me how long I last without any consequence to me, my number might be higher than 3 minutes.

I don't think I last particularly long. I have sex pretty rarely so its always very exciting when I do have the opportunity. That excitement of something new and unusual can certainly make things go faster than I would like. I did notice that when I first started having sex I used to keep a close eye on the clock because it was very important to me not to be a guy that came quickly. Of course it didn't matter to my girlfriend of the time, she was a virgin too and sex was more uncomfortable for her than anything else. I think she wanted it to be over soon, but she also wanted me to be satisfied, so she toughed it out while I was obliviously looking at the clock trying to impress her. I noticed that when I did that I didn't really last too long. As we got more comfortable with each other, meaning sex wasn't so uncomfortable for her and I was able to focus on us more than the clock, things got better and I last longer.

 

[halcyondays]

The article agrees with the old adage fifteen minutes of foreplay and five minutes of sex.

That's ages compared to our closet primate relative: chimps take eight seconds...lol.

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

Typically I think we go about 5-10 minutes...that's about how long it takes Kim to have her orgasm, and she's a one-and-done woman. But that's only "typical", And can vary by a whole lot. If it's been a while, if I'm just over the top horny or she's done something particularly hot, I may cum in two minutes.

If we've had sex within a day, often I can go literally forever...the sensitivity is so low that I wear us both out. That is NOT good. We both would prefer I cum "too soon" than when this happens. She feels inadequate, it shows on her face, I get upset....snowball rolling downhill... she will change things up, and something will click and make me cum. Or we stop and go back to it later.

With age we have more pragmatic views on this. Gone are the days of worrying that I last long enough. We love each other, and we always have ways to satisfy each other. There's more to sex than pounding her like veal. Time and enjoyment are not linked.

 

[marriedasian]

as long as it takes to get fulfillment from the act itself. it could be a quick 5-min quickie or a long drawn out evening. to put an expectation on "how long" just ruins it, in my opinion. the last thing i want from sex is to hit a performance mark.

 

[693987]

I don't time us to know exactly how long, because go figure, my mind is on other stuff during. If I had to guess the time spent actually fucking? Probably 5-10 minutes. I prefer fast/hard/rough sex, so does he.

 

[art]

When I started, about 45 seconds (if I was lucky). Now I can get my girlfriend off in about 5 minutes (we make out with lots of kissing and cunnilingus before I strip completely and put my penis inside her. I last a little longer, but I usually cum between5 and 15 minutes after I start.

 

[766055]

counting time right after penetration till both had orgasm is between 45 mins to 1 hour.
When Im masturbating I could cum in a minute - its really controlled by my head.

 

[JJo86]

Depends on level of excitement really, but I never make it past the minute and a half mark. My bf usually gets me off within 20-30 seconds with a handjob..orally, I cum pretty much immediately.