Incessant Talking

[1225108]

Sorry for the long texts.

I shared my experience and that of my niece as real life examples of how treatment can help. Medication isn't the only option. The degree to which one's life is impaired should dictate what level of treatment is needed.

In my case I knew I had an issue but not why. I sought help and my family and friends were happy I did so. I admit you can't help those who feel they don't need help. It seems the OP is telling his partner that he needs help and it's reached a point where the OP is ready to walk.

People close to me were starting to avoid me and my relationships and productivty at work were suffering. In time I admitted to myself that I needed professional help.

For a decade now medication combined with other means to manage my condition has helped me and at least personally I've had no ill effects once on the right medication and dosage. I agree not all cases warrant medication. Still it's there for those who need it and choose to use it.

No apologie necessary and all is Cool. Thanks for the extra space. And it's great your post is nuanced.

Let's hope these guys will be able to work it out. I'm a romantic at heart, very deep at heart but still I don't like it when people in love feel they need to separate.

 

[Dave NoCal]

Friends this is a very real issue, I'm sure not only to me. I've been in a relationship for about a year with a great guy who loves me, no doubt. We're not kids anymore and he assures me he's never loved anyone like he loves me. I didn't think I'd find love again and in him I have. There is this one huge problem, he talks incessantly. It seems if he is awake he thinks words have to be coming out of his mouth. Even though I love him very much, quite honestly, it drives me insane. If he has a story to tell, even a lengthy one, it is not just that. Every possible molecule of information he can possible think of is shared and even more than that if he can think of it. He says this trait runs in his family and he was born with it. He knows he has this problem but can't control it. He knows it grates on my nerves. To me it is sheer torture. It is like anything else constant, that is a distraction or irritation to anyone. It is worst while talking on the phone. I stopped him once and told him he'd been talking constant for 23 minutes and I'd said "yeah" three times. He is nearly powerless to stop this. He told me once (about someone else) this is a mental disorder of the mind. He doesn't think he is as bad as someone else, even though that doesn't matter. I've considered breaking it off with him because I literally can't stand the thought of having to bear it for the rest of my life, as we are talking about getting married.

Does anyone out there have an experience like this? I wouldn't mind hearing your story, but more so hearing if anyone knows if there are meds that can control this type of disorder. It seems to me what he needs is something to slow his brain down. His brain and thoughts run 100 miles per hour at all times. He needs help and I don't want to lose him.

But, I can't take it much longer. In truth there is no way I can describe what an epic problem this is for me.

Okay, I have several questions. First of all how is his attention span? Can he read a book? Does he finish tasks?Does his talking veer off on tangents (circumstantiality)? Does this staying late include excessive caffeine consumption. If the answers to most of these questions is "no," the situation is suggestive of ADD, which often runs in families. It can really cause impairment. I knew a young man who talked like a graduate student but had never read three consecutive paragraph. He went on Adderal by prescription from a psychiatrist and, voila" he could read books, finish projects. and sleep. He never was hyperverbal. IF this adds up, maybe you can get a book on living with someone who had adult ADD

 

[223790]

There’s a guy like this at my gym. He doesn’t shut up for one second from the moment he enters until the moment he leaves, and he drives everyone around him crazy. I intentionally ignore him, so he won’t talk to me. I know that if I indulge him for one second in a conversation, it will never end. I’ve actually heard guys tell him to shut up straight to his face. His wife divorced him and moved across the country. I can’t say that I blame her. I couldn’t imagine being around someone like that all of the time, and I’m a guy that likes to talk! I have often wondered what is wrong with this guy at my gym. I’ve watched him literally follow people around the gym and into the parking lot talking their ears off.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

Cannabis derived CBD?

 

[bravesoldier]

Sounds like a mental or emotional issue.
Since you have discussed it with him, do it again. Stress that you find it offensive and a big problem.
Make an appointment with his doctor and go with him to help explain the problem.
Medications or a referral to another medical specialist is past due.
Please explore all avenues before throwing in the towel.
Some people just need a little medical attention and would be fine.
(I speak from experience - my own!!)

I have thought of your suggestion many times. Thanks for the heartfelt advice!

 

[HorseHung40's]

I attended an underwear party several years ago. One of the other men there was the queeny man, who would not shut up. Finally, in a huff, he said, "Doesn't anyone have the slightest interest in my stories?" We were all silent.

Then I stood up, dropped my pants, and, waved my dick at him.

Everyone laughed. He left. The evening was so much nicer after he did.

 

[bravesoldier]

I attended an underwear party several years ago. One of the other men there was the queeny man, who would not shut up. Finally, in a huff, he said, "Doesn't anyone have the slightest interest in my stories?" We were all silent.

Then I stood up, dropped my pants, and, waved my dick at him.

Everyone laughed. He left. The evening was so much nicer after he did.

Yep, they just don't get it. Like my bf said about a member of his family who talks too much; it is a disorder of the mind. Talking too much is their norm and obviously they think every lingering, molecule splitting, hair splitting word that comes out of their mouth falls on hungry ears. My bf has no idea what a turn off it is. I walked out on him in a bar the other night when he turned to a total stranger next to us and with his back turned to me talked constantly the stranger for about 15 minutes straight. My bf's only hope is if and when HE realizes he's got a problem. He suggested meds for his family member but I don't think he thinks he needs them. He does. If he only knew what a turn off he is because of this one thing. Other than this he's a cool guy. Bad thing is the mouth is a deal breaker.

 

[HorseHung40's]

Yep, they just don't get it. Like my bf said about a member of his family who talks too much; it is a disorder of the mind. Talking too much is their norm and obviously they think every lingering, molecule splitting, hair splitting word that comes out of their mouth falls on hungry ears. My bf has no idea what a turn off it is. I walked out on him in a bar the other night when he turned to a total stranger next to us and with his back turned to me talked constantly the stranger for about 15 minutes straight. My bf's only hope is if and when HE realizes he's got a problem. He suggested meds for his family member but I don't think he thinks he needs them. He does. If he only knew what a turn off he is because of this one thing. Other than this he's a cool guy. Bad thing is the mouth is a deal breaker.

I wish you all the luck.

 

[HorseHung40's]

Yep, they just don't get it. Like my bf said about a member of his family who talks too much; it is a disorder of the mind. Talking too much is their norm and obviously they think every lingering, molecule splitting, hair splitting word that comes out of their mouth falls on hungry ears. My bf has no idea what a turn off it is. I walked out on him in a bar the other night when he turned to a total stranger next to us and with his back turned to me talked constantly the stranger for about 15 minutes straight. My bf's only hope is if and when HE realizes he's got a problem. He suggested meds for his family member but I don't think he thinks he needs them. He does. If he only knew what a turn off he is because of this one thing. Other than this he's a cool guy. Bad thing is the mouth is a deal breaker.

I wish you all the luck.

 

[innowhere]

Not to diagnose him, he may talk to someone about anxiety disorder. He may not “feel”
anxious in a traditional sense if he learned to cope with it at a young age.