How to ask out a "Straight" guy?

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  1. eric19831

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    Anyone have any experience asking out a "Straight" guy that has yet to come out as a gay man? There is this guy I know that has yet to come out but I have a feeling he is gay. Would like to know how to ask him out without scaring him off. He's from a very religious family and probably doesn't think that being gay is natural.
     
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    I would probably not ask him out at all. Do things with him and let him open up to you and in time if he is gay he will tell you.
     
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    How to ask him out? If he isn't out than you can't call it a date, but you could still do something together that is fun. You've got a challenge ahead of you with this potential new boyfriend.
     
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    work on the bromance, then move into romance.
     
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    Here's the other tough part. I really don't know they guy well. He's my friends brother in-law. But have socialized with him a few times.
     
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    Well, I would suggest that you take the time to get to know this guy first, before moving into anything sexual or romantic.

    Easiest way to find out if a person is interested. If he's not, move on....
     
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    If the guy has told you he's straight, don't ask him out at all. Lots of guys are gay. Ask one of them.
     
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    This, a thousand times this.
     
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    So the guy is straight & you just "think" he may be gay, but you don't even really know him?? If you are fond of your teeth then I would forget about this guy & go find a hot gay guy to hook up with instead...
     
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    As others have suggested, try the friendship route first. Don't ask him out. Ask him if he'd like to go get a cup of coffee. Ask him if he knows of any good places for lunch and would he like to come along, etc.
    I'd also recommend being honest with him from Day One...letting him know you're gay and showing him that being gay is quite natural and normal.
     
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    I'd say pass.... or just let him come to you man...
     
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    If you barely know this guy, and he's closeted, having a semi-stranger come into his life and basically say, "I know you're gay, now come out so you can take a chance on a first-time relationship with me"...I don't see great things coming out of that.
     
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    you just do not do it. Let him come out on his own. Especially, if you want to remain friends with this person.
     
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    Yes. If I was a gay man, I would ask you out 1,000 times. :biggrin1:
     
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    Awww :redface: You'd only have to ask once babe :wink:
     
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    If you're out to your friend (the one you know him through), how about bringing it up with him? Maybe you can at least find out a few things you have in common with this guy and use your friend's help to befriend Mr. Straight. Start by becoming his friend and get to know him without confessing that you like him or telling him that you think he might be gay. Genuinely earn his trust. If he is into guys and he ends up being into you, it will happen naturally. Or, as you get to know him, you may realize you don't like him as much as you thought. Or, you could realize you like him even more and he could turn out to actually be straight and your heart gets broken. You're choosing the challenging path here, just keep that in mind. It's going to take a lot of patience and has only a small chance of working out the way you want it to. If you're willing to accept the low odds and the risk of possibly being disappointed, then go for it.
     
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    I have a great idea. Tell him there is A WOMAN LIKE YOU BUT YOU DONT LIKE HER.
    ASK HIM TO MAKE YOU ARE A GAY COUPLE.
    HOPE YOU LUCK ;-)
     
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