I Have Decided To Get A Wife From The Philippines
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I think that being in a relationship can definitely have potential benefits as well as potential problems.
Like others have said, be very careful to not be taken advantage of.
Having once been married to a part Philippina woman, I find that they can be nurturing, and also quite sexual.
Expound upon this. What exactly exists overseas that doesn't exist in 10s of millions of women stateside? Im not trying to drag you down but i always reserve judgement for those that actively seek overseas relationships as opposed to happening upon them. The only think i can come up with would be leverage and im wondering just how ok you are with that, going into a relationship that may bear life at some point. God forbid ypu have a daughter, are you looking for that the be the archetype of love and affection she looks for?
I dunno I've always considered the dating advantage of the US, and to a lesser extent the Western World is that by means of emigration there are literally all of the preferences and choices one could have in a partner available within our shores...so beyond fetishism/exoticsm and or trying to make a power play im failing to see the motivation...Or better yet why bring a woman here to a culture that obviously isn't serving your needs, why not go overseas to imbibe yourself in a locale or culture that is more compatible with the love life you seek?
It is less that it doesn't exist and more that I can't get it. She is an attractive 26 year old. I am an ugly 35 year old, with a balding head and gut. I don't have the social skills or money to get a woman like her here.
As it stands I have two options besides her. One is as young as her and would be able to have children, but I don't find her physically attractive at all. The other is physically attractive and we get along great, but she is sterile and can't have children. Every woman I've dated has been like that. There has been at least one glaring flaw that makes the relationship unworkable.
I somewhat understand but even you seemed to gloss over something there, "Every woman you've dated" which tells your supposedly so non overcomeable baldness and gut has at least attracted attractive women that happen to be sterile or supposedly unattractive fertile ones. Your supposed repository of data that supposed to illustrate your failure in the dating is actually indicative of a mildly successful dater whom simply wants to use a shortcut in getting what he may already have under his nose.
I only say this because Americanization and westernization are real things that affect all manner of immigrants that come here, and unless you plan to be an abusive fuck and shield her eyes from the world the very things you seem to think are what prevents you from attaining a relationship stateside will become painfully evident to her and no amount of generosity on your end is going to stop her from exercising the same discretion you seem to be so afraid of, because lets face it, all she has to do is discover "OnlyFans" for Instagram to be financially independent from you, and she's a DM away from having a place to stay...which leaves you in the exact same position as before except probably now with a butthurt and petty motivation to get her deported.
You need to come to terms with what it is you actually want: a relationship with a competent woman, or one with what amounts to an indentured daughter figure, that only barely escapes incestuous consideration because of a lack of shared blood.
I wish I had what I wanted under my nose. I just don't. I am close, but not there. I am just not good enough. I need to use my nationality as an enhancer if I want to get a beautiful woman. I just do.
I am worried about being used, but I have no intention of keeping her hidden away from the world or abusing her in any way. If she decides to leave me after reaching the US that will be her decision and my fault for being tricked. As I wrote before, I'm going to go into this being honest and fair to her. If that blows up in my face, well it will blow up in my face. In the end it will be about the same as what would happen if I married someone from the US, IMO.
Lets not mince words. "Enhancer" would be appropriate if your plans were to hit up successful single Filipinas whose businesses have branches in the U.S. and thus would be willing to relocate here in hopes of pursuing a relationship with you. What you are trying to use is leverage which is only a couple of degress South of coercion.
I only say this to implore to you to simply be honest and all the way forthcoming with what you're actually proposing even if that isnt the sentiment you're seeking...but if the proposal is unacceptable then perhaps your approach and actions need to change accordingly to align with the relationship you're ultimately seeking.
I disagree. I am not using leverage or coercion. That would mean that I'm making someone do something they don't want to do. I'm not doing that at all. There is no force involved here. I didn't go up to her and say, "show interest in me or else!"
My nationality probably makes me attractive to her for a variety of reasons. I've never been to the Philippines or dated a Filipino, but I did spend most of adult life in Asia and can tell you that being an American is attractive to some Asian women for reasons that have nothing to do with a green card or wanting to have a better life. Did you ever read my thread about the woman I tried to marry? It was years ago. She was from Japan, a rich country, and we dated while I lived there. Before moving back to the states, we met again and threw around the idea of us getting married and her living with me in the US. She was from a rich country and had a good job. Would marrying an American lead to a better life? No. Some women just like "exotic" men. Some women have an interest in a foreign culture and want to date men from that culture. Sometimes it is a status symbol among their friends. There are lots of things that go into an international relationship. So I think to call my nationality leverage is unfair.
So why not go there to live and find a mate if your nationality is such a draw?
Oh and finding a relatively successful Japanese woman interested in you and considering a lateral or negative move in lifestyle to make the relationship a reality is a strong indicator that you'd really have no problem doing the same stateside, free of the icky stigma your chosen path is fraught with
I could easily go there and find a woman, however I don't want to live in the Philippines. I'm sure it is a great place, but I'm done living abroad now and want to settle down in the USA.
That was only due to the appeal of being foreign. If she had been an American woman she wouldn't have given me the time of day.
They were a great couple. She was an unrepentant gold digger and he was a secretly broke drug dealer.
Stuff like that is why people love reality TV
I guarantee if you screenshotted this and sent it to her she definitely wouldn't give you the time of day now.
You've already alluded to American women giving you the time of day previously, so bullshit. What, you think some inherent biochemical mechanism working within attractive infertile women is what your problem was here? Or that the only fertile ones that are interested in you will be unattractive?
You're speaking to lazy....a lazy pursuit of someone that I dont think you're going to be all that forthcoming about it
Would she? I don't know. When we first met she said she wanted an international marriage. So she might agree.
I can't attract the kind of woman I want because I am a low value man. That is my problem.
I don't get the last bit. I won't be forthcoming to her or to myself?
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