I am confused about my sexual orrientation...

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As you might see my sexual orrientation stands at 50% straight & 50% gay.
I really can't figure out what my sexual orrientation is, I need help.
I get turned on by guys, mostly. Girls a little bit less.
But then again, I really do have a feeling that I want to start my own family, to have kids, to snuggle and protect a woman. Idk, but for some reason I feel... Happy whenever i think about it?

I really am a confused mess
 
You're thinking too hard. Don't worry about it. Let what happens happen.

Judging by your photos (which, by the way, wow), you're young. You shouldn't be in any rush to define yourself. Enjoy your life free of labels and expectations.

Have you considered the possibility that you could start a family with a man just as well as with a woman?
 
I have considered about having a family with a man but Idk... It's just different from it being with a woman...
 
So, is the confusion about your sexual orientation, ie. 'am I straight or am I gay?', or is it about 'I fancy both sexes, why can't I have both?'.


So, regarding your orientation: You are bisexual. You might eventually settle down with a girl and start a family. In the meantime have fun and be careful.

I'm happily married, but it doesn't stop me from being attracted to other women. (I don't think it's really any different to being happily married and being attracted to other women and men.) I sometimes find it 'confusing' when I come across someone I really fancy and know I mustn't. I just mustn't!
 
I feel exactly the same as you haha.. It sucks cuz ik I'm more turned on by men but I honestly think I would be happier with a woman.. And I cnt really c myself happy being with a guy longterm
 
Riven650 said:
So, is the confusion about your sexual orientation, ie. 'am I straight or am I gay?', or is it about 'I fancy both sexes, why can't I have both?'.


So, regarding your orientation: You are bisexual. You might eventually settle down with a girl and start a family. In the meantime have fun and be careful.

I'm happily married, but it doesn't stop me from being attracted to other women. (I don't think it's really any different to being happily married and being attracted to other women and men.) I sometimes find it 'confusing' when I come across someone I really fancy and know I mustn't. I just mustn't!
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You have a point...
Thanks, dude!
 
My advise to you is do not rush to put a moniker on yourself. Sexuality is a dynamic thing..over the course of ones life, your tastes and attractions will change. Bank on that. I was married for nine years to a wonderful woman and we have two great kids...even tho we are not married now, she is my best friend. The key is to be honest with people (M or F) about your orientation.
 
Yeah, I would put the word CONFUSION on the back burner. Focus on getting your life in order and set up so that you can have that family life (regardless of male or female partner). Get to school, do well, train for a good job and enjoy life. Have a variety of interests and curiosities about life..not just about sexuality. Funny how when we focus on other aspects of life that the CONFUSION we feel about our sexuality and our vocation in life seems to sort of be put in proper perspective. Enjoy your youth...prepare for adulthood and family...
 
coachreffn said:
Yeah, I would put the word CONFUSION on the back burner. Focus on getting your life in order and set up so that you can have that family life (regardless of male or female partner). Get to school, do well, train for a good job and enjoy life. Have a variety of interests and curiosities about life..not just about sexuality. Funny how when we focus on other aspects of life that the CONFUSION we feel about our sexuality and our vocation in life seems to sort of be put in proper perspective. Enjoy your youth...prepare for adulthood and family...
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I should prepare for that stage of my life...
Thanks man for the advice, I appreciate it.
 
Question, where you ever sexually abused? Just wondering...trying to figure something out.

But it's normal to feel that way. It's like how straight guys say "I love my wife, but I got this cold one on the side...". Sexually, having sex with another guy can be much different than with a woman. I think guys tend to be more raw, so there isn't a lot you can't do. A guy might take your load in his mouth faster than a woman because he doesn't tie emotions to sex.

You know, the Greeks did this. I like women emotionally, too. They are compassionate in a way that men can't be. I want to take care of a woman. Sure, you can do that with a guy but it's different. There is NO SUBSTITUTE for having your seed growing inside a woman.
 
In my time all of us young guys were programmed to think of ourselves as "regular guys" and we had some idea of what regular guys did. When two "regular guys". the new guy in town and myself, bonded as friends we found ourselves becoming more than just friends. That's when the sex happened and we found it to be one of the best things to come into our lives.

But, when he was away the summer after ouf junor year, we were both free to be attentive to the girls. I was absolutely enchanted by a summer of getting up close and very intimate with a girl I had known all my life. I assumed my discovery was also something regular guys did.

I still think of myself as a "regular guy" and am grateful that I have tasted of the joys of sexual relationship on both sides of my sexualtiy. I have had few partners in sex (three males and three females) but when I met the woman who has been my wife for many years I seemed to know somehow that this was the one person I was eager and willing to spend the rest of my life with. Fortunately, she was similarly minded toward me.

Be prepared for the boons that come into your life. I have a hunch that you, like a lot of us bi fellows, will make your choice when that special person comes into your life.
 
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I once shared these same concerns about a long term male-male relationship, and then I woke up one morning and realized that I'd been in a committed relationship with the same man for thirty one years. I wonder how THAT happened? :smile:
 
This may sound pat, but you might think about eventually settling down with a bisexual woman who understands your attractions and who wants a family too.
 
Sexual orientation is on a continuum, from 100% straight to 100% gay, with few of us at either extreme. In truth, most of us are at least a little "bisexual". Don't be quick to fasten one of these labels on yourself, and don't allow labels to control your behavior. It takes some people until they're fifty before they figure it all out.
 
your just daze and confuse that's why there is a middle. Its called Bi.. :p
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Most call it Bi I call it human. I don't care how straight a man claims to be he can never escape from his cock and all the pleasure it has to offer.
 
I haven't read through all of the replies though I'm sure a lot of them are interesting.. I'd just like to touch on the 'family' aspect of it because I'm sure a lot of people feel that way too (I don't believe I'm one of them).

I think that partly, it's upbringing, society and your mentality.. maybe you're seeking something that will bring you comfort and thinking of a mom or a dad or hell, every single couple you see when you turn on your tv or go online (*let's face it, gay couples on the big screen are a rarity) are a male and a female.. i think you oughta give it more thought as to why it is that you feel that you need that in order to be happy.. is it just automatic thinking or is it something you want?

never would i suggest creating a family solely out of fear. there are lots of responsibilities that come along with it so just the same, never avoid making one either just because of fear..

you need to be truthful with yourself.. and if all else fails, there are polyamorous relationships and some of those go quite well.
 
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