How to talk to my roommate about being a nudist?

[FLguy97]

Hey everyone, I’m a mostly gay man and a practicing nudist. For me, nudism isn’t about sex — it’s about comfort, freedom, and feeling at home in my body. I recently started renting out the spare bedroom in my house to a straight guy. He’s chill and we get along well, but I haven’t brought up my nudism yet.

I’m trying to figure out how (or if) I should talk to him about being nude around the house sometimes. I’m very conscious of not wanting to make him uncomfortable or seem like I’m pushing any sexual boundaries — because I’m not. I just want to feel free in my own home.

For any straight guys out there (or anyone with insight), how would you feel if your gay roommate mentioned this to you? What’s a respectful, non-threatening way to approach the subject?

Appreciate any honest feedback or advice!

 

[Clrwtrdlbud71-fl]

Might be awkward to start with a sitdoen yalk about that, maybe ease into it: start hanging out shirtless, see if he corresponds or comments and that opens a casual conversation?

 

[chrisrobin]

Its really something you should have brought up when he began to rent the space. Put yourself in his shoes, how would you feel.

 

[Nudelife]

Hey everyone, I’m a mostly gay man and a practicing nudist. For me, nudism isn’t about sex — it’s about comfort, freedom, and feeling at home in my body. I recently started renting out the spare bedroom in my house to a straight guy. He’s chill and we get along well, but I haven’t brought up my nudism yet.

I’m trying to figure out how (or if) I should talk to him about being nude around the house sometimes. I’m very conscious of not wanting to make him uncomfortable or seem like I’m pushing any sexual boundaries — because I’m not. I just want to feel free in my own home.

For any straight guys out there (or anyone with insight), how would you feel if your gay roommate mentioned this to you? What’s a respectful, non-threatening way to approach the subject?

Appreciate any honest feedback or advice!

Just say it. You may shocked and he might fancy going nude himself

 

[BGK]

OK so straight question do you find your housemate/lodger attractive? If you do then maybe consider this in terms of being naked becoming sexual for you if he was to also go naked, or even just you being naked around him, dressed, may sexualise things for you.

I am fully confident naked and have lived in a shared house where we had naked days where everyone was naked all of that day. It wasn’t sexual but it also wasn’t not.

5 lads naked around each other naturally noticed and commented on each other, and talked about porn, people you fancied, and so there was always an element of sexualisation. It was fine because it was something that we were all happy with.

But be careful as your situation isn’t equal, it’s your house that you rent a room to him in, so power lies with you.

I think find a way to casually talk about nudism as an interest and see where that goes. If he shuts it down then it may be difficult for you to be naked without driving him out.

There’s no one way or right way, so think about how important it it is to you, and if he were to leave would you be OK with that?

 

[NakedBuddy]

You probably should have discussed it up front before living with him. Having said that, I wouldn't "have a discussion" about it. I had several roommates from college through about age 30, and nudity just wasn't a big deal. I'd get out of the shower, towel off, then walk nude to my bedroom to change, sometimes stopping to chat with my roommate. Or, I'd get up in the morning, walk nude to the bathroom, then to the kitchen to make some coffee. It was never an issue with any of my roommates, and each one would follow suit. So, give it a try and see how he reacts. If there's no reaction, gradually extend your nude time. If he raises the issue, just tell him that you find not wearing clothing to be really comfortable and suggest he give it a try.

I'm thinking that raising the topic with him before hand makes it a bigger deal than it really is. When someone says, "Can we talk?", almost nothing good follows. So, when people hear that, they're automatically on red alert for a difficult conversation. It just makes it too big a deal. So, I say, just start being nude occasionally and briefly. If you don't make it a big deal, and you're totally relaxed about it, he's likely to see it as a non-issue, and he might start doing the same.

 

[Morris Border Beltane]

Hey everyone, I’m a mostly gay man and a practicing nudist. For me, nudism isn’t about sex — it’s about comfort, freedom, and feeling at home in my body. I recently started renting out the spare bedroom in my house to a straight guy. He’s chill and we get along well, but I haven’t brought up my nudism yet.

I’m trying to figure out how (or if) I should talk to him about being nude around the house sometimes. I’m very conscious of not wanting to make him uncomfortable or seem like I’m pushing any sexual boundaries — because I’m not. I just want to feel free in my own home.

For any straight guys out there (or anyone with insight), how would you feel if your gay roommate mentioned this to you? What’s a respectful, non-threatening way to approach the subject?

Appreciate any honest feedback or advice!

You say "I just want to feel free in my own home." Ok but so would he want to feel comfortable because it is his home while paying rent. The time for that discussion should have been during the interview with him about renting the room. Now he might feel obliged to accept your nudism because you are his landlord, even if it does make him feel awkward. Save your nudism for the beach.

 

[dinkimike]

Start complimenting him on how nice his body looks and what a shame it is to always cover it up even if it's not exactly true it's always nice to hear

 

[glebshreb2020]

Flguy you should keep us updated on how this works out with your roomate!