has anyone here had their husbands come out as bisexual? How did that affect your marriage?
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He didn't come out. I found out he was cheating on me with a man. It was just one of many reasons I left his ass.
One boyfriend. It ended the relationship. He cheated. He wanted cock and I didn’t have one.
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How is this a women’s issue? Two men can have a partner come out as bi and affect the relationship.
I thought that as well, but 99.9% of the time, nothing comes of saying anything :/
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I don't see anything wrong with this being explored as a women's issue. Unlike some other threads, at least this can be an issue with an impact on women.
I have an ex who I'm pretty sure is going to cheat on his wife with a man at some point. He's told me about his curiosity.
The man I married isn't ready to say so out loud, but he's not attracted to women at all. He's told me he's identifying now as pansexual. That conflicts with his behavior. He isn't attracted to women. When I realized this, I asked for a divorce. In the future, if a man tells me he is anything other than heterosexual, he's not for me.
I have an ex who I'm pretty sure is going to cheat on his wife with a man at some point. He's told me about his curiosity.
The man I married isn't ready to say so out loud, but he's not attracted to women at all. He's told me he's identifying now as pansexual. That conflicts with his behavior. He isn't attracted to women. When I realized this, I asked for a divorce. In the future, if a man tells me he is anything other than heterosexual, he's not for me.
Not saying it’s a woman’s issue. Just asking for a woman’s perspective.
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The question was directed at women, referencing their experiences with bisexual partners. How on Earth can you rationally respond to that with an unwanted and unsolicited exposition of your own orientation?
I know I shouldn't be surprised, but sometimes I just give up.
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This is why it should have been in AAW.
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I think the discovery of adultery of one spouse by the other spouse is traumatic, irrespective of gender, sexual identification or orientation.
I'm open and out to my wife, we haven't explored that realm of sex yet, but she has gotten into it some. I think it's gonna be fun.
My first wife came out and diagnosed Bi-Polar................does that count? 
Not quite Bi-sexual....although if you understand Phsycotic illnesses...................
Very interesting times.........although my son from that marriage says she was eventually diagnosed with schizophrenia.
Looong story...and not worth placing into words. At times myself I think back...don't know whether to laugh, cry or just wish it never happened....anyway, it all moves on...and as I said, some stories get so involved, it just becomes to complicated to explain.
It has a happy ending :..It had a happy if somewhat tumultuous beginning....although I think lust played a part.
I love life.......it deals good, bad, sometimes very good, sometimes very shit................see it through to the end. Never cut it short. For at the last moment, like life does.......... something might just change your perspective of how you see things.
Not quite Bi-sexual....although if you understand Phsycotic illnesses...................Very interesting times.........although my son from that marriage says she was eventually diagnosed with schizophrenia.
Looong story...and not worth placing into words. At times myself I think back...don't know whether to laugh, cry or just wish it never happened....anyway, it all moves on...and as I said, some stories get so involved, it just becomes to complicated to explain.
It has a happy ending :
..It had a happy if somewhat tumultuous beginning....although I think lust played a part. I love life.......it deals good, bad, sometimes very good, sometimes very shit................see it through to the end. Never cut it short. For at the last moment, like life does.......... something might just change your perspective of how you see things.
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From a gay man: my first long term boyfriend cheated on me with a woman and now they're married. He was pansexual but honestly now knowing more - if my partner who I loved came out as bi and wanted a woman, I wouldn't stop him.
It would a bit of a shock. Would first lay down solid partner to partner ground rules. But who am I to stop the desires but I've also had some bi tendencies as well. Maybe we could meet some middle ground. I'm also more open when it comes to sexual only partners.
I think this maybe more suitable in the ask bi section.
Dated many bi guys all of whom where pretty straight forward about monogamy. They were actually the more committed once in my dating past which surprised me.
It would a bit of a shock. Would first lay down solid partner to partner ground rules. But who am I to stop the desires but I've also had some bi tendencies as well. Maybe we could meet some middle ground. I'm also more open when it comes to sexual only partners.
I think this maybe more suitable in the ask bi section.
Dated many bi guys all of whom where pretty straight forward about monogamy. They were actually the more committed once in my dating past which surprised me.
Where'd your cookie go?
AE will probably crucify me for this..........she is a believer of truth, will stand for righteous no matter what. Will battle to the death against evil. She has chastened me more than once or twice...no, we never always agreed, but I think somewhere we share a bond of what might be or may. I have never asked what her weaknesses be, I know what her strengths are.
Which is good enough for me.
I would treat my husband coming out as a bisexual the same way I would if he said he had wanted to act on sexual desires for another woman.
I'd tell him go for it! And keep going.
I don't share well with others. I'm pretty selfish that way. It's one of the main things we promised each other.
I'm not stupid in thinking he's never had sexual thoughts about others. Hell, so have I, but I've never once been tempted to act on them.
I'd tell him go for it! And keep going.
I don't share well with others. I'm pretty selfish that way. It's one of the main things we promised each other.
I'm not stupid in thinking he's never had sexual thoughts about others. Hell, so have I, but I've never once been tempted to act on them.
Sounds very similar to what my Mrs would suggest i do.Similar threads
